Marriage over don't know where to start

Keeping_Motivated

Oh I see, maybe you should be claiming Attendance Allowance for your dad too! You poor thing you have so much to worry about. Corny but it will make you stronger and you will get through this. As I keep saying please don't look at the bigger picture just concentrate on getting through an hour at a time or a day at a time at the moment or will be too overwhelming.

KM x

jay11_2

Hi Kizzy, so sorry you're going through so much, I'd be wondering about the 'missing piece' too, but I do think he's being incredibly selfish--it's all me me me, I suspect the asking if you want anything is just to salve his conscience!!

D'you think he began enjoying the single life too much? One thing's for sure, he certainly isn't bothered about your feelings!

I'm all for keeping marriages going, and would go to hell and back for mine, but think I'd be cutting my losses now if my OH was doing what yours is. How DARE he say such a cruel, cutting, NASTY, thing to a lttle child, you need to distance emotionally from him hun, before he destroys your (and the kids) sense of self-worth. Doesn't he realise that they see you as part of their own identity?

As for going out when he's there, I know what you're sayng, but HIS relationship with his kids is not your responsibility, unless you think he's an actual danger to them? Time to bow out hun, kids aren't stupid, and it's up to him to build bridges with them. You'll have to let him get on with it at some point, so why drag it out--too painful, just start taking that time for you.

With work, maybe it's time to start building a kizzy future, I so wish i'd studied when my kids were young (subsidised childcare and lots more years in the doing something I love). I'm doing it now but it's hard with older kids...no childcare after age 11!! Is there anything you've always wanted to do? Could you start building dreams by planning something, just part time, for next year or the one after? Nothing like the prospect of earning good money/doing something that inspires you to spur you on.

Good luck hun!

kizzykizzywizzy

Does anyone have an Edinburgh phonebook please have just found out he HAS been cheating, she's still on the ship, want to ring her husband & put him out of his misery

bank_of_slate

I'm so sorry kizzy,
how did you find out?
...Linda xx

Keeping_Motivated

Oh god Kizzy that just sent me cold. You poor thing, thank god you found out now though and not further down the line. Can someone look after your children this evening while you spend a few hours gathering yourself and telling the husband etc?

Can you not find the number you need on line somehow?

Keeping_Motivated

www.192.com ?

Robbda

try http://www.thephonebook.bt.com/publisha.content/en/search/residential/search.publisha

I'm so sorry hun, i've been lurking for a while sending you hugs xxxx

Snaggles

I'm really sorry Kizzy. Not sure what to say really.

Keeping_Motivated

Make sure you keep all the emails he sent you telling you he loved you etc and the text messages so you can show her what he was saying to you while it was all going on.

So he is not only a cheat but a coward coz he completely denied it and the more noble thing would be to put you out of your misery so you realise that he has not fallen out of love with you because of anything you have done wrong it is because he fell for the temptation of someone else. Which I know doesn't make it any easier but more understandable his complete personality change.

Do you know this woman? Has she got children?

KM x

jay11_2

Aaw Kizzy, what an idiot, so sorry hun, hope things get sorted soon, nothing worse than being in limbo

((((hugs))))