Depression Support Thread

BizzyBek

ILGD - great to 'see' you again and your lovely good wishes - right back at you! Do keep popping in

Sazbo

ilovegreatdanes wrote: »

hi all.
i cant get on very much now but i just wanted you all to know how much i think of you and i really hope you are all doing the best you can.
its not my fav time of year and so the grinch in me is longing for january.
so....i just wanted to wish you all a heartfelt merry chrimbo and a healthy ,wealthy and peaceful new year.
this thread has been a lifeline to me in the past and will hopefully be still be soldiering on if and when i need its wise wisdom in future.i hope i will always be welcomed back as i have been so priviledged to know you all and to share alittle of your ups and downs and my life has been enriched becos of all of you.
i really wish you all the best, believe me.
max is driving me to distraction but i have never known such a loving dog who wants to be constantly at my side and gives me unconditional love.....just a shame he pees with excitement all the time even if you leave him for a second:) but hoping he grows out of that!!!
al my love, ilgd xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

ILGD! :j Great to see you hun xx It's funny, because you've been on my mind a lot the last few days and i've been wondering how you are, so good to hear from you. Shame you can't post as much - your humour and common sense are badly missed on here, lol - but I hope all is well with you and yours. You are welcome back any time xx

Have a wonderful christmas hun :wave:

Big hugs and much love,
Sazzy xxxxxxxx

absolutebounder

BizzyBek wrote: »

Hi folks, having a bit of difficult day - feeling unduly teary but for no reason. I do feel some of it is having been poorly and having had bouts the last 2 Christmases just the setting of decorations etc sort of triggers the mind.

Just trying to pull my socks up now - come on girl, we ain't willingly oing down that road again lol!!

This is what some people would call an anchor. the emotions involved with depression become anchored to some other event such as putting up decorations. its a bit like when you listen to certain bits of music you mind suddenly goes off to a past memory. They are not always easy to overcome either. if it is just something like putting up the decorations perhaps getting your partner to do it instead will help. Otherwise try thinking of someone or something that you really love while you do the things that bring back bad memories

BizzyBek

absolutebounder wrote: »

This is what some people would call an anchor. the emotions involved with depression become anchored to some other event such as putting up decorations. its a bit like when you listen to certain bits of music you mind suddenly goes off to a past memory. They are not always easy to overcome either. if it is just something like putting up the decorations perhaps getting your partner to do it instead will help. Otherwise try thinking of someone or something that you really love while you do the things that bring back bad memories

Thanks AB, it is more consuming as opposed to one aspect. Am trying to create new memories and remain grounded reminding myself it is just a trigger.Nice just to get on here now and then though to 'blow off steam' about it

And given some current issues on the thread I don't know if I should mention it but I got a complimentary medicine I use at Boots today, got to the till and it was 3 for 2 so I got a bargain :rotfl:

budget_budd

:mad: <---- Thats me still angry. OH is a pig.

I don't know how Im going to deal with this but I know I will get through it. Going to take some time out. Will be weird and hard as its Christmas, and for the first time in three years since the accident I was actually getting excited, now I couldn't care again. Of course we make it nice for the children but long term it won't work. I can't believe he could let me down so much. Maybe my expectations were too high.

Im taking care of me first.

I scanned through some of the posts and I don't really know whats going on but its not in the spirit of the thread. Im going to have a read probably won't make sense if posts are being removed. How do you know if your post is removed? Im not sure Id notice if one of mine went walkies.

BizzyBek

budget_budd wrote: »

Im taking care of me first.

Damn right! You may be anry but you sound strong. Hope you can see the light at the end of the Christmas tunnel!

beachbeth

absolutebounder wrote: »

This is what some people would call an anchor. the emotions involved with depression become anchored to some other event such as putting up decorations. its a bit like when you listen to certain bits of music you mind suddenly goes off to a past memory.

This is definitely what happens to me, especially since I first started to suffer with depression. If Im having a good day or I have had a couple of drinks then I can listen to music and enjoy it. However, day-to-day I find it hard to listen to it because it just makes me emotional. I can remember being in tears on the way to work in the mornings because I was listening to a cd and I didn't realise at the time that it was because I was listening to music. I now mainly listen to talk radio stations in the car or I get upset.

One of the last times I went out to a club to celebrate New Year's Eve I was sitting in tears and not enjoying the music at all in the way I usually do and I had to leave and go home. We don't go out New Year's Eve any more (or any other time) as Im frightened I will get upset again. I can go out for meals because thats different, but music is very emotional for me.

KentishLady

:hello: Hi all!!

well I have been lurking on and off since the summer - just haven't had time to post what with work and OU courses. Hope everybody's doing OK.

I passed this years courses (goodness knows how - I even somehow managed to get 74% in one of the exams!?!). So onwards to next year.

LM did you sign up in the end to do your OU course? If so I hope you enjoy it!

On a sad note last weekend we had some really bad news which has knocked me for 6. My brother-in-law sadly passed away very suddenly at only 42. We went to sit with him in the chapel of rest and put a christmas card in his coffin for him and the funeral has taken place. DH does not appear to have been affected by his loss at all - but I am struggling with it (we were very close and when we were younger the three of us house shared for a few years). We do have some wonderful memories but I can't believe he has gone.

Anyway I think that is all my news.

KL.

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