Marriage over don't know where to start

kizzykizzywizzy

Oh my god - just typed a humungous post & it's gone!

kizzykizzywizzy

Ok the gist of the other post was - DFS supposed to be meeting me at school to pick up kids - wasn't there!
Me mad, thinking he'd forgotten & thought great can't rely on him.
Then get phone call saying am I at the wrong side ( of the school ? ) I said you must be idiot! ( A bit rude - but I was annoyed )
Anyway picked DD up then have to go straight to DS school to pick him up still no sign of DFS, then phone rang & he was screaming where are you?? I said outside the school, he came down the road stuck his finger in my face & in front of kids & everyone said you've gone too f ing far this time!!! & continued to abuse me all down the road, I asked him to stop as he was upsetting the kids. He said I'd planned it that he went to the wrong place ( I swear on my kids lives I didn't ) I told him to go to the front playground, why would I want to upset the children? He said I've given you the benefit of the doubt so many times ( no idea what that was about? ) he said I'm entitled to so much more etc etc he was just evil spewing venom!
will continue in a min don't want to lose this again

kizzykizzywizzy

he did apologise, but by now, I was so scared, I was shaking & my face was twitching, I really thought he was going to hit me. I didn't accept the apology. He said I love my children & I've got the right to see them as much as I want, I said you should have thought about that before you dropped your trousers! He said - Why do you think I did it? putting up with YOU?!
Then he said oooo lost your temper, must make a note for the solicitor! ( what after he's done what he did in front of the school! )
So anyway got home,he was still apologising, I just said go in another room I don't want you near me, poured myself a glass of wine, I really needed it, I was still shaking & this was 20 mins later! Rang Sis & SFH & really stayed on the phone until he took kids to beavers.

kizzykizzywizzy

I got ready whilst they were out & he said you look nice I said I know - thank you:rotfl:
Went out had a meal at strada, nothing special, but at least we got to chat. Went to bar had loads of eye contact from one bloke moved to another bar but it was really boring in there, so ended up going in a club, & I danced so much it was great, I was quite drunk too:o though I had loads of water.
Bloke from other bar was in there - still kept eyeing me up & touched my arm, when i went to the loos, but didn't speak to me. Then we sat down & a bloke from Newcastle started talking to me he was 31, guess what? he's in the NAVY:eek: I chatted to him for quite a while then some good music came on so went & danced. Friends wanted to leave, so we did, didn't get blokes number. He was ok, but nothing special. I was the biggest flirt out too - I was drunk though:o
Got home just past midnight, asked if kids were ok, he said yes, he said do you want me to stay for a bit for a chat, I said no thanks. Thanks for looking after them bye & off he went.
Yesterday the finger in my face was the straw that broke the camel's back - i don't want him.

gerturdeanna

OMG!! What a !!!!!!!!! What the hell was that all about?!?!

gerturdeanna

Glad you had a good night out - and see you can pull if you want too!! And good on ya for not letting him stay the night!! OOOOHHHH I AM SOOO PROUD OF YOU KIZZY!! hehe!!

kizzykizzywizzy

Thanks Gert, I was honestly terrified of him, he'd spoke to a solicitor & was going on about what he can have etc, he was awful.
I feel a bit fragile today - lucky I drank all that water though

gerturdeanna

Get yourself a MaccyD's breakfast - not good for the diet but does wonders for a hangover!!
Monday morn et yourself a proper appointment - have you got your income supprt papers through yet -if so it'll be free, no charge as you'll get legal aid. Find out what you are entitled too, and screw him over!! He is a stupid man and if you are now frightened of him, I would mention that also. You may even want to think about pressing charges for threatening behaviour?
Up to you - you have the power right now - you have all those witnesses at the school - who will all now be thinking what a stupid man also!!
Keep strong Kizzy and don't let him win!!

Keeping_Motivated

Kizzy he is on the edge, he must be cracking up!? Has he ever done lost his temper like that before?
How did the kids react to it all? First time he has seen them in a week and he couldn't put them before anything?! OMG.
Did anyone that you know see the way he was treating you, you may need a witness at some point.

Funny that he has what he wants but yet he is SO angry at you...Very strange!

You were amazing to have just said no thanks and let him go home especially when drunk coz it would have been very easy to get emotional or start another argument so be proud of yourself. He must be ashamed of himself not only about the affair but about his behaviour ever since he came back! STUPID MAN!

gerturdeanna

KM says the right things all the time!! And so much better than my long ramblings!!