Marriage over don't know where to start

Gloomy_Past_Bright_Future

Kizzy, SFH, Gert, Jules..

Don't know how long this post will last as not too sure if you are allowed to post links on here or not.

Below is a link to another divorce/seperation forum, with people who have identical issues to you guys, ie !!!!!!, mistress meeting kids, seperated father at birth?, living together when seperated.

You may get some "outsider views" when reading about other people who are in same situation. http://www.parentscentre.gov.uk/forum/categories.cfm?catid=119

GPBF

kizzykizzywizzy

Thanks GPBF, I'll have a look later, got to go up the school later meeting re kids as DD just started a new school
MIL was really nice to me & very upset about all of this, the only comment she made which upset me was in different circumstances I might of liked her:eek: ( moose ) I said thanks a lot! she is quite old & not 100% she was searching for a jar of coffee for about a minute & it was already open & on the kitchen top, I didn't slag him off at all around there, after all it's thier little boy & she's worried he'll move away to be with moose & she'll lose him. She also said he can't cope on his own as she & I have always done things for him. I just feel so sorry for them both FIL really not a well man. FIL doesn't want DFS to live there & SIL said to me that he can't stay there anymore really - I know you'll all say that's not your problem, but I do care about him, where is he going to live? also, if he can't pay really cheap rent, he can't pay the mortgage.
Also DFS rang whilst at his mums to ask if I was OK
Anyway got to dry my hair went out today without brushing my hair/shower or teeth - yuk Have been really making an effort until today, just really knocked me this time, so anyway, bathed, have put my nice body lotion on now & my new perfume, need to dry my hair & I'll be back to strong kizzy again, at least on the outside

scottishfreebiehunter

:TThanks Rikki and Gloomy Past


Me to being strong sfh on the outside,well managed to cut the grass and hedges before it rained :rolleyes:though still a good bit of work to do on the outside yet as mega neglected it past wee whiley,have to get finger out as house a mess big time

gerturdeanna

OH has justed picked the kids up, they've gone to Wacky Warehouse for their tea. He was really cold towards me, hardly said a word..oh well.
Going to catch up with Easties whilst the house is quiet.

scottishfreebiehunter

gerturdeanna wrote: »

OH has justed picked the kids up, they've gone to Wacky Warehouse for their tea. He was really cold towards me, hardly said a word..oh well.
Going to catch up with Easties whilst the house is quiet.

Gerti please take care xxxxxxx


Kizzy you go out tomorrow it will be hard as was for me but getting out to see there is another life can help also.
Will be here if you need me for a chatxx

kizzykizzywizzy

Doesn't sound too good Gert
I wonder what he's playing at?
SFH - thanks don't forget I'm here for you too & you Gert of course;)
Have done the kids packed lunches & cooked thier tea already, just wanted to get jobs out of the way, whilst still feeling a bit better.
I will be going out as won't let my friend down ( or me ) I know what you mean about the house SFH, I do stuff & 2 minutes later it looks like a tip again, I just can't keep up with it.
I spend most of my time on here!! when i really should be doing housework, but if I came off of here, I'd only be on the phone, I still wouldn't get on with anything.
Rang my sis solicitor earlier, the secretary was at lunch but will be calling me to make a 20 min appointment.
DFS ringing kids at 5pm - he's going to call every other day from now on.

gerturdeanna

Glad you seem to be getting things sorted Kizzy and SFH. He texted me before and apologised for being abrupt - said he had a bad day at work.

dinkytwostep

Kizzy

"do you know what he said? Well if this relationship fails ( as you keep saying it will, then I'll come back & try! ) "

Hi Kizzy - this reminded me of something a very good friend (male) once explained to me when I asked him why he kept two-timing his girlfriends (not with me I hasten to add.. it wasn't that kind of friendship! :eek: ).....
..He said he thought of relationships as "stepping stones". He only moved onto the next one when he was sure it was where he wanted to be .. but was perfectly happy to keep his foot firmly on one "stepping stone" while he looked for another.:eek:

Kizzy you are the solid stepping stone for DFS. He's waiting for the Moose and when you pulled away from him YOU took away his foundation - that's why he's so nasty--- YOU took the choice away from him... ... ironic isn't it

Gert - I hate to say it but I think this is true for your OH as well... You're his solid stepping stone - but there's a good chance he's going to keep looking.

SFH - well done on the gardening. i'm really impressed 'cos it's chucked it down all day here. :T


DTS

scottishfreebiehunter

Gerti just take it very slowly as only you will know deep down how you feelxxxx
I know you will though do not want you getting any more hurt ,if thats at all possible


Went and did 15 mins on wii as well:eek::rotfl:I know it aint much but will do it whilst feel like it as I know tonight when all quiet my silly head will be thinking all sorts again.
My ds came in from school and said mummy look got more stamps(if they do decent work all these stams accumulate to a HMV voucher)
Made me sad that his dad wasnt here but will keep going as he needs me.
I know Kizzy as you feel exactly same way as me ,we will just have to do a little at a time and achived a good bit today though house still looks like bomb has hit it:eek:

going to make rissotto for ds as his favourite ,well this week lol

kizzykizzywizzy

DTS - Yes I see you mean, put I've hardly pulled anything away from him, the only thing I have stuck rigidly & won't change is him not moving back here unless it's to be with me - not as a lodger:eek: & I won't give him his keys back;)

Other than that I'm a bit of a wet fish:p