Marriage over don't know where to start

kizzykizzywizzy

The one friend used to go to is still on! It's a Sunday night though, which is a bit poop. Perhaps I'll go every other week or something as I don't want him to have them all weekend, or I won't get to see them, except for evenings when we have so much to fit in before bed!

gerturdeanna

So true!! Yes, go every other week - I would love to do that - is it a known brand of pub, maybe there are some up here!! I'll check yellow pages!

scottishfreebiehunter

sorry K battery went on phone will call later or tomorrow to much yacking made it go flat:o:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

It is hard and he is going to be loser

kizzykizzywizzy

No Gert it's not, I'll see what it's like in a couple of weeks, going out next Saturday ( for some reason thought Friday! ) so won't be able to do next week, but may try the one after, just hope there's a few people there or will be embarassing!

kizzykizzywizzy

No probs SFH - speak soon

gerturdeanna

If there isn't many people there, then more attention on you!! Good!!
I'm logging off now as OH will be round soon, going for a bath and then off to the circus and then I think he's buying tea - hope so - I'm all spent up now after shopping!! hehe
Will probably pop on later whilst he's playing with the kids - big talk again tonight -wonder what I'll find out this time - maybe he'l tell me its my fault again - err nope!! Not accepting that!! hehe
Speak all later!!

scottishfreebiehunter

I know I shouldnt be wanting revenge but I do as they have ruined our lives ,yes we can get on but so angry and need to sort it out

tesuhoha

Poor kizzy

Please don't let him into the house again. Let someone else babysit for you and meet him at the door when he comes to take the kids out. You cannot trust him now that he is showing violence towards you and you should show him that you don't trust him. He is a cowardly bully.

Believe me kizzy you should not be wasting your time on him. I don't know what you married but he is now total low life scum.

kizzykizzywizzy

Good luck Gert.
SFH - The best revenge as someone else has said before is to get on with our lives & be happy again, whilst they live with the consequences of thier actions, he'll end up with the ugliest G/F in history & may have another man one day walking his daughter down the aisle or tucking them into bed, something I couldn't handle myself, so feel sorry for him on the last one ( although I know I shouldn't )
Tes - Thanks for your concern, the violence was the first day of the holiday. He hasn't been violent since just the agressive finger in the face, but did scare me.
I'm not worried about him coming into the house, it's not like he punched me - he lashed out & kicked a suitcase into my leg, I'll never know whether his intention was to hurt me - or just kick the suitcase in anger.
I think he is totally screwed up mentally, & can't handle things, I really think he needs help.
As for babysitters, only members of HIS family able to - wouldn't be happy with that at the moment, they never helped at all when he was away - well a couple of times in 18 months for work /survey. The friends that could babysit are usually the ones I go out with!!
I no longer want him, so don't worry about that.
I'm still grieving for my past life & the man I married, who was a kind loving gentle wonderful man though

gerturdeanna

It is a grieving process as someone has said before - it is a death, a death of a marriage and a friendship. But you know yourself Kizzy from past experience- it still hurts, but it gets easier.
Just picked up DD's dress from the dry-cleaners for the family christening tomorrow - was upstairs putting her some (more) dry knickers on when I spy OH's car in the next street!! Phoned him up and said what are you doing? Where are you? He said he was in the next street cos my mum was here and he wasn't ready to see her yet! I've borrowed my mums car for the weekend!! He thought she was here! haha - anyway just got back now and they aer all on the living room floor playing with bricks - so sweet!! He's not done that with them for ages!! And the TV is off!! Maybe we are getting somewhere!! Anways bath time for me - must look good for myself!!
Who am I kidding - its for whoever I may met whenever or evenfor him!!hehe