Help, How To Avoid Trouble While Keeping Integrity

Cerisa

Ignore the abuser, but leave your son with a partner/babysitter.

If people ask questions, well let them. You don't have to explain yourself.

essexgal

Cerisa wrote: »

leave your son with a partner/babysitter.

ummmm, I think the son in this case is in his 30s now Cerisa..... so maybe he's a bit old for babysitters......:rotfl:

ttktp - well done for handling this extremely awkward situation in the manner that you did - not sure I could have kept as much control if it were me (so probably good job it wasn't).

Good luck to you (and your son) in the future, and may the abuser get all that he truly deserves, whether it's punishment or help or whatever.

essexgal

tryingtokeepthepeace

I haven't been around for a day or two, but felt I had to come back and say it again.

Thank you all so much, for your support, suggestions, links and the food for thought.


ttktp

shadowspy24

Has the funeral happened yet? if so, what happened?

poet123

See post 57

ailuro2

ttktp - I hope you feel better now the funeral is over - follow your son's lead in what he wants to do with regards to the abuser - he needs to weigh up the pros and cons of how much closure he can have, and how much prevention is needed to keep the abuser away from other children. Who knows what would happen once he dorpped a few hints around the family - maybe someone else will come forward and support you both? He may not be the only one.:mad:

Well done for being brave and thinking ahead, and also to your son who stood up to his abuser instead of being forced into being polite.:T

pickle

[STRIKE]If your son is attending the funeral then I would attend purely to support him (and let him know that), but you will have to not say anything as it may upset your son. If he ends up having a confrontation at least you'll be there to back him up. If your son decides not to attend then I'd either say to the family (if he's not a member) that for very personal reasons (which you can't discuss) you are not able to attend but it is in no way to do with them or their family or call in sick on the day.[/STRIKE]

Glad you managed to get through it ok.