Depression Support Thread

Tulip

:hello: AB,

to be honest I havent used the sunlotion this year so you could be right that will be out of date when I get to use it but we havent had much of a summer for me to do so


Katie

LadyMorticia

Evening lovelies.

Hello Ccstar, beachbeth and sweet_pea. :wave:

I have been so exhausted lately. I have no idea why but it's annoying me.

Thank you for your lovely comments earlier. I am just insecure in myself, and I know that is an issue I need to work on.

I'm seeing my support worker tomorrow. =/
Then I might write some more in my friend's book. I'm making my best friend Gemma a book with happy things in it so that when she is sad she can read it and it'll hopefully cheer her up.

Anywho, I'm off for a bit. Be good.

xx

Lita_Ford

Jo_R wrote: »

OH's philosophy methinks!

I don't mind him going out, I just think there's a reasonable amount to go out when you have commitments and you also have to balance it with the financial side, also known by me as, "I wish you'd bloody stop moaning about having no money if you spend so much on going out!";)

I have said I think he's overlooking his long-term aspirations (having savings, buying a house, a car, getting out of his overdraft, paying off his credit card etc) for his short-term goals (relaxing after work, letting off steam on a Friday/Saturday/Sunday by meeting up with people for drinks, getting taxis when he could get the bus:mad:) and then gets annoyed when I point it out - though I guess he knows!

I don't wanna nag him. I put my point across and that's it. But I do want to change how I respond and react if he says he's going out if I think it's a bad idea, or if he's asked me what I think, I've said I'd prefer him to stay in and he goes out anyway. The power of my thoughts is so strong that I need to seriously work on me, I don't wanna be angry about it every time it happens, I want to protect myself if that makes sense, I'm just not sure how to do that, especially when I feel very vulnerable and delicate.

That was more what I was thinking AB, some of your psychology wisdom could help me here!

Stamp on his balls. He should be looking after you:A

Horasio

Jo_R wrote: »

OH's philosophy methinks!

I don't mind him going out, I just think there's a reasonable amount to go out when you have commitments and you also have to balance it with the financial side, also known by me as, "I wish you'd bloody stop moaning about having no money if you spend so much on going out!";)

I have said I think he's overlooking his long-term aspirations (having savings, buying a house, a car, getting out of his overdraft, paying off his credit card etc) for his short-term goals (relaxing after work, letting off steam on a Friday/Saturday/Sunday by meeting up with people for drinks, getting taxis when he could get the bus:mad:) and then gets annoyed when I point it out - though I guess he knows!

I don't wanna nag him. I put my point across and that's it. But I do want to change how I respond and react if he says he's going out if I think it's a bad idea, or if he's asked me what I think, I've said I'd prefer him to stay in and he goes out anyway. The power of my thoughts is so strong that I need to seriously work on me, I don't wanna be angry about it every time it happens, I want to protect myself if that makes sense, I'm just not sure how to do that, especially when I feel very vulnerable and delicate.

That was more what I was thinking AB, some of your psychology wisdom could help me here!

Ask him what his priorities are

Does he want to save money?, if he goes out a lot, it will cost.

Perhaps you could compromise and agree to say once or twice a week he goes out with his mates. Sometimes I wonder why people get married if they don't want to spend time together (aimed at him, not you!)

Miroslav

Been on a high and low all day (manic?)

Britney's new song has finally hit the music channels (wow!) and this pleases me greatly as I love it and she looks oh so very good in it. Just when I thought I couldn't possibly lover her anymore, she goes and does this. I know it's not possible to be perfect and she has her faults, but she's as close as it gets

But I feel low as they also had a documentary talking about her award show performances and I read a magazine saying Britney is back.

She never went away and now the same people who wouldn't leave her alone and slated her, are kissing her backside. I hate bandwagon jumpers who change their minds all the time whilst folk like me were still supporting all through the bad times. Makes me so angry. If they hate her, hate her 24/7/365, not change your mind when it suits to like and then dislike :rolleyes: Had enough of fair weather people.

I also got around to getting my hair shaved off. Now I look even more like someone not to mess with

Now all I await is the ladies...:rotfl: Maybe not

Oh........and Xmas shopping - I'm nearly done. All bar the Xmas food that needs to be bought nearer the time. I'm so glad to get it out of the way. Beaten my previous best by 11 days :j

How is everyone else doing with Xmas shopping and the darkening days? It's what I hate the most - the getting dark early

Miroslav

CCStar wrote: »

Our landlord - he is in the young and uncaring category. We are paying top rent and getting treated shoddily. The agent is being run by 20 year old boys with no idea of customer service. We love the house but it is bringing us down and spoiling the place for us. I wish they would hurry up and get the jobs done so we can stop having to deal with them. We have never had to deal with this type of amateur letting agents.

People being rude and calling it honest. You can be honest without being harsh and hurtful.

