Marriage over don't know where to start

Ellidee

Pollycat wrote: »

Not really, Ellidee, I just have limited patience with people who engage mouth (or fingers) before brain.

Or those who don't actually read and digest something but decide to take it the wrong way, anyway.

Polly you are right of course, I was just trying to 'lighten' things

kizzykizzywizzy

Thks SFH - just going to MIL's

gerturdeanna

OMG!! FIGHT!! haha - how did that start?!?! Anyway peeps -lets all calm down now!! Been to library today and got new books, saw Income Support Lone Parent advisor. She said shes going to get the office to look into my claim and see what the hold up is and call me on my mobile by end of today. So thankfully then, I can get my budget etc sorted and maybe even start loking for work?!?!
OH is taking kids out for tea this pm as its payday!! Also bringing me the mortgage money and paying the Virgin bill - that will ease pressure on me a bit!!
Might go to an excerise class later or something. Must check and see if they have anything I fancy doing on whilst DD is in pre-school. Sure I get it cheaper cos on IS when it comes!!

gerturdeanna

Oooh they do Bodypump at 9:30 on Tues, Thurs and Fridays!!
Wonder how much it'll be?!?!

Rikki

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Hi there
I've been on the phone to DFS for ages, a mobile too - MY BILL:eek:

Well lots of arguing, & going around in circles, feel drained now.
I just wish I didn't have to have him in my life, he said the best thing he ever did was leave me

If you don't phone him then he can't upset you!

You make yourself more venerable than you are. He's wanting for you to phone and argue don't give him the satisfaction.

Rise above it

Rikki

Something I think you should all be aware of is no matter what they say about paying the mortgage and anything else. When they move on to their own place they may not have the money or the will to do so. Please don't bank on these promises as they are very likely to fail.

trancebabe

Blimey - over 3000 posts...

Kizzy - while his name is on the mortgage he's jointly responsible for it. Take no carp from him about that!
(and if the moose is married with kids - and her name is on their mortgage then the same applies to her... I doubt she'll have the money to keep him and even if she has, she's gonna get real sick of that very early on!)

About all the phone calls and mixed up feelings... it's all grief hun. I hate to sound boring but you're grieving for the life you once had and very much wanted to be. Try not to get angry at yourself... very destructive... just get back on the horse and move it along

You need to see a solicitor... Divorce proceedings come in three parts by my recollection, the finances, the children and then the divorce itself. Even if you're not ready for stage three... you do need to formalise stages one and two.... for everyone involved

Gert - Bodypump sounds err... interesting LOL - My guess would be costs about £4 so get ... pumpin I guess! heheh

SFH - still hanging in there girl!!! Not long til Oz now and you're going to have a blast! no more talk of topping yourself!! Not worth it. It might not feel like it right now but Life is sweet!

Jules - Get his clothes into a bin bag and spread yours out! I think you're amazing wanting him at the hospital - I hope he bonds with his new Son!

Laters girls - keep up the good work and be nice to yourselves, each other and of course, to Chip!
Heheheh
T
x

Rikki

I always feel like the big bad wolf.

Along with chip I can see the other side and all the pitfalls you are heading for. I find it frustrating each time you let down your guard and let them trample all over your heart.
You need to grow balls ladies and lay down the law according to the respect and treatment you want to receive.

scottishfreebiehunter

Rikki wrote: »

I always feel like the big bad wolf.

Along with chip I can see the other side and all the pitfalls you are heading for. I find it frustrating each time you let down your guard and let them trample all over your heart.
You need to grow balls ladies and lay down the law according to the respect and treatment you want to receive.

I know what youa re saying is true Rikki and I thought I was tougher than this but feel as if he and the s l u t are walking all over me,and i know revenge is not the answer but i want it to be.
I am going to cut grass before it rains again as looks like a tramps house:o:rotfl:

Rikki

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

I know what youa re saying is true Rikki and I thought I was tougher than this but feel as if he and the s l u t are walking all over me,and i know revenge is not the answer but i want it to be.
I am going to cut grass before it rains again as looks like a tramps house:o:rotfl:

The thing I learnt to my advantage during my divorce was to say nothing.

I never phoned or had long conversations, just straight to the point comments relevant to the children.
I always dressed smart acted confident. Never let the inside out, or the problems I was having show.

Remember he was the one who cheated I was the one who had not done wrong. I had the right and could look down on him. He always had every thing to prove.

It may make me sound like a biatch but this is about survival, self preservation and creating a safe place for the children both mentally and physically.