Depression Support Thread

feelinggood_2

alba37 wrote: »

Congratulations FG! :j :j :j That was big news! When are you due?

Hi everyone :wave:

Due on 20th April! I'm 13 weeks now, and baby is 72mm! Its growing at a hell of a rate. Luckily hormones are calming down, and I'm only bursting into tears 5 times a day, compared to every minute! Still not eating well, which is a shame. Last Night I had chips, roast chicken, mushy peas and pickled egg, all covered with loads of vinegar. Delicious!

Amber_Sunshine

feelinggood wrote: »

One thing I've found, is that I'm only receptive to advice, critisism and observations from people who I know have had personal experience of things. Thats perhaps me being oversensitive, but I know it isn't an unusual thing. Its for that reason that I try not to comment on anything that I've not been through myself, and I pretty much ignore anything that isn't based on personal experience.

Personally, I'd rather have a thread called Depression: Personal experience and support.

The ex- Mr Sunshine took advice concerning me and how to handle the break-up from one of his flatmates, who he'd barely known for a month. I took exception to this as the individual in question was neither a friend nor professional counsellor/psychologist, and someone I had only met once. As far as I know, they have no experience of anxiety or depression. Personal experience gives you an insight, and I don't like being judged by people who don't know me.

feelinggood_2

Amber_Sunshine wrote: »

The ex- Mr Sunshine took advice concerning me and how to handle the break-up from one of his flatmates, who he'd barely known for a month. I took exception to this as the individual in question was neither a friend nor professional counsellor/psychologist, and someone I had only met once. As far as I know, they have no experience of anxiety or depression. Personal experience gives you an insight, and I don't like being judged by people who don't know me.

I agree with that, nothing like people who have no idea of the situation sticking thier nose in!

Luckily, I've actually got friends now (yes, really!) who have known me long enough that they can give advice without upsetting me.

LadyMorticia

I am in such a great mood.

I spoke to Sam earlier, which always cheers me up but I'm on top of the world today. Hoping I don't come crashing down as I usually do, but even if I do, I'm going to enjoy this whilst it lasts.

I'm off to tackle the cleaning in a bit.

Toodles, Noodles and Squiggly Doodles.

xx

alba37

LadyMorticia wrote: »

Welcome to the newbies. Sorry I cannot remember your names at present. I'll go back and check in a moment. I'm suffering from short term memory loss.today. lol.

Welcome back Alba. I've missed you.

I feel blurgh today. I really really need a punching bag. Not because I'm violent or anything, but because I have so much upset energy inside me that I need to get out. No idea why I'M getting upset over SOMBODY else's inconsideration.

Sam called me beautiful yesterday. Why do people lie to me?

Thanks for the welcome Anni

Pleased to see your feeling good today. Sounds like you have some good news too?? (Sam)

Diamond78

Hi,
Hope everyone is ok and well today. I wanted to ask a question. As Ive said previously, I have a lot going on, lots of things are happening at the moment,nothing good or positive. Im not feeling good and my health is getting worse. I am seeing my doctor on friday, I hate going for appointments and always forget to mention something as I feel I dont have enough time with him to tell him the things that are affecting me. Because now there are so many things, how am I going to have enough time to tell him everything? I want to write it down but feel stupid because the doctor is not there to listen to what problems I am having but each problem is what is affecting my mind, deppression and eating. I feel so S@@@. Ive been in tears for days, I hate being like this, how can I be on such a high and then dramatically come crashing down wanting to self harm myself. Its mad!!! I cant think properly, Im not sleeping nor eating properly. I am behind with the house work but dont have the energy. I feel like a slob not being able to work but stepping out the door is just as bad now my anxiety and panic attacks have worsend. I feel like Im going mad sometimes, like Im on the verge of a breakdown, I cant hold all these thinsg together. Im cracking under pressure and I cant concentrate on anything. Im trying to hold it together around ds so his not affected but sometimes its hard. I cant act forever and try and hold it together.Im sooo confused, I feel so hurt. I hate the way I look. I never use to have that many issues apart from my body but now its everything. I hate the scars I have on my arms,my skins got really bad and I feel i look rough with dark bags under my eyes. What guy would ever want to know me, with depression and anxiety, scars on my arms. I will never be able to get into a relathionship. Im sorry to go on, just having a horrible horrible time. I need sleep and im not getting aby proper sleep.
Hugs to you all xx

LadyMorticia

alba37 wrote: »

Thanks for the welcome Anni

Pleased to see your feeling good today. Sounds like you have some good news too?? (Sam)

Sam is the guy I really really like.
I'm seeing him on 1st November for the first time. We're going on a photography expedition together. I can't wait. I am so nervous though.lol.

How are you hun?

xx

feelinggood_2

Diamond78 wrote: »

I want to write it down but feel stupid because the doctor is not there to listen to what problems I am having but each problem is what is affecting my mind

Diamond, I think the doctor is there to help you, and the more they know about what is affecting you, the better. I recieved nothing but positive responses to my notes and letters - I think doctors are used to us writing things down - it is so easy to get flustered. Perhaps just make a short list, not going into lots of detail but things like:
- Not sleeping
- Eating badly
- Hate my body
You don't have to take it with you, but if you do it and stick it in your pocket, you might find you want to hand it over, or have a read through when he asks 'Is there anything else?'.

I hope you feel better soon. Lack of sleep can do awful things to us, it really lowers my ability to cope with things. Stick to a good bedtime routine, and try and rest as much as you can, and hopefully you'll be sleeping better again soon.

absolutebounder

feelinggood wrote: »

I think there is a difference between laypeople and medical professionals. I don't doubt the male midwives advice, and they've obviously never had babies! If you are professionally trained and have experience in treating something, then that is different. Has to be a 'real' qualification though, and we all have different ideas about them!

I don't think its best to listen to someone who isn't depressed. I think its best to listen to someone who has been depressed and has got out of it. I don't listen to 'normies' or active alcoholics, I listen to recovering alcoholics who've been where I've been, have felt what I've felt and have done what I have to do to recover.

Interesting points but how many people do you know that have actually beaten depression and how many of them have actually felt what you have felt

feelinggood_2

absolutebounder wrote: »

Interesting points but how many people do you know that have actually beaten depression and how many of them have actually felt what you have felt

Depression is different for a lot of people, but I've got a large number of friends who've been through something very similar to me (alcoholism, depression etc) and I find that talking to them is the best way to help myself. Well meaning people who haven't been through anything similar just don't help, despite them trying to. Take my OH for example - he just doesn't know what depression feels like, and his advice doesn't help.