Marriage over don't know where to start

scrooge2008

Hi Kizzy,

Think there is a missing piece in this jigsaw, and until you get to the bottom of it, it's not going to make any sense.

He owes it to you to talk this whole thing through, honestly. I would have thought that if there was an ongoing relationship with another person that he would have taken his mobile on holiday, but something is not right, there is something he is not telling you. Could you do a bit more detective work? When you know what you're dealing with then you'll be in a better position to decide the next steps.

Think you are handling this horrendous situation with remarkable dignity and character and he is being a total bast'd, but why????

chevalier

hi kizzy
glad that the holiday went as well as expected. Whilst I know that you are overwhelmed by it all now, you must try and sort out the paperwork for this. For one thing it might be the only thing that shocks OH back to his senses enough to get help with whatever is bothering him
chev

mickey_mouse

Just wanted to give you tons of hugs - so sorry you are having to deal with such bad times.:grouphug:

kizzykizzywizzy

scrooge2008 wrote: »

Hi Kizzy,

Think there is a missing piece in this jigsaw, and until you get to the bottom of it, it's not going to make any sense.

He owes it to you to talk this whole thing through, honestly. I would have thought that if there was an ongoing relationship with another person that he would have taken his mobile on holiday, but something is not right, there is something he is not telling you. Could you do a bit more detective work? When you know what you're dealing with then you'll be in a better position to decide the next steps.

Think you are handling this horrendous situation with remarkable dignity and character and he is being a total bast'd, but why????

Thanks I think you are right, something has happened - just don't know what, this is really the problem, I don't think I'm getting the whole picture, it's all just to weird for words. To be sending emails saying he loves me & is missing me like crazy & even on the day he told me to be sending me a birthday card saying he loves me, strange. If there is someone else they would've been on his ship, so he wouldn't be able to see them now anyway, & they probably don't live nearby when they do come off.
Thanks for the praise, but I've got to be honest & say I've put in a few digs & been a bit childish at times.
Will be phoning CAB today, if I can get through, I really don't want a divorce though

chevalier

maybe not but at the moment your OH seems to thinking that he does want to have a divorce, even if he hasn't thought through what this will mean with him.

As I said things starting to move with paperwork may be enough of a jolt for him to talk to SOMEONE. Is he in the forces? Are you able to talk to his CO at all?
chev

kizzykizzywizzy

Managed to get through to CAB, they are calling me back.
No Chev he's not in the armed forces, he just got a secondment for 18 months to get us out of debt, neither of us wanted to be apart, it was either do it, or lose the house etc.
This is all scaring me, just ringing CAB feels like it's all over. I just want this all to just go away

mumoftwins

Oh kizzy, its not all over just because you make enquiries as to how you stand financially etc :grouphug: but you really do need to know what to do should this be what happens. It will make you stronger knowing what you can and can't do and what you are entitled to moneywise. That in itself will help you when any firm decisions are made.

Sending you lots of hugs and warm wishes,

MOT xx

kizzykizzywizzy

Thanks MOT, they still haven't rung me back! Have been waiting to get in the shower, will get in the bath instead, I'm sure they'll ring as soon as I get in!:rotfl: Will take the phone in with me.
Have PM'd you

bank_of_slate

Hi kizzy and welcome back.
Whatever happens you have immense support on here, I hope you can draw some strength from it to focus on what's important - namely yourself and kids
...Linda xx

Mrs_Dawn

Hi Kizzy, only found your thread this morning, just read the whole lot.

SOAB! What is it with these bloomin men?

I am so sorry for you and the children.

You are a strong woman and don't ever forget that.

Big HUGS to you!

Dawn xx