Am I over reacting???

Mojisola

Please don't go down the route of "paying her back" with second-hand presents, etc. Either put this behind you and carry on with the friendship, drop the friendship or have it out with her and decide depending on her answer.

It won't do you any good if you let it niggle away at you.

Oldernotwiser

LGDNUFC wrote: »

I think Im more upset because when her baby was born I spent a small fortune, and I know you dont give to receive, but like you say I think she made no effort,so I would say I have learnt a very important lesson

I think that you were the one who was in the wrong by spending so much money on a friend's child.

r.mac_2

I can understand you feel a bit upset. I think most of us would in that position, however there could be numerous reasons for the present:

1. it could be new, and she bought it as she used the one she recieved so much.

2. she oculd have got more than one of the same thing as a present so had kept the spare to 'recycle'

3. she recycled the gift as it wasn't suitable for her baby/not to her taste/she got too many of the same size/type etc when she gave bith

4. she couldn't afford to buy you something other than a recycled present.

I'm sure the present really wasn't meant to offend you at all - rather welcome little baby to the world. don't dwell on it, and enjoy your new little girl xxx

Penny-Pincher!!

Yes I think you are over reacting!

I recycle loads of gifts each year as they are not what I want or need....I do however make a note of who bought what and make sure I dont give back to the same person.

If you dont like it-dont put your baby in it and sell it on Ebay

Maybe she doesnt have alot of money ATM and thought it would be a practical gift for the baby. It IS the thought that counts and I think she has made some effort by giving your baby a gift.

Hormones are a funny thing and make us blow things out of proportion sometimes, but dont be hard on your friend, I genuinely dont think she meant anything by it. Hope you and the baby are healthy and keeping well.

PP
xx

Love_A_Bargain

I don't think you should worry about it. Just forget about it, put that behind you and move on. Enjoy all the other gifts that you received, especially your baby girl., thats the best gift you have right now. Congrats and I do hope you enjoy being a Mother.

Loopy_Lobes

I've got lots of clothes that my baby girl didn't wear - I'm not sure I'd give them away as presents though, I'd be worried about the recipient trying to exchange it at the shop and being told it's from 2007 range and being embarrassed!

Hormones can cause havoc when you've got a new baby, also tiredness can make you even more upset about little things than you normally are so little things like this can seem really huge. In a few weeks you'll probably look back and wonder why you were so upset.

I do agree with one of the posters above though, maybe you shouldn't spend too much on other peoples gifts then you won't feel upset when it's not reciprocated. It's a cliche but it is the thought that counts.

Congratulations on your new little girl

Loopy x

vaio

I’m inclined to agree with r.mac and would add

You and OH have a new baby with all the joy and excitement that that brings, if friends come to share that is it really worth stressing about a present?

On the MSE side, your friend has a baby (hopefully also a girl) older than yours and is obviously into re-cycling so think of all the savings to be made over the next few years as out-grown clothes, toys etc get passed down to you.

All in all count your blessings, enjoy your baby and enjoy sharing with those who care enough to come and see you

Dee123_2

Oh dear, I have a wicked mind. I'm assuming she never used this item? If so, I'd be tempted to ring her up and say "Thank you sooo sooo much, I only just went to use it and found the £50 note attached to the label you put in there, how generous of you, thank you, thank you!" Meaning she missed it as a gift from whoever gave it to her.

Seriously, she might have money troubles - I'd write this one off and make sure she is a friend in other areas of your life.

jackomdj

When I had my second a friend gave us a gift which had a lable addressed to her eldest on it. It just made me laugh - especially as the season was wrong! Don't worry about it & don't alter your friendship with someone just because of it!

*Louise*

Loopy_Lobes wrote: »

I've got lots of clothes that my baby girl didn't wear - I'm not sure I'd give them away as presents though, I'd be worried about the recipient trying to exchange it at the shop and being told it's from 2007 range and being embarrassed!

Been there!!

Someone gave me a summer outfit for my little girl, but the size meant it wouldn't fit her till winter - I went to the shop to see if I could exchange for a size that would fit her only to find out it was from the Spring/Summer 2005 range!!:rotfl:

Mind you , I would have felt a bit miffed if it was a close friend who had done it.

OP - you just need to try and let it go. Maybe your friend was short of money, there's no point in asking why she did it, it will likely just embarrass you both and could be detrimental for your friendship.