MSE Parent Club - Part 2

nadnad

wow that was a long post!! sorry people!

[Deleted User]

A fantastic post though!!

chocaholic110

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nadnad wrote: »

i bought both books when i was very stressed when Oz was waking every hour from 7pm right through the night, and to be honest if they taught me anything it was that every child is different and different routines / habits whatever work at varying degrees for each child.

Don't let anyone ever tell you what is best for your child - you know best,

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As the Mam of two great sleepers then one poor one I wholeheartedly agree with this.

Plus, make the most of it while your babies are little and want cuddles and to be with you. Once they reach a certain age their friends are much more appealing to them. If we didn't have Tom, OH and I would be practically childless. Both our older two have far better social lives than we have. (Hang on, come to think of it, Tom has too!)

Krystaltips

Brilliant post nadnad, thank you.

The best piece of advice anyone ever gave me when Aimee was born was 'if it's not a problem for you... Then it's not a problem' That's my life mantra now... Along with 'In the grand scheme of things, this is 5 minutes'

Savvy_Sue

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Maybe the news of a poss no.3 might be enough to make him get his bum in gear.

:rotfl: Certainly having it done while you're pregnant would save all the worries of whether he's firing live rounds or not ...

My DH was too much of a wimp, so I had my tubes tied. It wasn't that bad, although I did need a night in hospital because I reacted badly to the GA. If he thought you were thinking of doing that, would he do the noble thing and get himself snipped?

Agutka

Big hugsies to ella and bailey.

HELP! I was so worried last night, that he may have some sort of mental problem :rolleyes:. Joseph is an angry little man. He can be lovely, he can have normal expected tantrums, but he also has an extremely short temper, hopefully he will grow out of this. But last night at about 4am he was crying as usual (need to sort out this problem, he cries, I go in, find his dummy, plug and sleep), but he already had a dummy and would not be consoled. He was having a tantrum. I tried leaving him, cuddling him, putting him down, standing him up, distracting with anything, singing, but everything was met with screams and kicking and hitting and headbutts and throwing objects. Eventually I just left him in the cot and sat beside him waiting for him to calm down. Even when he did he stayed awake and staring for ages. It must have taken an hour and I was seriously doubting the normality of the situation. Please someone tell me they've experienced this before...

SeptemberBaby_2

ella_ella_ella wrote: »

Just had a phone call to say my cousin has been taken into critical care. She was taken into hospital yesterday with a suspected blood clot on the lung but is now in critical care. Her baby is only 18 days old.

Im hoping its not as bad as it sounds but thats all i know.

Oh, thats just awful!

Let us know how she gets on.

xx

Js_Other_Half

Agutka wrote: »

Big hugsies to ella and bailey.

HELP! I was so worried last night, that he may have some sort of mental problem :rolleyes:. Joseph is an angry little man. He can be lovely, he can have normal expected tantrums, but he also has an extremely short temper, hopefully he will grow out of this. But last night at about 4am he was crying as usual (need to sort out this problem, he cries, I go in, find his dummy, plug and sleep), but he already had a dummy and would not be consoled. He was having a tantrum. I tried leaving him, cuddling him, putting him down, standing him up, distracting with anything, singing, but everything was met with screams and kicking and hitting and headbutts and throwing objects. Eventually I just left him in the cot and sat beside him waiting for him to calm down. Even when he did he stayed awake and staring for ages. It must have taken an hour and I was seriously doubting the normality of the situation. Please someone tell me they've experienced this before...

Night terrors?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Night_terror

http://www.ich.ucl.ac.uk/gosh_families/advice_and_support/ask_dr_jane/n/nightmares.html

Agutka

Maybe, though he seemed to be awake... Bit young for it you'd think... Thank you.

SeptemberBaby_2

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Bailey and elle ((HUGS)) - sorry, that's about all my brain can manage at the mo...I seem to be going backwards and getting vaguer (if that is a word) by the day.

Went to doc yesterday, the doc (who was a pig last time I went to him) was nice and reassured me that it is unlikely to be anything other than the remains of my womb lining coming away...he said the HV was right to refer me but was probably being over cautious. He also said that these days it is very unusual for them to do a scrape or take any action other than to let the bleed run its course (unless it is unusually heavy).

He did feel my tummy (nothing there) and apologetically suggested an internal - I guess it is better to be safe than sorry. He brought the nurse in to chaperone (is that normal these days?) - I used to work with her husband so we had a bit of a catch up whilst he examined me and took a swab to check for infection. He said to go back if it gets heavy.

I have my post-natal check in 3 weeks so he said to mention it again then. Am I supposed to take Benjamin with me to my 6 week check?


Anyway - Benjamin is starting to show worrying signs of only sleeping if he is being cuddled and not settling for long on his own. He used to go a good 5 1/2 - 6 hours but for the last 3 or 4 days he has prob only managed 2 hours at a time on his own at night (I feed him in bed and he falls asleep in bed with me before I put him down). He's 24 days...do I need to start being firm with him now?

SB - I remember you saying that poppy and jamie are left to 'settle themselves' - does that mean that you leave them to cry?


Apologies for all the first-timer questions (and I am sure you have gone over this ground a thousand times before) but I worry that I am making a rod for my own back already.

I don't think there is a need to take Benjamin to your 6w check as its all about you. Both times I have combined my 6w with baby's 8w though for sheer convenience.

Re 'settle themselves', no, I have never left them to cry. With Poppy I would put her in her crib and sit on my bed and sing songs, so she knew I was there, and she would mostly fall asleep quite quickly. If she cried I would gently rub her chest and 'shhhhhhhh' and that calmed her. With Jamie, I put him in his crib and he plays with ted for a little while then nods off.

I would do what you are happy with. You're Mummy and you know best!

xx