MSE Parent Club - Part 2

Krystaltips

She was fine... She only used to go on a Tuesday morning anyway (which was hand because I was using washable nappies at the time but disposables at night... Used to leave her in her bedtime nappy until she'd done her duty on a Tuesday...) Was just one week she didn't go... She wasn't worried so neither was I really... Once I started weaning her, then she started going daily... Then she got constipated, which was awful! It was rock solid and wouldn't come out at all, She was in agony with the effort... A lot different to explosive yellow ones!

ETA, as long as it doesn't come before I've sorted the cat out!

My_Fathers_Daughter

LOL krystal - you said 9 days between FEEDS not POOPS!!

lwcus78

MFD is the poo hard? If not I dont think its an issue.
My LO used to go several times a day up til the age of about 7 weeks and then his bowel habits changed to an explosive poo every 2 or 3 days. He did ocasionally go 8 days between poos, my HV was not at all concerened by this. Breast fed babies should not have constipation (in theory). Mine was taking medication so although he was bf he had constipation (hard poos difficult to pass). We found tummy massage helped. We massaged his tummy in a clockwise motion. You can google infant massage and should bring up a link for you. Also, bicycling their legs should help too as will a warm bath as it helps them relax.
We tried him on a little prune juice and water at 3 months but it was too acidic for him so wouldn't recommend it. I would just stick to the cooled boiled water and introduce the massage if you feel that you need to.

xx

redmel1621

Thank You so much for your supportive replies. I have been running myself ragged trying to give the boys the same amount of attention as pre-Kai... and making sure his arrival has caused minimal disruption and I think I have done a fanastic job of it too, much to the detriment of my health I may add!!!!!

TBH, I think it has affected Jaden more than Luca as he always used to be the 'baby' of the family and he is only 6yrs, so he is still young, and with his problems he sometimes seems younger and I have always had to give him extra help with things.......I will continue as I am and see how it goes.....

MFD I also do the talking for Kai and giving his brothers compliments from him etc.... Kai thinks his big brothers are the coolest things since sliced bread (apparantly:))

Thanks 3, glad all went well for ickle and the twins:D

Mel x

redmel1621

Sami_Bee wrote: »

:rotfl:I spent about 5 whole minutes trying to think of a 'cool' way to put it but came up with nothing
I don't dress like a granny - honest!

spot of advice/opinion required if you will..
in the last week or so Chris has started to really emphasise that he owns stuff like saying "x is mine" "x is Christopher's" "no mummy its mine" even at one point saying "I don't share"
Anyone know if its a common phase? I've not heard of anyone else's toddler doing this and I'm a bit worried that he picked up on me saying soon he'll have to share mummy and daddy with baby :undecided I only said it once but I'm worried that he's managed to focus on it:o
Also he has started trying to shut us out and getting really distressed about it like today he spent the day and my parents and when we arrived he opened the door and sounded really excited shouting mummy and daddy but as soon as we went to step through the door he shouted No stay there but obviously we did go through the door and he burst into tears and wouldn't come near either of us for about 10 mins :eek: he did the same thing on thurdsay when Hubby came home from being away for 3 nights. I'm wondering if its his way of sort of punishing us for being away from him

Sami - It is a very common thing for toddlers to do. I used to go to a few toddler groups a week and the amount of tots that would snatch toys off others claiming it to be 'theirs' or just not sharing and hiding things behind their backs etc..... honestly it is a phase, but it is one of those phases that needs, how do I say it? 'Parental correction' or it could continue into school age...as I have seen happen!!!

Mel x

ladybirdintheuk

Oh, well done IP!! Ta for letting us know 3... I can't keep on the pregnancy club either... and I've got a cheerful and relatively undemanding baby!

Krystaltips

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

LOL krystal - you said 9 days between FEEDS not POOPS!!

Oops! Well... I knew what I meant

Lu_T

Sami_Bee wrote: »

spot of advice/opinion required if you will..
in the last week or so Chris has started to really emphasise that he owns stuff like saying "x is mine" "x is Christopher's" "no mummy its mine" even at one point saying "I don't share"
Anyone know if its a common phase? I've not heard of anyone else's toddler doing this and I'm a bit worried that he picked up on me saying soon he'll have to share mummy and daddy with baby :undecided I only said it once but I'm worried that he's managed to focus on it:o
Also he has started trying to shut us out and getting really distressed about it like today he spent the day and my parents and when we arrived he opened the door and sounded really excited shouting mummy and daddy but as soon as we went to step through the door he shouted No stay there but obviously we did go through the door and he burst into tears and wouldn't come near either of us for about 10 mins :eek: he did the same thing on thurdsay when Hubby came home from being away for 3 nights. I'm wondering if its his way of sort of punishing us for being away from him

Sami - Imogen has been through exactly this. At one point her vocabulary seemed to be reduced to only, "MINE!" and "NO!" She also appeared to hate DH, which was pretty upsetting for him. She still has phases like that, even though she's a proper Daddy's princess really.

We just made sure that we talked to her about how good it was to share, praised her (often in an OTT way) when she was good and did share, and made sure we put our foot down if it was necessary.

With the hating Daddy stuff we eventually decided she understood enough for DH to have a chat with her. So one night he helped her with some colouring and had a talk about how upset Daddy gets when she is mean or won't cuddle/kiss him or when she tells him to go away. She seemed to understand and he carried this on by bathing and putting her to bed that evening and was rewarded with lots of lovely bedtime cuddles. Now whenever it happens (and it still does, a few months on) one of us will just say that it makes us very sad when she's mean to daddy. She completely gets it and often gives him a cuddle & a kiss to say sorry.

As with most stuff, my mantra is, "It's just a phase," but we did feel Imogen's behaviour needed dealing with directly, rather than just letting it pass. Obviously you'll have to decide what's best for Christopher.

Keeley - sorry to hear your news, sending a big hug & hope you're back soon.

We are now child-free until Friday and are going out for a curry tonight :T We met my parents this afternoon, had a walk and some lunch and Imogen's gone on her 'holidays' to their house. I'm going over on Friday and will bring her back on Saturday. I'm working tomorrow and Weds, but will have Thurs to lie-in and do things I need to. I've got another chest of drawers to paint and need to see the lady I bought our real nappies from to get a lesson in making them tiny enough for a newborn.

On that note, better go take advantage of a bit of time to make myself gorgeous without Imogen putting various bits of my make-up into my pockets. Honestly, sometimes I think I should just wear a tool-belt with my make-up in it to make it easier for her...

My_Fathers_Daughter

Well after dropping DSS off today DH took me and Benjamin out for lunch Benjamin slept on the way and woke whilst we were waiting for our food (don't they always!) as I held him I felt that familiar warmth
TMI alert...
Needless to say there was plenty of it and it had also changed in texture to be a bit thicker - probably down to the formula he had on Friday.
So now I can relax and stop worrying and talking about poo all the time


Lu - enjoy your child-free days

Curious_George_2

i know im a bit late to the party...but i do so hate to muiss a poo conversation (lol)
My DD only used to poo once a week, and DS was that way for a while too (mind you he also went through phases of pooin in EVERY nappy)

one person will tell you that you should be concerned and another will tell you all is fine... only you know if it feels wrong IYSWIM