Marriage over don't know where to start

colnkits

Oh hun, has he at least had the decency to tell you the truth yet?
Did your SIL know about it, or is she in the dark too.

I know how terribly painful this must be for you hun, but you finally have a reason now rather than doubting yourself, and he's being a cheeky toad by shifting his guilt onto you and trying to make you feel as if you're the one who's done wrong.

Hang in there chick

scottishfreebiehunter

my oh tart a right moose also and i aint just saying that makes you wonder what they are playing at
I am really worried about my ds just now he is taking it very very hard

Skint_Lynne

That's the thing, they are usually dogs. Don't torment yourself over her, she probably is available to all the men on there for a s***. It will be someone else's husband next week (maybe even as we speak).

She is not relevent to you, and I know that might seem a strange thing to say, you and your wee ones are what's relevent. Damage limitation here, he's the one that's done the damage, you need to make sure you do the right thing for you and yours. If he wants to go and shack up with a c**, then that's his business. Just make sure you keep yourself right. As I said earlier, when he is with the thing and her kids, he will regret it. He might even come to his senses and ask to come back, and that is your decision, don't let other people influence you on that one. Lots of people go back to their families after making really stupid blunders like this grand scale of a one. You just need to get through this night and take it from there.

And another thing, whose to say that in a years time if he ends up with her, that if she is on a ship without him that she will not take a fancy to someone else, I am a great believer in what goes around comes around.

Take care, remember, if you need to talk you can pm me your number or vice versa.

SL x

Skint_Lynne

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

my oh tart a right moose also and i aint just saying that makes you wonder what they are playing at
I am really worried about my ds just now he is taking it very very hard

What's your story SFH?

SL x

itsarichmansworld

Hi Kizzy

Just caught up with whats happening I'm in Glasgow if I can help trace the numbers.

He's a toad and shes a moo.

But hugs to you babe x

kizzykizzywizzy

All the info I have is her name, the friends wife said she was from scotland, she's married with kid(s) don't know how many. Found a person on friends re-united edinburgh, so decided to try there, but was told by w$ankers boss that that was COLD when I said am I near? He obviously couldn't tell me any personal details & for some reason, even though I asked for a message to be passed for her to ring me - she hasn't, now why does that surprise me.
What he did say is that she doesn't live in my town.
Even when faced with all the evidence he still denied it. He did ring his mum & say he'd done something stupid, but didn't say what.
I also thought & still think he took our B.Soc book with him, & told his mum & sister he'd stolen that from us. He rang me & said he hadn't taken the book & that he's sorry, I layed into him saying how could you have treated me like you have since you've been back & said didn't you think about your 2 children & our baby that died, he said oh that's very nice & put the phone down on me.

kizzykizzywizzy

Also just wanted to say thank you for all your support, I'm overwhelmed by it all

Poppy9

Kizzy please don't ring this woman's husband. I know you are angry and want revenge but do you really want to hurt some unknown man and his children. It's not their fault.

The only person who is to blame is your husband. The woman may not have seduced your husband, it could be the other way around. Either way your husband is the one who was unfaithful to you not the woman so don't hurt her family just because your family is hurting. Concentrate on yourself and your children and at least now you know the truth.

I posted a long time ago on this thread about my friend who was so angry that her ex had given her no reason for wanting to separate and she found out months later he'd been having an affair (with a man!). She was so angry that she had been made to feel it was somehow her fault when all the time he was lying to protect himself. Her anger was overpowering and she had no family in this country to support her and all her so called friends had known what was going on. At least you've had a friend who has told you the truth, value that.

Now you know what has been going on you can deal with it and by that I mean telling your OH what a little !!!!!! he is, moreso for lying about his reasons. You are in control now. If you want revenge make sure his parents know that he's been unfaithful, even adults hate parents disapproval.

I am a great believer in what goes around, comes around. I've seen a few friends get together with married men (who've been living separate lives from their wives, their wives are cows etc:rolleyes: ). They have then gone onto to marry these men only for the men to then start an affair with another woman. My mother always said "if they've done it once, there is a greater chance they will do it again".

littleangels3

hope youre ok love big hugs xx

scottishfreebiehunter

I have to disagree as feel the other family have a right to know as hard as it may sound they are being cheated on also


well Kizzy my so called oh just off phone as told you about texts regarding my ds etc and he was all nice then as soon as someone within ear shot back to being not nice



my story is similiar guys oh beggered off with well a pig two week fling seemingly and walked out on what I thought was happy marriage and ds who is heartbroken and I am so distraught as what to do next as my son is not taking it v ery good