Marriage over don't know where to start

gratefulone

Hi Kizzy. Just wanted to wish you and your family a really happy and enjoyable holiday. Have fun, eat, drink and be merry! Don't be afraid to let monkey wrench man mind the children while you do your own thing for a bit on hols. Take the time to really relax and enjoy yourself. Have a wonderful time.

:wave: :wave:

Needofhelp_2

Good luck.

I am currently going through a simliar thing, the wife just does not know what she wanted out of life (whole story below)

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1067443

and I know how hard it is, just keep your chin up

bank_of_slate

Hope Kizzy is having a great holiday!
...Linda xx

Fidget21

Fingers crossed!

Skint_Lynne

bank_of_slate wrote: »

Hope Kizzy is having a great holiday!
...Linda xx

When is she back Linda?

SL x

Bargainfinder_3

9th August

Skint_Lynne

She'll maybe post on Sunday, hope it's been good!!

kizzykizzywizzy

Hi folks
Well had a great holiday, what a fantastic place - really nice Hotel, went to Venice, Gardaland ( theme park ) waterpark, movieworld, went to monte baldo via a ferry on the lake & went up the mountain in a cable car, just would have been one of the best holidays ever - BUT no change on the marraige front.
We did row, but only about all this, other than that, as we usually do we got on really well, so I'm still at a mystery as to what I've done!
Anyway, that's that, so now need to sort the finances out, have no idea how we are going to survive, as although now debt free, our outgoings even though cut to as low as possible ( although I never did cap elec/gas:o ) we have about £115 to pay for food, petrol,school trips, presents, xmas, holidays, ( that's a laugh, won't be doing that again ) mot, haircuts etc obviously now I need to sort all that out. He will also need money to rent a room & live!!! - I'm sure this amount will go up a bit via working families & reduction on council tax, but really fed up that after 18 months ( whilst he was away ) worked so hard to clear debt, scrimped & saved, to have to go back to that again & be on my own again, is actually too much to take in at the moment.
He stayed on the sofa last night, but I don't want him here today, so will try & get rid of him soon.
Mouse update, came home to find it dead, so must have been badly injured by monkey wrench.
Also my Dad had another fall, & had to go to hospital, he's drinking less, but has a balance problem with his ears, which is causing him to fall all the time.
So life is great!!

Keeping_Motivated

Awe Kizzy I am so sorry things did not change while you were away. Even though I don't know you I was really hoping for a happy ending for you. Did you both talk about the whys, hows, whens etc? Is he still adament that its the right thing to do? Do you still think he might be depressed having spent so much time with him?

Sorry for all the questions.

KM x

Skint_Lynne

Nice to see you back Kizzy,

I'm glad you had a lovely holiday and didn't let anything spoil it for you. Well, he has had ample chance to see that he is making a mistake, although there is still time for him to change his mind, it's time that you moved on and started thinking about you and a life for yourself: (you will know all of this anyway).

1. Go for some legal advice, you will need to make sure that you have a roof over your head for the wee ones, that is very important, (your DH is the one that is making himself homeless because of his actions).

2. What about work? Are you going to stick with the school dinners or is there anything else that you could do around the kids? Do you have anyone that could look after them if you need to do more hours?

3. Get a social life. You need to make time for you. The forums are great and everyone is real enough, but you will need to get out there and do some living with people you can see. If DH asks where you are going, it will be none of his business, and make sure he does his share of childcare.

It's a blessing that you don't have any debt now because it would have made the situation a whole lot worse. I hope that you will look back at this in a couple of years time and think that you are a whole lot better off than you are now.

Speak soon,

SL x