MSE Parent Club - Part 2

Lu_T

lwcus78 wrote: »

I did a hypnobirthing course and they recommended that we should prepare the perienium by massaging it from 34 weeks using evening primrose oil as that is also high in prostaglandin and can help induce labour. It was going to be my OH's job to do this massage as I couldn't reach. He kept asking me if it was normal for men to do this to their pregnant partners!:rotfl:I convinced him that it was. Anyway, baby was born 33 weeks before he got a chance. Hopefully there will be a next time!!

Was that TMI?

Not TMI for me. I tried to convince DH to do that first time around but it was a step too far for him. I managed to just reach myself. Thanks for the reminder, I'd forgotten you have to do it from 34 weeks. It's also good for discouraging tears.

Hyponobirthing sounds fab - is it too late for me to do that at 31 weeks? I keep thinking it would be great but can i find the time to research a course? Nevermind actually do it!

Becles - Imogen is exactly the same as Charlotte, has very strong opinions on what she wants to wear. She's choosing her own clothes before bedtime now and that seems to be helping with getting dressed. I do have to 'manage' the process though as she has some clothes which are suitable for nursery and playgroup (Mons,Tues & Thurs) and others that I'd prefer to keep a bit nicer. Not that DH seems to understand this difference (sorry Bruno!)

Lu_T

Krystaltips wrote: »

nad, what a shame you felt unable to mention still feeding at 1yo, despite it being a government recommendation and a completely natural thing... My sister used to tell me how wrong she thought it was feeding a baby over 6 months... I made a point of feeding Aimee in front of her as much as I could... Even when she was over 2 and we'd dropped 'out of the house' feeds... I wasn't going to let her think she was making me feel wrong or dirty for it!

Good for you Krystal! I must be lucky that no one ever made negative comments about me b/f. DH used to think it was wrong to do it when out and about but after I pointed out a few b/f mothers (which he hadn't noticed) he soon became as militant as me about my right to feed my child whenever and wherever necessary - especially when it involved his child.

I fully intend to b/f again and will do so in public if necessary without a second thought. If people were embarrassed by me feeding at home (my mate's boyf for e.g) I just said they were free to sit in the other room if they wanted. B0ggered if I'm moving!

3onitsway

Lu_T wrote: »

Good for you Krystal! I must be lucky that no one ever made negative comments about me b/f. DH used to think it was wrong to do it when out and about but after I pointed out a few b/f mothers (which he hadn't noticed) he soon became as militant as me about my right to feed my child whenever and wherever necessary - especially when it involved his child.

I fully intend to b/f again and will do so in public if necessary without a second thought. If people were embarrassed by me feeding at home (my mate's boyf for e.g) I just said they were free to sit in the other room if they wanted. B0ggered if I'm moving!

I only ever got one negative comment when I was b/f DS - almost 12 years ago :eek:. We were in a beer garden having a pub lunch in North Wales, and a 30's ish man spotted what I was doing, muttered 'disgusting' and sheilded his childrens eyes and turned them away from me! PRAT! I honestly couldn't believe it! There was not one inch of flesh on show. It made me want to whip both boobs out and slap him around the head with them. :rotfl:

I'm afraid my OH is a bit prudish about it too. Although he admits i'm very good at doing it descretely. He seems to think he's mentally scarred when he was young and saw someone feeding with full bangers on show. Also, if his dad visits, he skulks off to the kitchen/garden if I feed. I'm afraid my babies hunger is more important to me than whether i'm making someone feel uncomfortable.

My little sis asked her b/f (they're 20/21) if he was embarrassed when I'd fed Violet in his presence. He said 'did she feed her, i didn't even notice'. :T

lwcus78

Lu_T wrote: »

Hyponobirthing sounds fab - is it too late for me to do that at 31 weeks? I keep thinking it would be great but can i find the time to research a course? Nevermind actually do it!

I found it brilliant. By the end of the course I was actually looking forward to the birth. It teaches you relaxation techniques, how the body works ie the muscles work better if you are relaxed, that kind of thing. I started my course at about 26 weeks I think. You will need to find time to practice the relaxation every day.
The book is on Amazon, I would give you the link if I knew how to do it.:rolleyes: Anyway, type in hypnobirthing in amazon and its the book with the mongan method.

My freind's 3yr old is fashion concious. They avoid arguments by letting her pick out her own outfit the night before.

nadnad

i have never really hid away when feeding. just remembering one time when my 3 yr old niece was in the room and she came over all inquisitive staring at Oz feeding and then she picks my tshirt up and asks "whats he got hidden under there?" :rotfl:i think she thought he had a sweet and wasnt sharing! wee pet.

the same niece was watching while i changed Oz's nappy and she came over and shouted "he's got something between his legs that shouldnt be there"! i explained that thats what little boys have and she looked at me as if i was stupid and says "i dont think so Auntie Dean" (what she calls me) :rotfl::rotfl:

little people are so funny.

lwcus78

B/F in public, I've never done it. I just dont feel comfortable. I wish I did. I may be able to be discreet but little Sam isn't!! He's all "mmmmm" "yummm yummm"!!

Krystaltips

Lol Nad, the day I bought Aimee home from hospital I was feeding her in front of my neice who would of been about 4 at the time... She looked at me with giant eyes and just said 'she's drinking from your boob' Was really cute... Aimee's been very exposed to lots of breastfeeding images, she doesn't remember doing it herself but is very comfortable with what boobies are for...

The first time I left the house and fed in public, I went to dinner with my sister and fed Aimee at the table... Two women on the next table got up and left, I couldn't believe it really... Thought them incredibly rude... Funniest thing that ever happened though, when we went on holiday, Aimee would of been about 19m old... She fell over and hurt herself so I stuck her on the boob to quiet her down... A little old man who'd taken a shining to her came over to see if she was ok and was smiling at me going on about her having a cuddle... Then his wife told him it wasn't just any cuddle... He spent about 10mins apologising while his wife and I just laughed about it...

feelinggood_2

I avoid feeding the baby in front of anyone, too ashamed that I'm not breastfeeding. Only my Parents know that he has a bottle and a dummy. They think it is quite silly to hide it so much, but I feel so awful about it, and don't want anyone to add to how I feel!

I never thought I'd sit in my parents living room expressing, but Dad saw so many women breastfeeding when Mum was a BF Counsellor that it wasn't awkward. I've not managed to perfect the art of expressing discretely. I feel like a cow most of the time. Talking of which, I'm due to express again!

lwcus78

Feeling, you are a silly billy!!! You have got absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. You should be sooo proud of yourself for expressing all this time!!! You are a very determined, brilliant mummy xx

3onitsway

lwcus78 wrote: »

Feeling, you are a silly billy!!! You have got absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. You should be sooo proud of yourself for expressing all this time!!! You are a very determined, brilliant mummy xx

Exactly! You should be even more proud of the fact that you've got the patience to keep expressing - i'd have given up weeks ago! :T