Marriage over don't know where to start

kizzykizzywizzy

Gert I'm the same, want him - don't want him

It's never ever going to happen now, maybe he might want me back a few months down the line when he's been dumped by the moose & he's broke & unhappy, but by then I'll have moved on.
I wish I could just get the ball rolling on the divorce, I might see when I go for the free consultation, whether she can get things moving, so it's all guns blazing on 1st October

Chip_Hazard

Forgive me for the ignorance, Kizzy, but why do you have to wait till the 1st October again? Can't you book an appointment now for the 1st or, better still, see a solicitor now and get the ball rolling?

dellybelly_2

Kizzy - I've been given some advice about divorce etc and it's quite sound.... don't do it.

If you're currently on benefits, you'll get legal aid and he'll not have to pay anything. As you have grounds for divorce (his infidelity) it will go through a lot quicker. If he has to divorce you, he has to pay all the legal costs

If you make him sue you for divorce he has to wait 5 years as he has no grounds.... why hand him to the moose on a plate?

Gert - really tired this morning. Kept meaning to have an early night all week and still haven't made it to bed before 12. I'm really tired and can't decide if it's totm or if it's just stress.

Am dropping DS off with the ex this morning and am debating whether to go into town and finish getting his uniform for nursery or if I should just come home and go to bed for a couple of hours.

trancebabe

Morning Ladies & Chip (welcome back btw... )

Hope you're all ok this morning:

Kizzy - like that positive start, change those pics, bag up those CD's and whatever else you can find. Bless your DS turning the alarm off... I know the feeling... I just wanted to stay under the duvet this morning too!!

SFH - can't help but worry about you hun... take care of yourself

Gerti - you're a demon when you get going - what progress you've made iin the last couple of days. Loving the designer specs and the new drive you seem to have found - keep up the momentum hun!

Jules - In your shoes I would probably get Mum to look after DS1 during your stay in hospital of the basis that H is under enough pressure and DS1 is going to have enough to deal with without a shouty impatient Dad. He might not like it but his recent behaviour is a little worrying for sure.

btw... I'm really looking forward to being a cyber auntie... :j

Not sure what all that was from Robster last night, but Tes - if you're reading this then I won't be counted in the 'you're not liked' comment. I can speak for myself and I personally enjoyed reading your posts and felt you had a lot of valid points to make

Have a nice day all
xx

trancebabe

dellybelly wrote: »

Am dropping DS off with the ex this morning and am debating whether to go into town and finish getting his uniform for nursery or if I should just come home and go to bed for a couple of hours.

Hmmm.... I would get the uniform done... maybe you and DS can have a snooze together later!
But please look after you - try and get a few earlier nights in if you can!!!

You're doing fab btw!!!

peaceandfreedom

robster1964 wrote: »

I will make it simple,get lost...............


waste your breathe,u're right, u r not liked.

And yes my name is Robster, ur advice is not at all difficult to swallow.

It's great advice coming from a sad, childless, marriageless, prob some sort of
swinging hairy faced !!!!!..... (.. snip more abusive foul-mouthed rants)

I can not see anything in tesuhoha's posts to warrant the responses she's getting from you, robster. She only tried to give advice, and that's fair enough. If you don't agree with it, you can say so nicely. Your posts to her have been rude, aggressive and abusive. There's no call for it whatsoever and no excuse.

Generally, your posts are littered with foul language and always sound like they are written by someone slightly deranged. Get a grip, because you are spoiling this thread with your wild rantings.

scottishfreebiehunter

Robster is just trying to look out for us all!yes maybe post was a little confusing though not done in any malicious ,she just doesnt want to see us getting hurt anymore
Yes we post here for support though sometimes it is not easy to walk away and ignore what has been a big part of our life for so long.
My ds has been up most of the night screaming and crying and tbh oh doesnt seem to give a damn ,he advised me that I have not to text unless life or death,so be it he is going to be the loser big time,as i said to him this morning if I ever meet anyone and he moves in with me and spends more time with ds,then he will start to become non exsistant and if this is how he wants to play it then so be it.
Had enough of everything today and yes some may think stupid moo move on but if it was that easy i would.

scottishfreebiehunter

And if Robster sounds deranged god help what I or others day.
Maybe time for me to put this to rest on here as some are not understanding of feelings etc

trancebabe

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

My ds has been up most of the night screaming and crying and tbh oh doesnt seem to give a damn ,he advised me that I have not to text unless life or death,so be it he is going to be the loser big time,as i said to him this morning if I ever meet anyone and he moves in with me and spends more time with ds,then he will start to become non exsistant and if this is how he wants to play it then so be it.
Had enough of everything today and yes some may think stupid moo move on but if it was that easy i would.

HUGS SFH... you're right - he is a looser... in more sense than one

I find your OH laughable and if I were you, I would continue to text him in matters regarding his son (but don't expect a reply) and keep it factual! On that basis, your DS knows that his Dad is being kept in the loop, and your OH can't accuse you of not keeping him in the loop!

Obviously when you're in OZ you'll both be having way to much fun to even think about the idiot!!!

If only it was that easy... but you're still here, still breathing and please know that it will get easier for you both... just one day at a time sweetie... you and your son... one day at a time!

L-M

Scottishfreebiehunter

Please forgive me if I upset you it is honestly not my intention at what must be such an awful and vunerable time for you, but I can't help but be concerned about your son.

I have a son the same age, and whilst I know relationship breakups are devastating for children especially the way in which your ex has treated you.... he does seem to be having an especially awful time

Ithimk being upset and crying are obviously normal reactions but to be up all night screaming and crying at his age does seem to be excessive??

Perhaps some family therapy would help? And believe me I know how tough it is but maybe you could try putting on a happy face for him even when your upset, he seems to be struggling so much bless him

I hope you both find a way to get through this