This is the new me!!!

Seaxwyn

Poor you sea, what a horrible situation. Really hope the solicitor comes up with a good solution for getting him out. Hang on in there though - you will get through this and come out the other side.

taxi73

At least he's showing his true colours now.I know it's awful for you at the moment but I'm quite sure the solicitor can get him out.You will get through this Sea I have every faith in you.You are being so strong.Hugs to you and the kids x

PigginSkint

Sea

My heart goes out to you, it really does. You are more than entitled to stay put as you have to provide a home for your children - which I am sure your solicitor will tell you, mine certainly told me that (I have one son who was 7 at the time we split up).

Divorces and the breaking up of relationships, especially where children are involved, are always nasty, no matter what you try to do to avoid it.

I hope he does see that it would be better all round if he moved out while things get sorted. I think you ought to be prepared for the fact that he won't - his solicitor will probably tell him to stay put as he may lose any claim to the property. Mind you, your solicitor will probably tell you the same.

One thing occurs to me though, I think it likely that you will be able to divorce on grounds of his unreasonable behaviour (I haven't read all of your previous diary posts but I have picked up on enough I think), so I think your case could be quite strong.

Hard though it is, I would try as best as you can to put it out of your mind for the time being until you have chance to discuss it with your solicitor. Once you have done that you will know what you are dealing with.

It is going to be sh***y so I would try your best to find ways of relaxing and escaping from the situation, at least temporarily, whenever you can. Otherwise you will crack up! I speak from bitter experience - I ended up with severe depression.

Just hang onto the thought of the bottle of champers you will crack open when he finally goes!

Oh - one other thought, be wary of what he might remove from the house. It was very interesting how my quickly my ex removed any financial documents from the house and I caught him trying to remove items that actually belonged to me!

It does get better - honestly!

chevalier

hi sea
sorry things are not going so well ref OH just be strong over the weekend, and whenever he is nasty, don't stoop to his level, but remain calm and collected and it will drive him nuts:D
chev

Sea78

Thank you all so much - it's just wonderful having the support of you all on here

I have remained calm wih him and am being 'nice' so that it doesn't become too horrendous. He has been ok today and hopefully this will continue. At least it won't be as stressful for the children that way.

He fortunately doesn't have much to do with the finances and has nothing really that's in his name, apart from his one credit card - everything else is in shared or my name. Even the car is in my name.

Not long til Wednesday now!!

Did loads of sorting yesterday and feel better for that so will continue tonight and might do some scrapping - that always relaxes me

Hope you are all well and having a good Friday

Sea xxx

Sea78

Oh, and I have had another NSD - he popped out and got milk that we needed, as well as expensive things we didn't need, but it's his money!!!!

taxi73

Well done on the NSD and staying calm in such a stressful situation.

Sea78

HI all
Happy Saturday!

I'm feeling a bit lost at the moment - what with the holidays and not having much on so I think I need to have a to do list and maybe that'll help me get a bit more sorted and feel a little more in control. I do want to go see a friend today, but will have to see if she's up to it, as she had her wisdom teeth out the other day.

So today I really need to:

*Sort kitchen:
*Wash up
*Put washing in
*Sweep kitchen and living room
*Put away piles of clean clothes
*Unpack suitcase from last week (!!)
*Begin to sort kids toys and get rid of lots - maybe when they are asleep though!

Ah well. Sitting here isn't getting anything done, eh?

taxi73

HI Sea and good luck with the list.

hypno06

It is not surprising that you feel "lost" - life is somewhat in limbo at the moment for you. You might feel a bit more "found" once you have seen the solicitor on Wednesday.