Marriage over don't know where to start

kimlisa66

Skint_Lynne wrote: »

I'm not condoning violence or anything but my friend who was pregnant when she found out her OH was messing around told me about something that happened which I found to be acceptable in the circumstances.

When she told her MIL and 2 SIL's about the c**, they went to her house and gave her a good hiding.

Now I know that a lot of people will find that to be shocking, but this thing knew my friend, knew she had a kid and knew that she was pregnant again. She was openly trying to get the OH to leave and shack up with her. And, another thing, we have since found out that she breaks marriages up as a hobby, she has done 3 so far...............

I personally would have given her a hiding as well, she totally deserved it.

SL x

Hi Lynne

I empathise with what you are saying but I don't really think violence is the answer under any circumstances. It just escalates and gets to a point when it came become out of control.

I wanted to rip the throat out of my so called friend who was s***ing my husband and his too, but, neither of them are worth getting a criminal record for. You just lower yourself to their pitiful standards

There are other, more sophisticated ways of getting your own back.

Remember, revenge is a dish best served cold !!! Or, slowly slowly catchy monkey as my best mates says ! :-)

Kim

Skint_Lynne

Hi Kim,

i know you are right, but I also think that they were quite right in what they done. This biatch had inflicted so much pain on others they felt that giving her a hiding was the only thing she would understand. Bear in mind that she does this as a hobby. Sometimes, anger just gets the better of you, but I know it's not a good idea to get a criminal record either.

That's just the way they dealt with this particuarly vile speciman, she is lower than a snakes belly and deserved to be treated as such.

SL x

bank_of_slate

The best revenge you can have is turning your life around, looking fantastic and proving that you are far happier and successful and do not need them around at all!
...Linda xx

Skint_Lynne

bank_of_slate wrote: »

The best revenge you can have is turning your life around, looking fantastic and proving that you are far happier and successful and do not need them around at all!
...Linda xx

That's so true as well Linda, that is probably better than what my friends in laws done in the long run, one of the SIL's is so quiet, I was really surprised that she was party to such a thing, but I suppose you never know what someone is capable of when they are angry. The three of them went because the c** was a bit of a she-man and apparently can handle herself, ie fancys herself as a bit of a female wrestler. She defo got 2nd prize that night!!!:rotfl:

Sorry, I know it is wrong at the end of the day, I am not into violence but on this occasion, that's the way things worked out. My poor wee friend has never fully recovered to this day, what she-man got in suffering is nothing to what my friend went through.

SL x

greeniegirl

hello
just came across this site accidentally and could not stop reading all the threads. great to see the amount of support here.

I just want to offer you support kizzy. I am not married yet and have to say if i found myslef in your situation I'd be so mad that someone was so careless with my feelings. I really think you should tread carefully as regards your OH. He doesn't deserve you or your company, much less your forgiveness. I know you miss him but NO WAY should you settle for less than your worth. As time moves on you'll be stronger with each day and you'll see that clearly.

I agree with what's just been said about revenge. I broke up with someone a year ago and decided I'd had it, I wasn't going to look back where the person didn't appreciate me. I wasn't going to look at texts or talk to the other person involved either. Things since then have gone from strength to strength. Fof the first few days I couldn't even get out of bed, now I'm starting a new job in two weeks time, have bought a house on my own and am so happy I've ledft him behind.I ran inot him the other day, just after three weeks away inthe sun. The look on his face was priceless and whast was better was that i'm reallyover it!

Obviously it's easier when you only have yourself to worry about and you're not married. I'd only be civil if I were you though!

wishing you all the best and others in similar situations

GirlRacer_2

bank_of_slate wrote: »

The best revenge you can have is turning your life around, looking fantastic and proving that you are far happier and successful and do not need them around at all!
...Linda xx

Linda, this is sound advice and I agree whole heartedly with you. I look at my ex now, he's with a woman 20 years older than him, living in a really rough housing estate (where his car gets vandalised on a regular basis) and he's got a rubbish job earning rubbinsh money.

Me on the the hand have managed to keep myself together, kept my well paid job, kept the home which is a large semi detached house in a quiet are with a drive and a garage and I'm with the most wonderful man who appreciates me. Every morning I get up and I make an effort with my appearance - I'm not beautiful and I could do with losing a bit of weight but I always make an effort to look my best. It makes me feel good.

If you'd have asked me 6 years ago when ex left if I'd have had him back I'd have jumped at the chance. Ask me now and I'd say no thank you.....

Skint_Lynne

GirlRacer wrote: »

Linda, this is sound advice and I agree whole heartedly with you. I look at my ex now, he's with a woman 20 years older than him, living in a really rough housing estate (where his car gets vandalised on a regular basis) and he's got a rubbish job earning rubbinsh money.

Me on the the hand have managed to keep myself together, kept my well paid job, kept the home which is a large semi detached house in a quiet are with a drive and a garage and I'm with the most wonderful man who appreciates me. Every morning I get up and I make an effort with my appearance - I'm not beautiful and I could do with losing a bit of weight but I always make an effort to look my best. It makes me feel good.

If you'd have asked me 6 years ago when ex left if I'd have had him back I'd have jumped at the chance. Ask me now and I'd say no thank you.....

Girl Racer,

Would you say your ex man looks 20 years older than you now so that he matches his 'lady love'? I've read some of your posts before and you indicate that she wasn't blessed in the looks department. I wonder why they leave decent girls for these horrors, it is beyond me.

SL x

bank_of_slate

Skint_Lynne wrote: »

Girl Racer,

Would you say your ex man looks 20 years older than you now so that he matches his 'lady love'? I've read some of your posts before and you indicate that she wasn't blessed in the looks department. I wonder why they leave decent girls for these horrors, it is beyond me.

SL x

Because they are easy!
...Linda xx

kizzykizzywizzy

Hi I'm back
Well we went to the country park, & you'll never guess what just as we were getting there one of my best friends is only driving along with her hubby & family & goes there too!! I really didn't know she was going, Husband sort of groaned when he saw them! They were going to a b/day party there, so we didn't see them until after our walk, which we went wrong on & ended up walking for 2 hours! instead of 1 hour. Husband talked to friends husband about nothing really.
We had a picnic, all very civilized, he did say about going to somewhere else after, or for a drive, I couldn't think of anywhere to go, so I said shall I just drop you back? he said ok dropped him off & DS went crazy and was crying his eyes out yet again, DD was asking him to come for a sleepover!! so a bit of a nightmare ending.
No signs of anything changing today, though, no snide remarks or arguments.
He's walking around here tomorrow to go to some food festival thing he's asked me/us to go to, so will see him then.
We will all sleep well tonight - so tired walked down a hill thinking, glad I'm not walking up this one went the wrong way & had to walk back up it:rotfl:

colnkits

((Kizzy))
Sounds more positive than earlier in the week, just keep trying to enjoy any time you have together and hopefully you'll continue to feel better about things, and he might start to remember everything you have together.

How are the kids now? Hope they've calmed back down.
x