Marriage over don't know where to start

lotties_mum

Save the phone photos and show them to the solicitor.As bandraoi said keep a diary of events. Adultery, domestic violence its not looking very rosy for him is it???

lotties_mum

Serves the moose right she's in for a great life, he is so controlling. Did you keep trying to keep the peace so he wouldn't get wound up when you were married Kizzy?

kizzykizzywizzy

No, but to be honest I didn't really want to be a cow, I just want to do this as easily as I can, the kids are the most important thing.
I've been so worried that he'll change his mind about the money, that I don't want to bring too much of this up!

kizzykizzywizzy

Probably lottie, I never noticed at the time & to be honest, we didn't have big arguments very often at all, so the Hulk incidents were a long time ago, although, since this he has done 1 hulk:p
I can honestly say i wasn't unhappy though, as we did get on so well & had a lot of fun together & were really good friends, shared the same ideas & goals - I just don't know what happened.
When he used to come home from the ship, I was forever trying to keep the kids quiet though, so he didn't get snappy with them, I just thought it was too much noise for him after being "alone" ( ha! ) in his cabin

lotties_mum

I wouldn't mention any of this to him but keep records for yourself so that if he does get awkward you have the ammunition handy via solicitors etc. It's better to be over prepared than underprepared. As for the money you need to get this sorted out because he is already using it as a hold over you. I don't want to sound a hard nose cow or too blunt but the more you get legally sorted out before she gets off the ship and on the loose The better for you and your children.

kizzykizzywizzy

She's not off until next year - this WILL be sorted October.
I did say to him can't your girlfriend subsidise you??? :rotfl: no reply!

lotties_mum

You may also find he will be a moody difficult sod this week, because you had a great night out last night and didn't let him stay. Have you spoken to him yet?

lotties_mum

You are sounding more positive than ever.

kizzykizzywizzy

No haven't spoken to him yet, he did ask last night what time to come around Sunday, I was drunk:o so said anytime really, just not too early so we can possibly have a lie in ( never happens:rolleyes: )
He should be ringing today to talk to the kids, so I'll sort that out then.
I'm so glad I didn't talk to him last night, because I had such a fun time, it might have ruined my evening. Plus I didn't actually want to!
As I've said yesterday was THE turning point for me.

elona

Kizzy

Please document everything and back date the incident with the bruise and get witnesses for the incident at the school.

He is sounding more of a "charmer" every day!!!!