Marriage over don't know where to start

Skint_Lynne

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Also just wanted to say thank you for all your support, I'm overwhelmed by it all

No probs Kizzy,

if it turns out that she's from Glasgow or Edinburgh or indeed anywhere in the Central Belt of Scotland, give me her address and I'll go round and sort her out!! It's a richmans world might come along with me and we'll rag her properly. Us scot's girls don't need these c*** giving us a bad name!!

SL x

kizzykizzywizzy

I know what you are saying, but why should she have everything & I've lost my world?
Also that poor man may be going through the same kind of turmoil I've had since the weekend before he came back permanantly, when he was distant 3rd July, so from then until now I have been worried sick not knowing what I've done, walking on egg shells & feeling really hurt & rejected. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.
I'm sorry I am GOING to try & let this poor man know, I will be as gentle as I can, but I WILL find him.

scottishfreebiehunter

Skint_Lynne wrote: »

No probs Kizzy,

if it turns out that she's from Glasgow or Edinburgh or indeed anywhere in the Central Belt of Scotland, give me her address and I'll go round and sort her out!! It's a richmans world might come along with me and we'll rag her properly. Us scot's girls don't need these c*** giving us a bad name!!

SL x

I will be there to as I am scottish and cannot stand and understand why people have to go after married men

Poppy9

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

I know what you are saying, but why should she have everything & I've lost my world?

she shouldn't have everything, it's not right and it's not fair but think of how your children and you are suffering, do you really want to do that to some man you've never met. How guilty would you feel if this man was unstable and did something to harm himself? What if she suffers domestic violence and this phone calls tips him over the edge?


The reality is you don't know this person, you don't know their circumstances and they are not to blame for your pain.

I do think when you are feeling calmer (I know, will that day ever come) you would regret if you made this call in anger.

kizzykizzywizzy wrote:

Also that poor man may be going through the same kind of turmoil I've had since the weekend before he came back permanantly, when he was distant 3rd July, so from then until now I have been worried sick not knowing what I've done, walking on egg shells & feeling really hurt & rejected. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

but the family maybe living in blissful ignorance. Back on dry land she might regret her actions and decide to rebuild her marriage. You just don't know.

kizzykizzywizzy wrote:

I'm sorry I am GOING to try & let this poor man know, I will be as gentle as I can, but I WILL find him.

please, please sleep on it before making that call.

kizzykizzywizzy

Forgot to say I know he is as much to blame as the old dog, he is also just as stupid.

furball

Totally understand about you letting cheated husband know. But if it was me i would let moose know i was going to let her husband know, just so she could suffer more too, and tell him i had let her know so any texts or calls she had sent inbetween time would not convince him otherwise, remember revenge is a dish best served cold xxx. Hugs

Skint_Lynne

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

I will be there to as I am scottish and cannot stand and understand why people have to go after married men

Some of them just like to f*** other peoples lives up. I've got a friend who found out her DH was at it with someone whilst she was pregnant. And the c** knew about my friend and the fact that she was pregnant. How skanky is that!!!!!:mad:

jay11_2

Hi kizzy, You have to do what's right for you hun, we all have opinions but YOU have to live with whatever you do/don't do now, so trust yourself hun. I think it's !!!!!! brilliant you're starting to put your needs and wants first, phone / don't phone....whatever, just do what helps YOU now.

I must say I'd want to know too, anything but live with a wh0re. She could be giving the guys, her OH included, all sorts...at best you might save him from a nasty disease _pale_

furball

Just another thought if you let mose know you know, and are willing to tell her husband ,would she drop your husband like a hot brick and try to save her marriage. xx

Rage_in_Eden

Oh Kizzy I've just logged back on :grouphug: ruddy lidiot..... Right. First things first. YOU have managed perfectly well without him for the last 18 months so he can, as my Mum used to say, san faree ann (haven't got a clue what the origins of the saying are so please don't ask !). Not nice managing on your own but you have so that's one up to you (as he obviously can't be left unattended for a start). Secondly, this building society book - I am VERY concerned about this. Any way you can go into the branch and report it stolen? Or transfer the money via internet bank/cheque? Also remove any household papers e.g. insurances etc from where you normally keep them to somewhere he knows not. You get as much money in your side of the court as possible - stuff him. If she's that "mad for it" she can keep him financially. Never mind the CAB - you need to get a solicitor - most of them will still do (I think) a fixed fee interview. It is time, as the say in the godfather, to "go to the mattresses" - how many black bin liners have you got and you know what you'll be doing with them. If he ends up sleeping on somebody's floor then it is NOT YOUR PROBLEM. And finally, how dare he says something so disgraceful to a child. You must now think of yourself as a castle and draw up that drawbridge.

Scottish Freebie - good grief is this spreading? Hope your son manages to get some respite from it all.

Rage (and in this case it is an apt name!) x