Marriage over don't know where to start

chevalier

Don't forget that you dr may be able to give you something mild to help you sleep for a short while.

Best of luck with today
waves at MOT
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kizzykizzywizzy

Just booked solicitors for tuesday 11.30, I'm in floods of tears, I have spoken to husband, he's still "with" this woman obviously he can't see her, but still in contact with her, he doesn't know how long its been going on ( liar ) she actually hasn't got kids. Oh & he says he used a condom.
Rang friend he was on board with, he says it's been going on for a long time, she's from the midlands & she'll be on the ship until next year

Skint_Lynne

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Just booked solicitors for tuesday 11.30, I'm in floods of tears, I have spoken to husband, he's still "with" this woman obviously he can't see her, but still in contact with her, he doesn't know how long its been going on ( liar ) she actually hasn't got kids. Oh & he says he used a condom.
Rang friend he was on board with, he says it's been going on for a long time, she's from the midlands & she'll be on the ship until next year

So, that must make it all okay then!!:mad: Rest assured Kizzy, old skanky pants won't wait until next year for her 'fun' she'll be at it soon enough with someone else, then your OH will be left in the lurch, I'm telling you, what goes around comes around. And, consider this, that might be a pack of lies that she's from the midlands with no kids, that might be to put you off the scent and to save you from contacting the husband.

adelegalla

Hi Kizzy,

I have been following your post since the start and wanted a happy ending for you too. Wish I could take some of your pain away. This guy is scum, the fact that while you were struggling and making an effort to get out of debt and he was fooling around with this slag is beyond belief. You are way to good for him and probably always have been. He will realise that once you are gone that he still loves you, as there is no way he will be happy in the long term with this woman. He has been having his cake and eating it, now he will just be left with the crust. Keep strong, you are an amazing woman and you will be loved again by someone who respects and treats you the way you should be treated. If she is married find her number and tell her husband. It would make me feel better and I beleive it would make you feel better too, no regrets.

Keep strong, and remember he has noone you have his family, your family and your 'family' here who all care for you.

Bestest wishes,

A

kizzykizzywizzy

Thank You for your kind posts, it was the friend whos wife told me originally that gave me more info, but he doesn't know much himself.
He's off work sick today & has been walking about again! I said he could see the kids at his sisters, with her there, I'm not letting the kids be upset, but too scared to have him here as he's so agressive.
He has been sobbing his heart out to me on the phone saying he' sorry & he spoke to the kids & couldn't hardly talk to them he was so upset. I know he's hurt me, but I couldn't bear to see him hurt like this, which makes it more awful that he didn't seem to mind hurting me.

adelegalla

I know you still love him but dont feel sorry for him, or at least be nice to him. He is paying now for what he has done and if you show any sign of weakness to his cause he will leap on it. If you ever feel sorry for him, think of what he has done to you, what he has done to your kids, what he has done to your life, how he put the blame on you for this, how he has been having a long time affair with her while you were looking after the kids and the house and the juggling the debt, how he has been nasty to you before the truth came out. Think of all of that and then hopefully you wont feel too sorry for him. Who knows how this will work out, but you stay strong, he is full of remorse now, let him get on with it, a taste of hurt will do him good, he has hurt you sooo much more.

Sorry if I rabbled.

A

mumoftwins

scrooge2008 wrote: »

Hi Kizzy,

Thinking of you. A tracing agent should be able to locate an address and telephone number for her on a no trace, no fee basis for about £30.00, if you decide you need to check things out.

Big hug x

Kizzy,

My OH is a PI and regularly traces people - I'm not sure about the fee though. But I can always ask him what you need to know to be able to find someone and if you want him he would do it for you. The only thing is that whilst it doesn't take long to find out we are away as of first thing Friday am for 10 days.

elona

kizzy

If you find yourself weakening remember what he said to your children - that he could not stand to be in the same room with you, etc.

Tinkabell25

Hi Kizzy, i've been reading your post for a while but haven't yet said anything as i wasn't sure what to say. However i think all the fab people on here are right in that he doesn't deserve your sympathy now you've found out what he's been up to. He got himself into this mess, he should be the one to get himself out of it, let him find somewhere to live and bin liner up all of his belongings and put them outside the front door. He lost he right to have you caring about him when he messed you around. And as for the way he's treating the children, well that's something he should be ashamed of! Lots of love and hugs to you, you seem very strong and i'm sure with all the support on here and the love of your lovely kids you'll be ok. Tink xx

kizzykizzywizzy

Hi have rung working families & will get about £90.50 a week, also I have given my notice in at work.
I really can't face going back there in September, I have got too much to do for other people, & with the house & kids on my own, it's really hard, I've exhausted myself whilst he's been away doing everything, & on top of all that I feel really unable to do anything much at all at the moment, I've just got them a Mcdonalds! crap mother.
I've packed all his stuff into bin bags & an old case, along with his Goodbye tankard he was given from work with "name" on it was tempted to scratch "cheat" into it, but I'm not stooping to his level.
MOT - I really can't get any more info I said to the friend that I wouldn't ring them again & I'm sorry they'd been dragged into it.
I have still got income support to sort out, that will take me another day, as I just can't get on