Depression Support Thread

Stephb1986_2

CCStar wrote: »

He might be older but is he mature enough? I know it is challenging to be with someone with depression issues and it takes maturity to cope. Maybe he is finding it hard to cope with it. It seems harsh that one comment would drive him to finish the relationship.

To someone who doesn't suffer depression, it can look like someone is overreacting but if he really cared about you, he wouldn't care about whether you were overreacting or not and do his level best to make it comfortable for you when you feel scared.

Stubborn people are hard work and they can be draining. Quite a lot to take when you feel low on top. Is there a pattern in his behaviour? Does he really help you?

I would write down the good and bad about your relationship, be really honest and think about the smallest things. Sometimes it can seem that the good outweighs the bad, especially when they are not there, but think, how much of the time has he made you really happy and really miserable. Which one wins?

What are you missing and what can you do without?

This happened last year that we fell out i spent most of christmas on my own and he asked me to spend new years eve with him which i did. Its hard for the both of us that I need him so much and he's not the needing type. I think he has a bit of depression himself he wont open up to me about stuff.

Im happy 95% of the time when im with him, when im without him im sad pretty much all the time, He works nights so i only see him at the weekends.

I tried to go out tonight on my own my mum knew i was up to something and stopped me

I've had enough of everything right now

budget_budd

Im home took a nice long walk and went home to me boys! Can't let them suffer cos mummy is sad.

Im not sure why I can't get things out of my head, my psychologist usually helps me with my thoughts, these ones are crazy. I spoke to my friend at work and he assures me he's fine so I don't need to worry bout him. He's a big boy he can look after himself!

Re the ring I fell in love with it last year and yes I could get a cheaper one but I do love it, and its only a bit more than a months salary although OH is gonna have to do reduced hours or be made redundant so maybe now is not the time to be spending money on sparkly diamonds. I bet its been sold now anyways! mmmm.

Im gonna now have a read and catch up with what you are all up to, hope people are doing ok.

Horasio

Stephb1986 wrote: »

This happened last year that we fell out i spent most of christmas on my own and he asked me to spend new years eve with him which i did. Its hard for the both of us that I need him so much and he's not the needing type. I think he has a bit of depression himself he wont open up to me about stuff.

Im happy 95% of the time when im with him, when im without him im sad pretty much all the time, He works nights so i only see him at the weekends.

I tried to go out tonight on my own my mum knew i was up to something and stopped me

I've had enough of everything right now

Aw, good old mama, she obviously cares and I am glad she had the intuition to know how you feel. Can you talk to her about how you feel? She will understand.

I know you can't see it now but a boyfriend who lets you stay alone over Christmas doesn't sound very nice.

I feel he might be depressed and unable to cope but not treating you properly. It sounds like you got too dependent on him.

Look after yourself, have a bath, get an early night and rest. You are in shock.

izzoh

Was wondering if anyone had some ideas on this....

A few things happened to me this year... which I have had to cope with alone and very quickly. I went to my doctors yesterday because I have a throat infection and she asked how things were going.

A got a little teary eyed because I have been keeping it all in... she suggested I see one of the psychologists/counsellors at the surgery and she has referred me to them.

I am really quite happy and jolly most of the time (I am only 22 so most people always think there is something wrong if I am not smiling!) and I am a bit worried I am going to go to this place and just waste their time.

Alot has happened in the past... and I have dealt with it in many different ways. (Spending money I dont have is one... hence why I am on here! lol) But my life has not been as bad as some peoples....

There is alot to it but don;t want to bore you with my problems....

But do you think it is worth going and talking to this woman to see if I have underlying issues?????

I hope this makes sense, I get the feeling I am waffling on a bit.

lisaloo1977

Im not a poster on this board, more a lurker.

You sounded like you were describing me a few years ago and it has spurred me to post.

You have to forget what others think and realise what might be trivial to one person, may keep another awake at night. Never think that your problems/thoughts are unworthy of time. If it is enough to bother you then it deserves to be discussed. I really hope you do go to the appointment, if only to talk and get things clear in your head.

I used to be the shiny happy person, the life and soul of the party, the person if you lined all my friends up i would never have been picked as the one who would end up depressed. (sugar coating abit there but dont want you to think you will go mad!!!) I often felt like i was in the middle and yet no one could hear me or no one could tell how i really felt. It annoyed me that my friends could not tell without me having to tell them, which i didnt i kept it all inside for ages and everyone thought i was little miss popular with nothing to worry about. people wanted to be me, and i wanted to be someone else, how bizarre is that?

I wish i had gone sooner than i did, it would have stopped alot of heartache for myself and my family. Im better now, well better than i was and in control and off meds, hence the more lurking.

I wish that this forum had been around when i was first unwell, i can see how it is a great support for the people on it.

Stephb1986_2

izzoh wrote: »

Was wondering if anyone had some ideas on this....

A few things happened to me this year... which I have had to cope with alone and very quickly. I went to my doctors yesterday because I have a throat infection and she asked how things were going.

A got a little teary eyed because I have been keeping it all in... she suggested I see one of the psychologists/counsellors at the surgery and she has referred me to them.

I am really quite happy and jolly most of the time (I am only 22 so most people always think there is something wrong if I am not smiling!) and I am a bit worried I am going to go to this place and just waste their time.

Alot has happened in the past... and I have dealt with it in many different ways. (Spending money I dont have is one... hence why I am on here! lol) But my life has not been as bad as some peoples....

There is alot to it but don;t want to bore you with my problems....

But do you think it is worth going and talking to this woman to see if I have underlying issues?????

I hope this makes sense, I get the feeling I am waffling on a bit.

I'm 22 and been feeling down for years. If you dont feel yourself please go and see someone its not wasting anyones time, its better you get seen to now rather than later

Steph xx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope all is well,welcome to anyone thats new


I am off to sleep now so I will chat tomorrow

Night! Night!

love to Steph and those that need it


love and light,

Katie xxx

Stephb1986_2

This morning I just feel sick i could go and throw up i feel that bad. Ive got an appointment later too for cbt. I still feel really down i still dont want to be here.

Welcome to all the new posters

Steph xx

Tulip

Stephb1986 wrote: »

This morning I just feel sick i could go and throw up i feel that bad. Ive got an appointment later too for cbt. I still feel really down i still dont want to be here.

Welcome to all the new posters

Steph xx

:hello: Steph,

Sorry to hear you still feel bad and feel down,Do use the Samaritans if needs be they are a good lifeline like I said yesterday,they really helped me through a bad crisis I had and now I feel better but If I feel bad then I know they are there 24/7.

lots of love and hugs,

Katie xxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Morning! hope all is well,I am fine today,seeing my church friends this morning and doing my ironing as well,what fun! :rotfl:

Have a lovely day everyone


love and light,

Katie xxx