Marriage over don't know where to start

scottishfreebiehunter

Glad you had a good night Kizzy xxxxxxxxxxxxxx


I have been told to f off you c o w when speaking to idiot this morning about our son who is so sad and crying etc etc still

Think I will cut off all contact for now as to upsetting for him,not sure what to do to be honest

bunty109

Kizzy, sounds horrid how he behaved at the school. He really is a stupid man if he thinks he can behave in that way in fornt of a shed load of witnesses and then try and turn it on you!!

It sounds like you had a really good time when you went out so I'm really pleased for you. And well done for sending him home (although they way he behaved, what did he expect?)!!!

scottishfreebiehunter

gerturdeanna wrote: »

Get yourself a MaccyD's breakfast - not good for the diet but does wonders for a hangover!!
Monday morn et yourself a proper appointment - have you got your income supprt papers through yet -if so it'll be free, no charge as you'll get legal aid. Find out what you are entitled too, and screw him over!! He is a stupid man and if you are now frightened of him, I would mention that also. You may even want to think about pressing charges for threatening behaviour?
Up to you - you have the power right now - you have all those witnesses at the school - who will all now be thinking what a stupid man also!!
Keep strong Kizzy and don't let him win!!

:T:T:Texactly and as much as we still stupidly love them time to get nasty as I have had it now alsoxx

mumoftwins

Had a friend call in a day or so ago, she admitted to me that her DH had an affair 3 years ago with a Mum from school who lives very near to them (so near that my friend can see her house from her bedroom window). It all came to a head and she and DH have made a go of their marriage but the other woman and her husband split up. However, she now thinks DH has another mobile phone as she found a supermarket till receipt from when he went shopping recently with a mobile top up and the number on it. So, she obviously thinks he's at it again! She thinks its with the same woman as she's on her own, but it could be with someone else. He must see this woman in work time as he doesn't go out without my friend.

She told sometime back that if they split she would be fine on her own and that she would cope with their 2 children - he wasn't impressed as he likes to think he's needed. He is younger than by a few years but is ofteb told that he looks older than my friend, so it could be an ego thing with him in that he needs to feel wanted and adored - aren't men pathetic?

Keeping_Motivated

Mumoftwins I think that reading between the lines that Kizzys stupid man is the same. He needs/wants to be needed and when he isn't he gets nasty. Deep down he may not have liked that she was going out and I think the more independence she gets the worse he may become. How twisted is that when he started all this and its supposed to be what he wants. Greedy, selfish and self centred/spoilt.

These men want to do exactly what they want to make them feel good but they also want people to think they are good men and get angry/defensive if you point out the opposite. UNBELIEVEABLE

lotties_mum

Do you think he was looking for an excuse to upset you, to spoil your night out. It's quite common, i think he's beginning to feel threatened that you are starting to build your own life.

Keeping_Motivated

lotties_mum wrote: »

Do you think he was looking for an excuse to upset you, to spoil your night out. It's quite common, i think he's beginning to feel threatened that you are starting to build your own life.

I agree.

Poor Kizzy he doesn't like it when she is begging him back and 'going round in circles' and doesn't like when she leaves him alone and trys to move on!

Kizzy DO WHAT YOU WANT from now on and do not consider how it will affect him or how he will react from now on it needs to be about YOU. Take control now.

lotties_mum

I bet he hates it more that you are going out, looking nice and having a great time. Than you chasing him and inflating his ego. Keep it up!!!

gerturdeanna

Keep it up indeed!! Whens your next night out planned, Kizzy? Make it soon and get him to babysit again!!

Mumoftwins, has your friend tried ringing the phone number or sending a text or something? Does sound a bit dodgy or maybe it is innocent and he was toppig up for one of his mates? Maybe it is even a present for your friend and he was topping it up before he gave it to her? There could be loads of explantions...has she tried asking him?

SFH - Again, yes, do whats right for you and your DS - I also think maybe you should get DS booked in at docs for an appointment for a counsellor or something? He is old enough to understand whats going on and he isobv extremly hurt and angry by everything. And everyday when you get stronger, DS makes you weaker again by getting upset or throwing a tantrum - hope that has come out the right way, am not putting you or DS down, but obv it has hit him very badly and I know at least in this area, Relate do sessions for children whose parents have split up. It gives them time to vent their frustrations without actually taking it out on the parent thats looking after them, I hope that makes sense. I just think that he needs some help too.

kizzykizzywizzy

Thanks everyone, he doesn't want me KM, he just likes to pretend he's such a nice person!
He'd obviously wound himself up in the day, for one he'd rung a solicitor to find out his rights!
Then in his little twisted mind - he really thought I'd purposely made him go to the wrong entrance! even though I told him front playground as they are doing building work in the back playground, but when I told him the times to pick them up he was getting all confused, so I don't think he took it in, but I wasn't to know that!
I just got so much attention last night, I feel a bit embarrased because I was such a flirt, the club photographer was taking photos of the dancers that work there ( they were a bit grim ) I said take sime photos of me I'm prettier than them & started posing for photos:rotfl: :rotfl: He even took a photo of my shoe!! I keep remembering all the mad things I did