Landlords, agents etc etc - all pretty much the same. They love the power and most of them are smarmy

Miroslav

Sweet_Pea wrote: »

Hi all, I'm new here so I hope you don't mind me joining.

I've suffered with depression for 6 years now, but only just been told (in the last year) I have anxiety problems as well as a personality disorder.

I've just had a baby, three months ago by emergency c-section (after a hard and painful pregnancy) which was really traumatic as I thought my labour was going fine (they sent me home once) I'm not a single parent but I still find it hard, even though my baby is very good, relaxed and happy and he sleeps through the night as well. So god only knows why I feel like I wanna cower in a corner every time he cries. It took me almost 3 months for my surgical incision to heal and my son is almost 4 months old now. On top of that I got acute apendicitis 2 weeks ago and have to go in for an emergency removal of that as it was about to burst. I'm still sore and NOW I have a flue or something which is making me feel terrible. I want to cry all the time I feel like I have the worst luck right now, I feel like this is onw of the worst years of my life despite the fact I gave birth to my beautiful son on my 21st birthday. I'm on mitrazepam and the odd diazepam if I have to go outside to a crowded place. I just feel like they aren't working at all, if anything I'm getting worse; I get anxious when I go to sleep at night, as if the thought of going to sleep is terrifying, and I get anxious after every time I eat and it makes me feel (not be) sick. I don't know what to do really, I can't unload on my OH because he seems really stressed out at the moment, he's started saying things like 'I don't think I can take much more of this' after I went in for my most recent op. It's like he's blaming me for getting sick.

Anyway, sorry for unloading on you all!

Welcome welcome :T

I too have depression and anxiety. The problem I have is, people don't believe me. I'm very tall and well built, so people assume I can't possibly have anything wrong with me or have any confidence/self esteem problems.

People tend to blame when they are powerless and have never 'suffered'

Do you have any close friends/parents etc?

Now you'll have to share your B'day with your baby. No excuse for your son when he's older to forget your b'day :rotfl:

Diamond78

Welcome SweetPea,
Im sorry for the late welcome but Ive only just come online properly. I havent read all the posts, I need atleast a good 2 hours, uninterupted to catch up on from when I last posted. Just wanted to say you are doing remarkably well, I know its tough and hard but at least you are trying to help yourself.

CCstar, Im sorry that you have been feeling ignored. I havent been posting on here like I use to since July. Its not because of thi site but personal problems I am having. I have been having a really tough time, I dont and cant come on here like I use to as Im not well enough. Some days I dont go online for days. I have said hi to you when I have managed to catch up on posts and tkaned you, Im sorry for the times I have missed out. Its not intentionally, its me. My mind is everywhere at the moment. I have a memory that lasts 5 seconds, I can read something and 5 minutes later, I cant remember who wrote what. Its that bad.

So I apologise to everyone I miss out, I would love to remember every single name of all my friends on this thread but unfortunatly I cant, so I just use the term all and everyone. From where I have managed to catch up on, some of you who havent posted for a while, have been posting, welcome back and lovely to see you.

FG, well done sweety, it will get easier hun, somedays you may have a low but be and feel positive as it will pass, just think how well you have done.

SF, nice to see you to.

Miroslav, nice to see u.

And everyone else, sending you all hug and love.

I got a lot going on at the moment, so Im not able to concentrate well. When im like this I need to deal with things but shutting away as its the way I deal with things.
Take care and chat soon.x

Horasio

Miroslav wrote: »

Been on a high and low all day (manic?)

Britney's new song has finally hit the music channels (wow!) and this pleases me greatly as I love it and she looks oh so very good in it. Just when I thought I couldn't possibly lover her anymore, she goes and does this. I know it's not possible to be perfect and she has her faults, but she's as close as it gets

But I feel low as they also had a documentary talking about her award show performances and I read a magazine saying Britney is back.

She never went away and now the same people who wouldn't leave her alone and slated her, are kissing her backside. I hate bandwagon jumpers who change their minds all the time whilst folk like me were still supporting all through the bad times. Makes me so angry. If they hate her, hate her 24/7/365, not change your mind when it suits to like and then dislike :rolleyes: Had enough of fair weather people.

I also got around to getting my hair shaved off. Now I look even more like someone not to mess with

Now all I await is the ladies...:rotfl: Maybe not

Oh........and Xmas shopping - I'm nearly done. All bar the Xmas food that needs to be bought nearer the time. I'm so glad to get it out of the way. Beaten my previous best by 11 days :j

How is everyone else doing with Xmas shopping and the darkening days? It's what I hate the most - the getting dark early

How spooky is this?

I was scanning this forum and saw one your posts, and her new song came on on the TV:eek:

Horasio

Sweetpea

You sound exhausted. I haven't had a fraction what you had to deal with and I felt wiped out these last few weeks.

Try to rest when you can.