MSE Parent Club - Part 2

Krystaltips

Could the one year old of been due a nap? The childminder I did work experience with used to put children down for naps in their pushchairs... She also had a small playroom but the children tended to play in other areas of the house and the garden too... Plus in all the time I was with her, she was always out and about with them, very rarely spent the day in...

Sami_Bee

Nadnad - I find it strange that she had a child in the buggy unless it was nap time
Did you take Oz with you and did he seam to like her? although sounds like you wouldn't be sending him her her :undecided
My CM was recommended to me by a family friend/ex-childminder i liked her straight away and didn't feel worried about leaving him with her at all. i supose its all about how u feel about it...
My friend sends her son to the nursery down the road from me but I wouldn't want to leave Chris there ever, he seams to like it and she's never had anything but praise for them - different stokes n all that

Curious_George_2

3onitsway wrote: »

Pity we don't have measuring devices on our boobs so we know how much they're getting!?!

i used to think that,
i had to give up when Danny went into hospital as they needed to see exactly how much milk he was having and there is no way of knowing when your BFing,
I expressed for a while but its impossible to keep that up in real life for long,
he got used to the bottle and frankly i liked having my body back after an awful pregnancy

Becles

nadnad wrote: »

Aaaaagh. how does anyone do this?!!!

Go with your instincts! If you feel worried, go and find someone else.

I don't really like paid childcare (just me, no offence to anyone ) and have always left mine with my parents. However I did some nursery mystery shopping with Charlotte and I really took to one. I think if I had to leave her in childcare, I would be happy leaving her there.

nadnad

Becles wrote: »

Go with your instincts! If you feel worried, go and find someone else.

I don't really like paid childcare (just me, no offence to anyone ) and have always left mine with my parents.

no offence taken, I'm not keen on it either! you are so lucky to have parents that can a) have the time and inclination to mind your kids and b) have the type of parents who you are happy leaving your children with.

my mum still works so she is out. and my MIL would mind Oz if we wanted her to, but we just dont want to - as some of you will remember from my previous posts her ideas of parenting and mine are polar opposites. Don't get me wrong she would have all the good will in the world but I have seen how her spoiling my niece has turned out and :eek: I do not want Oz to ever behave like that. so my only option is paid childcare or to choose not to work, which isn't for me I don't think.

everyone says to me if you can afford not to work then why do it but my answer is that my children (when i have more) will grow up and not need me so much and I don't want to be left floundering with nothing to do and no career to speak of. my ideal would be to work part time, but theres very little out there, so I may have to take what I can get. :undecided

chocaholic110

Tom stays with my Mam but I still pay her so I don't benefit that way. Plus she leaves the house a tip when she goes and won't take him to any baby groups. That's why I only went back to work part-time! I was quite lucky though that when I wanted to go back to work (well, not when I WANTED to, but when my maternity leave was up!) another colleague was also interested in jobshare.

redmel1621

nadnad wrote: »

no offence taken, I'm not keen on it either! you are so lucky to have parents that can a) have the time and inclination to mind your kids and b) have the type of parents who you are happy leaving your children with.

my mum still works so she is out. and my MIL would mind Oz if we wanted her to, but we just dont want to - as some of you will remember from my previous posts her ideas of parenting and mine are polar opposites. Don't get me wrong she would have all the good will in the world but I have seen how her spoiling my niece has turned out and :eek: I do not want Oz to ever behave like that. so my only option is paid childcare or to choose not to work, which isn't for me I don't think.

everyone says to me if you can afford not to work then why do it but my answer is that my children (when i have more) will grow up and not need me so much and I don't want to be left floundering with nothing to do and no career to speak of. my ideal would be to work part time, but theres very little out there, so I may have to take what I can get. :undecided

This is exactly my situation, although the MIL is very selfish and would probably barely remember to feed the baby, and would definitely not take him, out to child friendly places.
I do work part-time and have done for the last 6yrs (since ds2 was born) and will continue to do so as long as my boys are young. I am also studying part-time for a degree, as like you, I do not want to wake up one day and realise that my children are all grown up and I am left with nothing to do with myself.
I really do not want to think about leaving Kai, as strangely enough it has always worked out that either me or dh has been able to be with them, although I know this won't be the case this time and I will need to find a childminder or nursery. It breaks my heart thinking about it and I have 7-10mths till I have to cross that bridge!

Mel x

redmel1621

Forgot to ask

I have the health visitor coming for the first time tomorrow, what does she do? Is it mainly baby focused ie. weighing etc or does she do anything to me?

Mel x

lwcus78

redmel1621 wrote: »

Forgot to ask

I have the health visitor coming for the first time tomorrow, what does she do? Is it mainly baby focused ie. weighing etc or does she do anything to me?

Mel x

Yes, checked baby's weight. Asked a lot of Q's re feeding, poo etc. I was first time mum so I asked her few Q's. She left loads of leaflets for me to read.
x

Sami_Bee

Mel she won't touch you she might ask you some Qu's that would indicate PND depending on ur answer
As he's ur 3rd one she may assume you know everything necessary and just weigh him, I think my 1st app I also had to sign something to say I wanted my child to receive vaccinations or not