The ultimate incentive to get debt free, can I do it by New Years?

Dinah93

My imagination will be the better of me someday!

This feels so insanely wrong, him and apparently his mother are out shopping for a gift for his parents, yet I'm not allowed to even give his mother a card! To me that's just rude!

Tete_en_l'Air

Dinah93 wrote: »

Just got a message from him, asking my opinion on a very nice present he's getting for my parents (his don't want presents from 'just' a girlfriend - could a comment be more generic and yet more cutting all at once?!) - how can he be spending time getting a present and putting thought into it, yet seem so unsure about our future?

I just noticed this post. Poor lad, we're all on here psychoanalysing his behaviour and he's out buying pressies for your parents! I'm sure 90% of this is insecurity after not seeing him for a while...

Dinah93

Cinny91 wrote: »

You really need to have a talk with him, maybe he doesn't know how he's coming across? Rich is constantly like that and I want to ring his neck most of the time.

Like when he was looking for a new job, I know now he was plodding along with it trying his best but at the time I took it quite personally that he wasn't trying hard and felt like he didn't want to try to build a bridge to a way of us being able to move in together, I saw it as something big and he just saw it as getting a new job. Mainly because I think things over too much, but I hope you get what I'm getting at?

Men don't think before they speak, but unlike women, can be so bloody thick at times they don't even notice.

Unfortunately we had the conversation this morning. I got so worked up I had him on speakerphone the whole 50min drive here so we could keep talking. Outcome was we went full circle and he's said he will come, he just won't say when and no doubt we will have the same exausting, soul destroying conversation on a weekly basis until then. But you're right, I think he hasn't really thought much further than 'well I know she doesn't want to move, but I don't either'.

Cinny91

Dinah93 wrote: »

yet I'm not allowed to even give his mother a card! To me that's just rude!

Why can't you give her a card? :undecided

saying all this, if you were to move over to Ireland, it might give you a kick to start something completely new, like the crafting job you want to start. If your were faced with trawling all over for office jobs or starting up your crafting thing, what would you pick? Once you're debt free and got some savings behind you that is. It could be a blessing in disguise.

Dinah93

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

I just noticed this post. Poor lad, we're all on here psychoanalysing his behaviour and he's out buying pressies for your parents! I'm sure 90% of this is insecurity after not seeing him for a while...

I'm even scared his mother thinks we're greedy because he is taking part in the present swapping and I'm not getting her one, irrelevant that I want to and he's said she doesn't want one from me.

I just want the basic, tesco value, fairytale. I want the man to come and sweep me off my feet, preferably on horseback (which he can do as he's a much better rider than me!), protect me from evil and unhappiness, drag me back to my magical castle and ravish me forever more. Now I can take frequent trips into the neighbouring kingdom, visit the dragons and marvel at how green it is and all that, but I need to be given the chance at the no strings fairytale first to be able to work out the details.

Tete_en_l'Air

Cinny91 wrote: »

Why can't you give her a card? :undecided

saying all this, if you were to move over to Ireland, it might give you a kick to start something completely new, like the crafting job you want to start. If your were faced with trawling all over for office jobs or starting up your crafting thing, what would you pick? Once you're debt free and got some savings behind you that is. It could be a blessing in disguise.

She's a wise old bird that Cinny! It's true, you never know! I'm off for an early finish now (funny how I'm only ever on here hwen I'm at work!), but will catch up in the morning and hope you're feeling better by then x

Dinah93

Cinny91 wrote: »

Why can't you give her a card? :undecided

saying all this, if you were to move over to Ireland, it might give you a kick to start something completely new, like the crafting job you want to start. If your were faced with trawling all over for office jobs or starting up your crafting thing, what would you pick? Once you're debt free and got some savings behind you that is. It could be a blessing in disguise.

It could, but I won't be in that financial position for a few years yet. At that point, if he hates it here then yes, that would be the plan.

She just doesn't want me to give her anything for Christmas, I see all these things as a way to become more involved in his family, I think so does she and that's exactly why girlfriends aren't allowed to be involved.

Dinah93

Gargh just got a query raised on a report for a MS job I did at the weekend, I swear if it's bad news I will be quite upset.

Cinny91

Dinah93 wrote: »

I just want the basic, tesco value, fairytale. I want the man to come and sweep me off my feet, preferably on horseback (which he can do as he's a much better rider than me!), protect me from evil and unhappiness, drag me back to my magical castle and ravish me forever more. Now I can take frequent trips into the neighbouring kingdom, visit the dragons and marvel at how green it is and all that, but I need to be given the chance at the no strings fairytale first to be able to work out the details.

According to my grandmas mills and boons collection you will have to have afew run ins until it all works out.

Dinah93

Yes but according to fairy tales by Mills & Boon then I get ravished in a very hot, sticky, monkey lovin style until he runs off with a peruvian belly dancer..... the hot sticky part better be very good to make up for the later element!