Marriage over don't know where to start

scottishfreebiehunter

I agree Rikki as now the f wit is sitting playing play station with him.
Seriously like jekyll and Hyde:rolleyes:
He will be going soon I would think back to the s l u t and I will be left to deal with ds ,all the ulcers in his mouth are crazy.
Told him up to him what he does with dogs etc as he said he would take them and then he had cheek to give me a lecture about money and how i need to get a life :rolleyes:
T O S S E R:D

Kizzy its as if they kids know they can push us to the limit
Gert has you or youre oh had any further thoughts on you being together yet

gerturdeanna

Everyone has bad moments Kizz, don't beat yourself up over it. I've shouted at mine a lot recently too. They are in bed now, and hopefully snoring soon!!
They didn't ask to call OH and he hasn't called them and he knows they go to bed at 7. I sent him a text this morning with the mortgage details on, reminding him to pay it, he never replied to that either. If he doesn't get it sorted by the end of the week, I'll be going to the solictors to get that sorted!
Going to have an hour or so infront of the tele. Back later.

scottishfreebiehunter

He is sitting in front of me and i looked up and a second I thought god this is how it used to be.
Another part is saying he is evil oh for goodness sake sfh get a grip
Gerti its hard especially for the kids and us and feel sick,I want to stop him coming but not fair on ds.
Yip and kizzy do not beat yourself up about it as done that also

gerturdeanna

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

Gert has you or youre oh had any further thoughts on you being together yet

I've decided that I ain't going to flog an almost dead horse anymore, if he really truly wants me and the kids and is prepared to commit to us, then thats fine, but he's going to have to fight for me. No more sex or kissing or even hugging from me until he can sort himself out. I'm not something he can pick up and drop down whenever he wants - although the sex has been loads better than before, sometimes instigated by me, sometimes by him. But as someone said (can't remember who - sorry!!), he isn't my husband anymore and until he decides he wants to be that, my legs and other places including my heart are firmly shut.
Will just have to place an order with Lovehoney or Ann Summers! hehe
No more for a while!!

As for him, I have no idea. Sometime we sit and talk about the future, moving house, going on dates, whatever and then other times, he just ain't bothered. So until he can be bothered, I'm on my own!!

kizzykizzywizzy

They are in bed already, usually try to get them to bed 7.30 weekdays, I think they realise i'm not taking any more! They've been arguing most of the evening & DS screams & it does my head in

kizzykizzywizzy

Gerti - I think there's 15% off ann summers on quidco at the moment!
I think you are right to make him do the running, why isn't he answering your texts, I think he really is undecided, the way he chops & changes from making plans & then not!
SFH - He is evil - you are right, don't forget what he has done to you & DS & is continuing to do without any remorse

scottishfreebiehunter

Hopefully they go to sleep soon Kizzyxxx

Love the smiley gert not had any since the 18th july:eek:


Do you think if I smacked him over head with laptop I would get away with it or shove him in wheelie bin:D
I feel all soppy and sad until he opens his nasty mouth

ds neck all swollen and i want to smack t w a t on head

kizzykizzywizzy

Something my Sister told me today has really put me off ever getting back with DFS too.
Her EX said to her that sex was really good with the s lag he was with because she hadn't had kids!
Well that repulsed me & really upset her at the time, which is another reason why I would never want to know any details

kizzykizzywizzy

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

i want to smack t w a t on head

:eek: :eek: What are you a gymnast or something:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Rikki

My youngest was only two when I separated and I found it hard work. I dedicated much time to him to make him feel loved and secure. He had never slept through and I was getting little sleep at night and had to get up and do the school run in the morning.
I used to get very tired and frustrated. I kept the the normal routine of bedtimes and meals no matter how difficult that became. If you have to stay an read to them or sit on the bed and just talk to them for an extra half and hour or so do it. Leave the computer and be with them, they need you.

Mine saw their Dad every other weekend so this gave me the two weeks to keep the routine going and let their dad do as he wished with them and once back in my house they knew the rules. It didn't always run smoothly but I stuck to my guns and eventually it all worked out.
Sometimes I'd crawl into bed as soon as they were asleep totally exhausted other times I'd lie awake my mind racing and worrying about all my problems.

Try not to take your frustration out on the children (so easy to say rather than do I know). Talk to them constantly, answer their questions in a language they will understand and not with to many promises you may not be able to for fill. Explain when they do things wrong the consequences of their actions, don't let them laugh at you. Talk them through the situation.

The hardest thing and the most important thing. Don't bad mouth their father or the woman he's seeing. Its this tit for tat that children pick up on and use to manipulate one parent against the next. Don't give them that ammunition!