Marriage over don't know where to start

Skint_Lynne

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

oh Knickers to the lot of them.

sighs. I was all with it today and feeling very cheerful, tidied up a drawer and found some pictures of my exBF - just a boyfriend mind you we only recently broke up and it was most certainly the right thing to do etc. but I wish I could explain why i have sat here imagining ways to bump into him again, you know the scenarios across a crowded pub our eyes meet he realises he loves me after all but I tell him kindly it may be too late:rotfl: :rotfl:

You know this may sound sexist, but i think women do this we hope and we pray and forgive. It is often the right thing to do, and we and our relationships are stronger for it. So long as we bear in mind that it doesn't always work out, I think we are better off giving it every possible chance? at least when or if its over we know for sure there is nothing else to do? does that make sense?

Buffy,

Your time will come, there is a handsome millionaire out there with your name on him, I'm sure of it. Seriously though, there are advantages to being manless, as I am most of the time, mine works away from home:

1. No leg shaving for 2 months. (only kidding)
2. Watch what you want on TV.
3. Wear old faded knick nacks and t shirt in bed, no need for sexys.
4. Don't need to wash pants for OH.
5. No 'what's for dinner' moan in your ear

You catch my drift from that, don't you. When you look at that list, I think it's time to ditch the men:rotfl: :rotfl:

SL x

beanielou

Hi scottish
Just wanted to say never is a long day & you may well find that will change in time.

Skint_Lynne

beanielou wrote: »

Is this your brother Lynne?

He is my uncle beanie, but is like my brother cause he is only a couple of years older. It's terrible watching him do this to himself but he is the only one that can stop and needs to want it enough. I knew I had to get him the booze as he was starting to shake violently. My mum's friend is high heid yin in AA and has told us before that he will need to be weaned off alcohol, if it stops suddenly, it could kill him.

My dad wants him with other people so that he can be monitored, he reckons he will be found dead if he is left alone for much longer (his partner left him).

We don't really drink much as my dad liked a drink and I didn't like his lifestyle. My dad has been off it for nearly a year now, he didn't have a problem as such but was a heavy drinker. He had a heart attack thru drink and hasn't touched a drop since. he said he wishes he had had the HA years ago as it would have brought him to his senses.

It's very sad to watch someone like this but the only person that can make it stop is him...........and he continues to do it. I don't understand it, but it happens to a lot of people.

Another happy post!!

SL x

beanielou

That must be very dfficult for you.
As you say he is the only person that can help himself.
Try not to worry too much.
take care.

Skint_Lynne

Juneno wrote: »

From a revenge point of view, here's a funny one! A friend of mine, who's boyfriend was cheating, rubbed the crotch of his pants with the inside of red chillis. Just let's say it was a few days before he felt he could do anything other than pass water with it! Of course, he didn't know what she's done so he went to the doc 'cos he thought he may have an sti!! Strangely, his moose didn't last long after that!:D
Just a thought girls, if you have access to chillis and the underwear drawer!!

June,

This is class, even better than laxatives in the gravy. Congratulations to your friend for thinking of this. I'll bet that there will be a few cheating men with a sting in their tail after their wives read this post!!:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

greeniegirl

i feel a bit sad reading some of the posts here I have to say. It's a real pity to see good women prepared to take back cheating spouses. Will that encourage others to cheat, when they see others get away with it?? would you not always wish you'd insisted on better for yourself?

maybe i'm too naive, or can true love survive? feel abit depressed now, off to bed.. anyway, off to bed. Don't mean to come across judgemental, know you don't know til it happens to you what you'd do!

scottishfreebiehunter

greeniegirl wrote: »

i feel a bit sad reading some of the posts here I have to say. It's a real pity to see good women prepared to take back cheating spouses. Will that encourage others to cheat, when they see others get away with it?? would you not always wish you'd insisted on better for yourself?

maybe i'm too naive, or can true love survive? feel abit depressed now, off to bed.. anyway, off to bed. Don't mean to come across judgemental, know you don't know til it happens to you what you'd do!

No it may encourage others to think before they go and do it as the grass not always greener.
Being with someone such a long time is to easy to throw away these days ,pity my oh does not see it this way.
each to there own and if it can be worked out then superb as long as it never happened again

trancebabe

greeniegirl wrote: »

i feel a bit sad reading some of the posts here I have to say. It's a real pity to see good women prepared to take back cheating spouses. Will that encourage others to cheat, when they see others get away with it?? would you not always wish you'd insisted on better for yourself?

maybe i'm too naive, or can true love survive? feel abit depressed now, off to bed.. anyway, off to bed. Don't mean to come across judgemental, know you don't know til it happens to you what you'd do!

In my case I took him back because of a few reasons:
1) I still loved him
2) I wasn't sure our marriage was over
3) He asked me for forgiveness
4) Anyone can make a mistake

18 months later I left him fundementally because:
1) I simply didn't trust him
2) He just really wasn't very nice to me (actually he was vile and made it his intent to hurt me which I finally got fed up with!)

...and even though I still felt that 'true love' for him, our 'marriage' was over

Happy now though... there is a light at the end of the tunnel

chevalier

kizzy noticed your updated sig. The very best of luck with this. But don't get your hopes up TOO much.

To all the rest of your. Good luck with moving and sleeping
chev

gerturdeanna

kizzy, I'm glad you've changed your sig. Good luck with that. Mine is stopping as it is!! The amount of sh!te he's put me through the last 4 weeks or so - I deserve better!! Am wide awake at 4:30 in the morning cos I'm having nightmares about him cheating?!?! !!!!!! is that all about!! Grrr, I hate him!!