ex and would be ex-gamblers support thread

copperjar

Thanks to you both. Don't know what's wrong with me - feeling a bit down anyway and this seemed like a good idea to make me feel better. Even when I first did it, I wasn't completely gutted by it, until I thought of the amount of DVDs and CDs that I have sold in the last month just to get to that £50.

I can't really explain how weird I'm feeling - just sort of numb but not angry or upset with myself like last time.

cantcope

maybe its time to write a list of things that make you smile ready for next time. then when you feel like you need something to make you feel better work through the list.
Gambling should not feature on it.

Mine always starts with a call to my mum, read a magazine in the bath, chocolate, chocolate, chocolate.

riquelme

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hows everyone?

cantcope

I'm good thanks Riquel. How are things with you?

I've been busy the last few weeks sorting out umpires and booking courts for my netball team. Keeps me occupied.:)

MyLastFiver

Had a call from the man that runs the GA meeting that EXoh supposedly goes to. He asked me not to give up on him completely. He really tugged on my heart strings and made me feel guilty.

This is disgraceful behaviour by GA.

TB do what you want - you are not responsible for your ex's misery. And well done for being so brave and good luck.

Willsnarf1983

MyLastFiver wrote: »

This is disgraceful behaviour by GA.

TB do what you want - you are not responsible for your ex's misery. And well done for being so brave and good luck.

Actually Fiver i think you'll find that its not GA but a person, GA is not responsible for a person actions.

But also i don't think its that bad a thing to ask not to give up all hope in a person, if we all gave up hope on people it would be a terrible existance

MyLastFiver

Willsnarf1983 wrote: »

Actually Fiver i think you'll find that its not GA but a person, GA is not responsible for a person actions.

Well of course it's a person. What other biological entities organize GA sessions? Koalas? Tapeworms? The person was calling in his capacity as GA group organizer. So on behalf of GA. Not sure what your point is.

As for GA and their homo sapiens representatives calling people's exes trying to make them feel responsible and guilty, I stick by my point that this is bad form.

GeorgeUK

I'm doing okay guys, just waiting to hear back from my brother about how he's going to repay me... again.

With that guy contacting TB, what i was wondering was what story had he heard? Probably not the one about how he was stealing money from her and had been given umpteen chances.

Hope everyone's doing okay.
No more setback are there?

TotallyBroke

I have no idea what stories have been told. But, if this was not a thread for Ex Gamblers I would bet a lot that the truth has not been told.

The man never did telepone me back about going to a meeting. To his defence also he was originally ringing to speak to Ex but as I had taken the phone off him (contract in my name, me that pays the bill) he spoke to me.

Well lo has not seen his Dad for nearly 2weeks. I'm sick of having to chase him it should be up to Ex to arrange to see lo. He knows my phone number and he knows where we live. We are at home every evening after work except Wednesday nights so I can't see any excuses. We did have a bit of an arguement by text a couple of weekends ago when he chose to tell me he had spent his wages and I would not be getting any money for ds or to pay towards the debts he has run up.
So I can safely say I will never see any of that money again. And as we all advise people here it's not worth thinking about. It's gone and I have to move forward and repair any damage that has been caused.
I'll pick myself up, brush myself off and I'll start all over again.

Good to see you are all doing well. I'm feeling great in myself. I'm excited too I'm taking ds on a Sun £9.50 holiday in April. Our first holiday together and a well deserved break for me.

dubblebubble

Hello everyone

I’m so glad I’ve found this site, thanks to everyone for their openness about the awfulness of compulsive gambling and its impact, emotional and financial. I started gambling in online casinos a few years ago and it became a habit that grew and grew in terms of the time it took up and the money I spent on it. At the time I was the only earner in our family and was working up to 18 hours a day, much of that as an online consultant. This meant I was spending hours at home sitting by a computer in case anyone needed my support. The slots were a way of filling the time.
In hindsight, I realise that I had become very depressed about my life at that stage and the slots were my bit of excitement.
Since then, I have talked to my OH about it all (he was brilliant, turns out he had a problem with fruit machines long before we met and had always been too embarrassed to share it with me, bless him), installed gamblock on all the computers at home and taken up a DMP with CCCS to deal with all of the debt through credit cards and loans that I have stupidly built up.
I find it hard sometimes and find myself thinking about gambling but I know I can’t go back to how I was… and anyway have no money to do it anymore as my credit rating is totally shot (thankfully!).
I hope to use the site for ongoing support (I know I’ve got a very long way to go yet) and understanding.

I know that others on here have mentioned about large debts as a result of the gambling…. Can I ask whether anyone has managed to get creditors to write off some of the debt due to the mental health aspect involved? I am going to struggle to pay mine in less than 25 years according to CCCS, I do want to pay the debts off but any kind of reduction in that timescale would help me no end

thanks

db