Marriage over don't know where to start

Rage_in_Eden

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Have cancelled the b.soc book, taken all the money from our joint account & cancelled his debit card (JUST TO BE ON THE SAFE SIDE)

Oooh good girl

kizzykizzywizzy

I've got to find the slags husband first, so that may take hours, days or weeks. Would you let a woman like that & a lowlife like my husband ruin yours & your children's lives & let her get away scott free?
My Husband has been caught & he will have to deal with whatever comes his way now, she hasn't.

Buffythedebtslayer

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Have cancelled the b.soc book, taken all the money from our joint account & cancelled his debit card (JUST TO BE ON THE SAFE SIDE)

Fabulous.

:beer:
xxx

scottishfreebiehunter

central:D:T:T:T:T:T:T:T:T

Wol2

Hello Kizzy

I've followed your thread without posting to date....and I am very very sorry to hear what has happened. so now perhaps it is time for me to post.....before it was too close to me for comfort. Perhaps now I can be of some help.

Firstly, whatever you may feel, and whatever you are motivated to do at this moment and however you justify it to yourself..please STAY CALM...and most importantly please DON'T lost your dignity. (Even though you want to take a machete to everyone and everything ) Therefore it might mean not making those phone calls, but if you do, be very sure of what and how you want to say something before you dial the number. If necessary, talk it through with a close friend before you make the call.

Secondly, you are IN NO WAY TO BLAME for this current situation.

Thirdly, and perhaps most importantly, I hope you understand and realise that despite this recent revelation, we ALL applaud you for tryng to save your marriage. Please don;t feel embarassed about coming back here.....YOU HAVE NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF.

If you have friends in your locality to talk to, thats great. If you don;t, please please PM one of us wth your phone number and we will ring you back. It is extremely important you do not go through this at the moment feeling you are on your own.

Oh Hun, my heart goes out to you. It's the incessant denial of your own perceptions that is perhaps one of the hardest things to bear at this moment..and such a betrayal...and perhaps it also feels like a dismissal of you as a person.

You are not alone, and you are still Kizzy...a lovely and special person and we all agree that. Please remember that when you have a low moment... We are all here for you sweetheart..just have the courage to contact one of us and we will resond...surrounding you with our love for you as a lovely and special human being.

With much love to you and you dear children.
Courage ma souer........you WILL find the light at the other end, however dark it may seem at the moment.
Wol2
xxx

Ooh er Rage...personally half a lager and two spoonfuls of old style (ie non-non-drwwsy) benylin expectorant works wonders (grin)

jinky67

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

I've got to find the slags husband first, so that may take hours, days or weeks. Would you let a woman like that & a lowlife like my husband ruin yours & your children's lives & let her get away scott free?
My Husband has been caught & he will have to deal with whatever comes his way now, she hasn't.

I know what you are saying and understand that you are angry, but it is your husband you need to take it out on..HE DID THIS:mad:
yes she was part of it...but he chose to do it.
HE disrespected you...she was probably told a whole load of flannel:cool:

scottishfreebiehunter

yes it is kizzys husband and also tha tart he slept with she cannot get away scot free,as harsh as it may sound she has ruined one marriage

Skint_Lynne

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

central:D:T:T:T:T:T:T:T:T

me too, central, but at Glasgow end x

SuziQ

I am so angry on your behalf! Stupid thing is,somewhere down the line he will find out what a mahoosive mistake he has made-after breaking yours and the kids hearts and whne it's too late.
You have done the right thing with the bs book and joint account (even as late as 2 weeks ago my ex dipped into the joint account where our Church had donated ME some money to get on a retraining course and go back to work-he claimed he used the card accidentally,having had to apply for a new one after I cut the other one up!)and now need to phone the benefits helpline and get the ball rolling with benfits-trust me,this is not somone who is going to pay for you to keep your home,and once ensconced with another family their home and kids will take precedence over yours! I can pm you with exactly what I was awarded when I first applied back in april if you feel it will help (although every award is obviously different.)
I think your instinct to contact the womans (I use that term loosely)husband is because you are hurting and want to lash out,but I think you might really regret it if you do mange it-it's him and her you want to hurt,not the husband or children.As for what he blurted out to your daughter-may God forgive him! It's much easier for him to use attack as defence than admit his fault though isn't it? All men seem to do that.
What a short sighted idiot he is!
I don't know what else to say except take care of yourself.

Skint_Lynne

I'm off to bed folks, will check in tomorrow xx