Marriage over don't know where to start

kizzykizzywizzy

tes - bless, I didn't get hurt by it at all, look I've told him I'd have him back on my stalker day last week, since then I've been out I've only rung as DS has been so upset.
I know I'm too soft, but I just wanted the "perfect family" & not being able to have that is too much to bear sometimes. I think another part of me wants him to want me so I can say no - though that would probably backfire & I'd say yes!
I'd like you to stay, but if you really can't thanks for your input, it's good to hear good & bad things & to be wary of phoning etc as you'll get told off on here:D

Deep down myself & SFH know we wont get back with ex's, we said tonight, I also know I won't meet a millionaire & marry him - but we can dream:p
take care x

kizzykizzywizzy

Night I'm gone xxxx

gettingbetter

hi all

just wanted to say that i am not ignoring anyone
i work nights but i do keep up with the thread
i dont know what i want to be honest all i know is that i cant carry on like this
oh is not one for arguing he would rather walk away
i just cant seem to get through to him
god this is so hard
i want to tell him to go but am scared to as he has no where to go (not really my problem i know) my kids will probably hate me (whats new there then) i am always the bad one cause i lay down the rules
this will sound so silly but if i tell him to leave. what will the neighbours think (they all think the sun shines out his !!!)
it is all so confusing
sorry to go on
kas xx

Chip_Hazard

robster1964 wrote: »

IMHO Gert, I may be wrong......

But that person is not someone I want posting around you guys!

Robster in a Stropster! xxx

You arrogant mare. Tesuhoha has been posting decent common sense advice for a while on here now. Your advice has been okay up to now but to make that comment above is the highest arrogance.

You posted several days ago that you hadn't made your mind up on me yet. Whoopie-doo, so what. I am a 40-year-old man who has been through this but from the perspective of a man hence my advice is from the other side but totally relevant. I should say "I don't care what you think of me" but in truth, I do. However I'm not going to temper my advice just because you might not like it.

I'm hoping that post was drink-fuelled. Either way, you should apologise to Tesuhoha; she, like many others on here, has taken the time to give the OP her advice and just because you don't agree with it, no need to be rude.

Chip_Hazard

boredmarriedwithkids wrote: »

SFH...understand completely...but, how long can you maintain this? Your health and that of you kids are not worth it!

It will become a charade...gotta move on girl!

SFH,

Your attitude in all of this is now affecting the child and should STOP NOW. He is your first, second and third priority and should be the complete focus of your attention along with some time for yourself. Your OH has gone, he's never coming back, get over it and get used to it. All this hate you have for him is eating you up inside, you're getting upset and it's transferring to DS.

BMAK - it won't become a charade, it already is one.

Chip_Hazard

robster1964 wrote: »

I will make it simple,get lost...............


waste your breathe,u're right, u r not liked.

And yes my name is Robster, ur advice is not at all difficult to swallow.

It's great advice coming from a sad, childless, marriageless, prob some sort of
swinging hairy faced !!!!!.....

Don't you dare degredate their relationship, into something that depends on looks, tits and !!!.........

For some, maybe....

I am going to bed, and i AM SO MAD WITH THAT F U C K A!! aaaaaRGH!!!

Robster XXX

Robster, you are bang out of order with this.:mad:

Everyone's advice is as worthy as the next person's and you have downgraded the thread to a abusive slanging match.

For anyone even hoping to meet up with this person, I'd think twice before doing so. Just bookmark the thread, look at this page and think on....

lesley1960

robster1964 wrote: »

I will make it simple,get lost...............


waste your breathe,u're right, u r not liked.

And yes my name is Robster, ur advice is not at all difficult to swallow.

It's great advice coming from a sad, childless, marriageless, prob some sort of
swinging hairy faced !!!!!.....

Don't you dare degredate their relationship, into something that depends on looks, tits and !!!.........

For some, maybe....

I am going to bed, and i AM SO MAD WITH THAT F U C K A!! aaaaaRGH!!!

Robster XXX

I suggest you do re read the original post , I realy cant see how you managed to read it as you have , and to reply to another poster in such a manner is appalling , and to think others thaned your post is beyond belief

gerturdeanna

I don't know - I go to bed and it all kicks off!!
Robster - mate, you were a bit out of order and I really do think you have just misunderstood what Tesuhoha was saying - the way I understood it was that we have to be strong and if we have an chance at all in the world of getting our ex's back, then we have to be strong, independant and not a doormat. I don't think it was directed at anyone, although may have been posted more for Kizzys benefit as she was seeming to have had a bad day yesterday.
Tesuhoha - come back and post, everyone is entitled to their opinion, and I for one, thought it was a valid point.
Kizzy - hows DS this morning?
SFH - Hows your DS this morning?
Delly - hows you?
Julie - bump still there?!?!

I agree with a meet-up, that sounds great!! Although, I think maybe Robster needs to lay off the cherryade that weekend!!:D

Was in bed last night, just dropping off when I get a text - its from SSS saying whats wrong. u seem very distant?
So I sent back: i'm giving u space to make up ur mind, thats what u want ain't it? i cant be with u mentally or physically whilst you are unsure of what u want, it aint fair on you and it certainly aint fair on ME!!

I didn't get a reply! He told me before he left last night that he can't pick DS up from school as his friend/boss has asked him to drive him to the airport and SSS said he couldn't really refused. Well my opinion is that yes, he could have. Thats time with his son and daughter he is going to miss out on!!

Going late night shopping tonight in the next town over - they have an Ann Summers there!! hehe!! I think I'll have a nosy in there later!!

kizzykizzywizzy

Morning Gert,
DS seems fine this morning, I couldn't wake up & kept turning the alarm off!
So your hubby has noticed you are distant?? at last one of them has noticed something:beer: :j :T :wall:

Keep at it Gerti, it will go either way

Another day for me to get through, think I'll go through the CD's & put his in a bin bag, & change the photos in the frames downstairs & the one of us 2 in my bedroom. Something positive to do:D

gerturdeanna

Defo Kizzy - do something nice for you today!! Be it have a soak in the bath or read a favourite magazine - my positives are that I'm going to the docs to see about patches or whatever to stop smoking and get cream for my rash on my legs (nice - I know - probably caused by stress!!) and late night shopping including Ann Summers!!! Will check out various devices, do a detailed review and erm choose! hehe - will let you all know later - of course!! hehe!! oh and buy through Quidco or such for cheaper - we are of course on a moneysaving forum!! hehe

Yep, I am glad that he thinks something is up and has noticed that I've been distant - at least he's paying some kind of attention to me - although it is like going from one extreme to another, begging him to stay and kissing all the time, to standing at the door waiting for him to leave and only asking/answering questions about the kids!!
And 4 days on from my decision on Monday, I still feel exactly the same. If he wants me, fight for me (alhough I've mentally added in an extra bit - do it quick cos I'm drifting away fast!!!!) Knowing SSS by the time he gets his !!!! into gear and maybe decides that yes he does want me - I'll no longer want him!! I have the power!! http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=etjpVzSGqh4