Marriage over don't know where to start

star-X_2

i had to check up on this thread before i went to bed, its abit difficult as the cat is near enough on the keyboard, i dotn mind as shes a bit moody anyway(she knows how beautiful she is and takes advantage!) Shes half moved, makes it easier to type, shes giving me evils though lol. Hope all is well, im getting paranoid as the thread has gone quiet, hope i havent offended anyonw (apart from my cat, she has to learn the world doesnt revolve around her, it does though and doesnt she know it, as shes demonstrating, its taking me ages to type this, im sure she would be great for your mouse Kizzy, id rather she just scared the mouse though rather thatn killed it, im quite sensitive that way! She has bought me a bird a few times, the situation that arouse, well, im sure you can imagine, it involved me aaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, but in that i had to be pleased that shed given me a pressie!!!! im gonna have to go, the amount of times ive had to sort out spelling because of a cats bum on the keyys!!! Its pathetic lol, i wish you all the best, thinking of you and love sent xxx Ive just burnt the hairs on my nose, this night isnt going well, send me the mouse for gods sake lol x

jay11_2

Aaw don't worry star-x, just gone quiet cos Kizzy said she's gone to bed, (I've been following but busy and couldn't say anything that hadn't been said already, so just thinking positive thoughts). My cat does that with birds--I hate it cos they always ultimately die (shock), and it means I can't have a birdtable. Have a good night

Careful_with_that_Axe

Kizzy, just come across your thread and just want to say that you are doing so well. It's a horrible time for you and anyone who has gone through a marriage break-up can empathise with absolutely everything you are going through.

It's a terrible time of turmoil and you just need to keep taking deep breaths and putting one foot in front of the other. It's almost impossible to do at the time this is happening, but trust that if you do this, that however things do turn out in the end, you will be OK.

The heart pounding and sick feeling are an overdose of adrenalin, you know, fight or flight? Whilst I am tempted to say to get rid of it by socking him in the chops, I found the best way to get rid of this was by using the adrenalin up/burning it off with some cushion punching or aerobics on the spot.
Of course, if you have any cardiac problems or high blood pressure, I wouldn't recommend this!
I do hope that the holiday goes OK and isn't too much of a strain. Don't forget to go off for your own on a few days and leave him looking after the kids whilst you do your own thing.
Hugs to you
J
x

Fidget21

Hi Kizzy

Just wanted to wish you all the best for the holiday, hope you manage to enjoy yourself. If you haven't been to Italy before just try and put aside the tension and appreciate all it has to offer.

I would also say, take advantage of any interest shown to you by the sexy Italian men!! After all, if your OH isn't interested he shouldn't mind if somebody else is!!! It will be a good way to gauge his real feelings by his reaction.

On a more serious note. If he does start to come around and show more of an interest in you, you need to talk with him and make sure it is an interest that will continue when you return home. It can be very easy to become swept up in the atmosphere of a place like Italy and the romance of Venice, but it will only make matters worse if it is only something he wants to pursue because of the location and situation. I don't mean to be a doom and gloom merchant but he has hurt you and I just don't want him setting you up for more hurt when you get home (Oh if only I could sit him down and give him a good talking to...I don't even know you really but even I can see what a good thing he is trying to throw away....the numpty!!).

Anyways, take care, will be thinking of you (how long are you away for?) and make sure you post when you get back. xx

kizzykizzywizzy

Thanks everyone, had a really good nights sleep, he really did me some good being a !!!!!! - I haven't been upset at all!
You are right fidget, I will certainly lay down some ground rules IF it starts going OK.
Yes, really looking forward to seeing some yummy Italian men:rotfl:
CWTA I had my blood pressure done at the Doctors yesterday & it was fine, he also weighed me - love his scales I was 8 stone ! I am 8 stone 5 on mine, just over a week ago, on mine I was 9 stone 2!! this is the best bit about all of this, I don't want to lose any more, but even though I'm slightly orange:p , I feel pretty damn good! ( I'm only 5ft 2" so don't worry ) was 8-10, now definately an 8!!
Star - X I've never used an internet cafe, well once, to ring home from Barbados ( god he's had an awful time with me:rolleyes: fancy me dragging him on that awful holiday! ) which we did via computer, but the man in the cafe did it for me.
I turn the computer off when he's here as I don't want him sneaking a peak at any emails etc, as he was obviously getting really narked when I was upstairs typing away ( I thump the keys ) & kept coming in to see what I was doing :mad: so I told him to knock!
Anyway a bit behind, mouse is still about, it's nibbled some lagging from a radiator pipe, I don't want to kill it either & the noise it made yesterday was just awful!
Fab friend popping in today, on the way home from her cruise! have known her since me & DH got together, she knows us both well.
Have a great day:D

mumoftwins

Morning Kizzy!

Have a lovely day with your friend, get all your packing done and any chores that you want to do before going away then hopefully you'll be so tired that you will sleep well tonight too.

Have a lovely holiday and soak up that wonderful atmosphere that is so prevalant in Italy - but make sure that what ever happens with your OH whilst you are there is what you really want to happen!

See you when you get back - which is when by the way?

Love MOT xx

kpwll

Mornin kizzy,
Glad to hear you had a good sleep, doesn't it make a difference how you view and cope with things when you're not tired?
Hope that you and the kiddies have a great holiday and that hubby makes sure that you do.
Take care.
Karen x

kizzykizzywizzy

We're back on the 9th August.
I will come & let you know how things are.
Myself & the kids are going to have a great time, whatever
He's text me this morning with any sign of the mouse? - I haven't replied, I'm sort of expecting an apology after the way he was might die before I get it though:rotfl:

Keeping_Motivated

Hi Kizzy, if you don't feel like eating try and make sure you have smoothies, fresh juice, home made soups at the very least just so you keep the vitamin intake and you need them to keep looking good to show him what he is missing. He is not seeing the children much so the least he can do is keep his patience when he does see them, surely it should be quality time.

I hope you still manage to have a good holiday despite the situation I really do. You should be REALLY proud of yourself how you are dealing with this. Remember hour by hour is the way to deal with it for now, baby steps one step at a time.

Take care
KM x

rog2

Just try and enjoy your holiday, kizzy - the mouse, along with your other problems, can wait a couple of weeks. :beer: