MSE Parent Club - Part 2

redmel1621

Wow choc - a year!!! Glad you had a nice day out at flamingo land:D

MFD - I had to give Kai more water today because he was also a bit uncomfortable and hadn't pooped yesterday at all.....I have decided I am going to just give him some every other day, in the philosophy of prevention rather than cure:rotfl:

Right, well, I have decided I can't ignore it any longer and I need some advice. Luca and Jaden don't like Kai:( They have shown no interest in him at all since he was born and won't even acknowledge him. I bathed Kai tonight and called Jaden in to get him to 'help' to see if that would encourage some kind of interaction between them but he just burst in to tears and pulled away when I tried to give him a 'cuddle walk' into the bathroom. When I asked him what was wrong he just kept saying he didn't know so after a few other questions I asked him if he liked Kai he said - no!!!! but couldn't explain why!

What do I do???????????? Leave it and hope they take to him a bit more as he gets older and more able, or try to encourage them to take an active interest in him

Mel x

chocaholic110

redmel1621 wrote: »

Wow choc - a year!!! Glad you had a nice day out at flamingo land:D

MFD - I had to give Kai more water today because he was also a bit uncomfortable and hadn't pooped yesterday at all.....I have decided I am going to just give him some every other day, in the philosophy of prevention rather than cure:rotfl:

Right, well, I have decided I can't ignore it any longer and I need some advice. Luca and Jaden don't like Kai:( They have shown no interest in him at all since he was born and won't even acknowledge him. I bathed Kai tonight and called Jaden in to get him to 'help' to see if that would encourage some kind of interaction between them but he just burst in to tears and pulled away when I tried to give him a 'cuddle walk' into the bathroom. When I asked him what was wrong he just kept saying he didn't know so after a few other questions I asked him if he liked Kai he said - no!!!! but couldn't explain why!

What do I do???????????? Leave it and hope they take to him a bit more as he gets older and more able, or try to encourage them to take an active interest in him

Mel x

I wouldn't push it. I know my children are older but DS initially showed no interest at all. Once Tom started walking and doing things he is absolutely besotted by him and thinks he's the bee's knees. Also Tom thinks DS is fab and follows him all over and calls his name all day long while he's at school.

Your boys are probably just thinking Kai takes up too much of your time at the moment and it should hopefully pass.

lwcus78

How much cooled boiled water do you give your little ones ladies? Mine 6 months and I've just started weaning, he's constipated and grumpy!!
TIA
xx

redmel1621

chocaholic110 wrote: »

I wouldn't push it. I know my children are older but DS initially showed no interest at all. Once Tom started walking and doing things he is absloutely besotted by him and thinks he's the bee's knees. Also Tom thinks DS is fab and follows him all over and calls his name all day long while he's at school.

Your boys are probably just thinking Kai takes up too much of your time at the moment and it should hopefully pass.

That's what I am hoping, which is why I haven't really tried to 'force' him on them. I also thought if I did try and force the issue they may actually become resentful of him?
Thanks choc, for reinforcing my initial thoughts on the matter....it is just a little frustrating, I really hoped they would take an interest and at least smile or talk to him!!

Mel x

keelykat

I've just popped on to say my Nan sadly passed away yesterday afternoon, after the whole family went to see her (various members had fallen out over the years, including me and my brother-and we all made up realising life is too short).

I doubt I'll be coming on for a while, I have closed my facebook account as well. My mom needs me and I need to concentrate on Elliot and my marriage anyway.

So all the best to everyone, take care.

Keely. x

redmel1621

lwcus78 wrote: »

How much cooled boiled water do you give your little ones ladies? Mine 6 months and I've just started weaning, he's constipated and grumpy!!
TIA
xx

Kai only takes a little bit, say 20mls, but then he is a lot younger.. maybe you could just make up 40-50mls to begin with and just give him once a day to begin with. As you increase the food and the solidarity of the food he will need it more frequently throughout the day.

Mel x

Curious_George_2

keelykat wrote: »

I've just popped on to say my Nan sadly passed away yesterday afternoon, after the whole family went to see her (various members had fallen out over the years, including me and my brother-and we all made up realising life is too short).

I doubt I'll be coming on for a while, I have closed my facebook account as well. My mom needs me and I need to concentrate on Elliot and my marriage anyway.

So all the best to everyone, take care.

Keely. x

sorry to hear that keely. dont disapeer completely hun - keep your accounts open
you never know when you might just need to pop in and chat about complete rubbish!

take care
CG

My_Fathers_Daughter

((HUGS)) mel.

Babies aren't very interesting to little boys. To be honest at the age ours aren't very interesting to anyone other than their parents for any length of time.

Your boys have had a long time as just the 4 of you and it is bound to be hard for them to adjust.

I would just try to leave them to it and try and make sure that they are each getting a little bit of your attention just for themselves (god that is so easy to say!!).

I am sorry I can't remember the exact ages of your boys but DSS is 9 and thankfully most of the time he is quite taken with Benjamin...especially now he can make him smile... I try to make the arrival of Benjamin as un-disruptive as possible and to ease the interface between them (by acting as Benjamins 'voice' and saying nice things about his big brother) but it is easy when you only have to do it 2 days a week.

They will come around...just try not to let it upset you too much in the meantime (again - easier said than done).

MFD xxx

Edit - reading that back it doesn't help at all...I can offer more ((HUGS)) though.

ladybirdintheuk

Evening all.... exciting weekend so far - took Izzy to her first hen-do yesterday - trip on an old barge pulled by a horse First of many I'm sure! (We didn't join in with the evening bits, obviously) Lots of noisy laughter, so she didn't get much sleep during the day and slept for 8 and and a half hours last night! I'm sure that was a one off, but it was nice none-the-less!

Today we took Izzy swimming, but it was not a success. I didn't come in the water (no swim dress yet!), but helped from the side (ended up soaked anyway!). Izzy was really upset by the whole thing, so I took her back to the changing room quite quickly. We will try again during the week when it is a bit quieter I think. And in the meantime she can have some baths in the big bath with mummy:)

chocaholic110

Sorry to hear your news Keely. You know where we are when you need us. Good luck with everything!