Am I over reacting???

lilac_lady

I can see two scenarios regarding the gift your friend gave your daughter. Maybe she had very little money and didn't want to not give a gift or maybe she's tight. Time will tell which one is true. I'd thank her for the gift and then say that it would be better if you didn't start buying for each other's children as you both have babies and everything is so expensive now. That way the situation won't crop up again and your friendship will be fine. (as long as you let this go).

Paparika

I wouldn't worry about it, life is too short to worry about the price of a pressie or the fact it was a pressie she was given by you.

Could of been worse, she could of not bothered, she may not have money and you just don't know about it (it's not something all people share)

My aunt gave my mum a Christmas pressie that my mum gave her the year before, mum was peeved about it.

I call it recycling :T

LGDNUFC

I was just wondering, I would like to ask all the people who thought I was over reacting and think its fine to recycle gifts.....

Do you tell the person who is receiving the gift that it is a recycled or unwanted gift?? Or do you not say anything and pass it off as a gift you have bought? Because if recycling gifts is as wide spread as it seems, then surely people wouldnt have a problem letting the receiver know where the gift originated from.....

I think that is what is bothering me the most, it isnt the gift,the giving or receiving gesture, the cost, where it was bought from or anything like that, but the fact is that this person is passing it off as a gift SHE has bought, but infact someone else bought it for her....
Im not going to mention this incident to my friend but I will definately be abit more wiser for the future....
Thanks again for everyones imput...:beer:

Reggie_Rebel

Of course you are over reacting.

You are a woman who has just given birth. Tell your husband that over reacting will be par for the course from now on :-)

Nicki

LGDNUFC wrote: »

I was just wondering, I would like to ask all the people who thought I was over reacting and think its fine to recycle gifts.....

Do you tell the person who is receiving the gift that it is a recycled or unwanted gift?? Or do you not say anything and pass it off as a gift you have bought? Because if recycling gifts is as wide spread as it seems, then surely people wouldnt have a problem letting the receiver know where the gift originated from.....

I don't recycle gifts in this way, but when I give a gift, I don't tell the recipient where or how I bought it, or how much it cost. Nor has anyone ever told me this. I'm not sure why it should be different with a recycled gift.

tbh if you hadn't been there when your friend opened the gift, you'd be none the wiser. You'd have thought it was brand new and even if it wasn't to your taste you'd have been pleased by the thought, unless she had told you when handing it over that it was recycled. Given that your friend had clearly forgotten you were there when the gift was opened first time round, surely she did the right thing by not commenting when she gave it to you.

I think that your reaction is being coloured by the fact that you've just had a baby, and that your friend forgot you were there when she got the gift, because she had just had a baby. It's a funny time as you are finding out. Unless you really think this is worth losing a friend over, you need to try and put it behind you.

Dormouse

LGDNUFC wrote: »

I was just wondering, I would like to ask all the people who thought I was over reacting and think its fine to recycle gifts.....

Do you tell the person who is receiving the gift that it is a recycled or unwanted gift?? Or do you not say anything and pass it off as a gift you have bought? Because if recycling gifts is as wide spread as it seems, then surely people wouldnt have a problem letting the receiver know where the gift originated from.....

I think that is what is bothering me the most, it isnt the gift,the giving or receiving gesture, the cost, where it was bought from or anything like that, but the fact is that this person is passing it off as a gift SHE has bought, but infact someone else bought it for her....
Im not going to mention this incident to my friend but I will definately be abit more wiser for the future....
Thanks again for everyones imput...:beer:

I don't see why you should tell people the gift is recycled? I mean, if I bought a gift with, say, Boots points, or Tesco deals, or it came free with a magazine subscrption, or was free or very cheap in some other way, am I supposed to tell people too? For most people (apart from people like my Mum who really appreciates my bargains) I certainly wouldn't tell them :cool:

Can I just ask, do you not like this gift (as a gift, forgetting the whole background)? Is it not very nice? I mean, say she recycled a really posh pressie, would you still mind quite as much?

As it's not like she pretended she bought the gift, is it? It's not like she actually said, "Oh, when I bought this last week in XXX store..." so she's not pretending, is she? I don't really care about where people who give me gifts got them from (as long as they've not shoplifted them, LOL :rotfl: ), I just like getting presents

jackomdj

I do sometime recycle gifts, but only if I don't want/need the item & know someone who would like it.

With some things I would be takeing them back to the shop only to buy something similar for another person - saves the hastle of having to do the exchange etc.

I have a friend that has just had a baby & instead of buying her a single present I have given her lots of DD's old clothes. My friend lives in South Africa & I went to another friends house last night to fill the rest of her case up (she is flying over tonight) & I said to pass anything that she can't fit in/takes it over the weight limit back to me to pass on to someone else. If I had not give it to her I would have e-bayed it & got about £30-£40, so in effect she is getting a few hundred pounds worth & it has "cost" me £30-£40!!

Nicky

SeptemberBaby_2

I can see your point, OP. I would be really disappointed at the lack of effort and thought that had gone into the gift, but not the actual gift itself. After all, she had 9 months to organise something instead of whipping something out of her baby's wardrobe at the last minute! :rotfl: .

One of my good friends gave me a really small gift when my DD was born but a lady I have never met that gets the train with my sister bought a huge amount! :eek:. But honestly, it really isn't worth the stress .

I often recycle gifts that I know will be appreciated by someone else more than me BUT I know exactly who has bought me what as I make a note :cool:.

Congratulations and lots of best wishes to you and your newborn.

xx

GracieP

It could be worse. She could have given you the pressie which you gave to her.;)

Paparika

GracieP wrote: »

It could be worse. She could have given you the pressie which you gave to her.;)

she did, or am i too tired to see the joke (sorry very long day had 12 MRI scans from 7.30 this morning