teenage son crashed into electricity pole

ArsenalFC

Many things can be a possibility. We can say smokers have a high possibility to be a drugs user; a child theft of some sweets could end up as armed robbers etc. The guy makes a habit of posting bad comments and this is the most obscene.

iolanthe07

This is an open forum. Conor has made some extremely useful posts in the past and, for example, completely changed my attitude to truck drivers, to whom I am now much more sympathetic and understanding. Getting people's posts removed just because you think they're a bit OTT (as Conor's undoubtedly was) is the thin edge of the wedge of censorship.

Incisor

ArsenalFC wrote: »

... The guy makes a habit of posting bad comments and this is the most obscene.

If that is the most obscene, then it is not worth worrying about. I doubt that his motives for posting were the best, but if we get so outraged at what he posted and remain unconcerned for the OP and her son, then that reflects worst on us.

Reminds me of the display of an Electric Chair by Amnesty I think, in an empty local shop. Loads of people were outraged to see this on display, but strangely they did not feel that much out raged that such a thing should actually be used.

jeannieblue

There could be reasons that we do not know about that made Conor so much more forthright than usual.

OP - I am sorry for you about what has happened. Personally, as a mother of two sons, I think you should let him sort this out himself. It is good for them to have responsibility for their actions. Can't bail them out or it's like you are giving him permission to behave badly and use drugs.

Its scary enough on the roads these days............

ShockingPink

I agree that you shouldn't bale him out of this one. A young lad near us crashed his car (fortunately no-one was hurt) after driving drunk when he'd rowed with his girlfriend. His mum called the police and he's now been banned for 20 months and his brand new career as a plumber is in serious jeopardy.

A lot of locals in the pub where he works part-time think she should have kept quiet, but I believe it was a harsh lesson that needed to be learnt. Better now than later...

ArsenalFC

Everyone in their right mind would condemned what the OP's son has done, which I said he was well and truely deserved his ban and high insurance renewal. He should be kept off the road for a long time for being so irresponsible and endangering others. Conor's comments were uncalled for.

One of my friend was caught drink driving and deservely got banned. He has not driven for a good few years since he has served the ban. So punishments can work for some, while some will continue to be irresponible and dangerous no matter what.

jeannieblue

ArsenalFC wrote: »

Everyone in their right mind would condemned what the OP's son has done, which I said he was well and truely deserved his ban and high insurance renewal. He should be kept off the road for a long time for being so irresponsible and endangering others. Conor's comments were uncalled for.

One of my friend was caught drink driving and deservely got banned. He has not driven for a good few years since he has served the ban. So punishments can work for some, while some will continue to be irresponible and dangerous no matter what.

And some will carry on driving and drinking and taking drugs when they are banned if it isn't nipped in the bud early enough. The lad is only seventeen - hopefully he won't go down that route if dealt with now.

I think this issue hit a nerve with Conor - we all know he can be blunt at times to say the least. But I feel in my water that there is more to this than meets the eye.

Conor_3

jeannieblue wrote: »

I think this issue hit a nerve with Conor - we all know he can be blunt at times to say the least. But I feel in my water that there is more to this than meets the eye.

Sis-in-laws OT was a junkie. Started off on the soft stuff, progressed to the hard stuff eventually. Sold everything she had including her disabled sons equipment as well as thieving off his own family. Once kicked the hell out of her when she was pregnant. Eventually ended up in Hull Prison where at least he had the decency to do the right thing and hang himself. Even his own parents in the end were relieved he was gone. If you've ever watched the film "Trainspotting", it wasn't far off.

My wifes' bosses son is a stoner. Ended up with Schizophrenia because of it and he's a real handful depending on which "John" you end up speaking with at the time.

I have no time or pity for people who do drugs and as someone who drives for a living, even less for those who drive whilst on drugs or drink because it'll be most likely one of them that results in me not going home one day.

anewman

Drug abuse isn't a funny thing, but I doubt his mother has all that much ability to change his behaviour. What were all us guys like at 17? Young uns tend to do drugs because their mates do and continue as a result of addiction/euphoria. It's up to him to stop the drugs, and if being banned from driving and the likely increased cost of insurance doesn't dissuade him, I'm not sure what can - but it's up to him to have a moment of insight and stop. I believe Conor's post was merely an attempt at providing some insight into the not so good side of drug use.

bigturnip

Conor wrote: »

Sis-in-laws OT was a junkie. Started off on the soft stuff, progressed to the hard stuff eventually. Sold everything she had including her disabled sons equipment as well as thieving off his own family. Once kicked the hell out of her when she was pregnant. Eventually ended up in Hull Prison where at least he had the decency to do the right thing and hang himself. Even his own parents in the end were relieved he was gone. If you've ever watched the film "Trainspotting", it wasn't far off.

My wifes' bosses son is a stoner. Ended up with Schizophrenia because of it and he's a real handful depending on which "John" you end up speaking with at the time.

I have no time or pity for people who do drugs and as someone who drives for a living, even less for those who drive whilst on drugs or drink because it'll be most likely one of them that results in me not going home one day.

And yet you have such contempt for disabled drivers, how have they wronged you?