Marriage over don't know where to start

Keeping_Motivated

Kizzy he is such a control freak by the sounds of it, he even seems to want to control how you react to what he has done to you! He is angry that you dared challenge him again so now tells you its best thing he did to leave you. Bully springs to mind! God is it not enough that the person who once made you so happy can now be the one cause of all this pain but on top of that he has to be 'extra' cruel too by making such nasty comments?! IMO he should take what ever words/anger you throw at him, he should realise you need to vent at the one person who caused all this... HIM... Gggrrr I'm sorry he has upset you again. x

taxi73

Sorry you posted at the same time as me then...

ManPants

What you've got to remember in the dark times is that the clouds do eventually disappear to be replaced by bright new sunrays.............

My thoughts are with you............

Stuart

Chip_Hazard

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

she is okayish bunty just been on the phone to her xxxxxx
If it hadnt been for her lately and been able to speak to someone at night and you people I would have been out window

Sorry, SFH, that is out of order. You have a son you need to look after. Even considering it 1% is wrong wrong wrong. Also saying that you are going to make the scumbag pay big time is not right either. I know you hate him but you are the innocent one in all of this yet you are the one eaten up inside. Let it go. No revenge, no shouting, no abuse.

When I split with my ex three years ago, it was bloody hard. She found a new fella within a week, an alcoholic who beat her, swore at my kids and even drove them all away on holiday though he was banned from driving for a drink-drive offence. The boys hated him but I was helpless. I thought about snatching them and running away but that wouldn't have been right. I kept a diary of what happened, where and when and kept it for eighteen months. I still have it now and look at it occasionally.

You have one advantage over me, you have your darling child. I don't. My youngest two live with a mother who would rather be f***ed by a total stranger than spend time with her kids. How do you think I have them for so long every week, more than 60 hours a week at present? I played things steadily, took her to court for a contact order and got good access all because I did things calmly and coolly. I never swore at her once although goodness knows I felt like it.

Thing is, SFH, some people would dearly love to be in your position; single, custody of their flesh and blood, good house to live in. I'm two out of three of those but I'll never be the third. Think on, you are in a privileged position, doing anything selfish would be beneficial to no-one.

You need to move on from feeling angry with him and build a new life for you and your son. Both you and Kizzy HAVE TO STOP CONTACTING THEM. I know its hard, I really do, but both of you are poking a wasps nest and quite soon you're going to get stung badly.

taxi73

He is just thinking of hurtful things to say to you as he knows what buttons to press.His hutful,spiteful cruel comments beggar belief ...please ,please do not let him grind you down.

julie2710

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Anyway, he says the moose would really love to meet our children - WHAT:mad:

Idiot!!!!!! :mad: :mad: Tell him when the kids need a trip to the zoo you'll let him know!!

I've already said to my OH that if I so much as get a hint that he's even passed his tart in the street with our son(soon to be sons!) then he'll have supervised access only as he clearly can't be trusted to give his kids any stability by introducing them to people who may not even be around for long, and until they have a proven track record for longevity they stay away!!!

Again, I think he's grasping at straws to try and make you as miserable as he quite clearly is!!!

kizzykizzywizzy

Well a few of you know about my "friend" the man from the BBQ
The ones I've PM'd about it know what's going on, don't want to say too much as not serious at all
Anyway, I told DFS that Thursday I went to lunch with BBQ man & have spoken to him on the phone. This was after he said about moving on YET AGAIN! Well it must have wound him up although he said he was happy for me, as later I said you haven't done any of the things around the house you said you would & he said " GET YOUR BOYFRIEND TO DO IT!!!!" :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: I made sure I told him that he's a Solicitor too!! as DFS only works in a warehouse.
Don't all think I'm now loved up or rushing into anything with BBQ man as it's really not going to EVER happen, only in DFS's imagination:p

scottishfreebiehunter

Oh Chip do you know what and forgive me if i sound rude
It is how I feel and expressing my feelings has helped me on here and I am not ashamed to admit it.
Revenge well will see how that goes,though everything I have been through and you and many others know how that feels then I would have every right to do so.
I do see where you are coming from and wish you did have youre kidsxxxx


But at the moment I and kizzy and many others hurting very very bad and you will know how that feels,but he will pay for ruining my life,yes maybe wrong attitude but it works for me
xxx

chilli_dog

Well done Kizzy, you have done really well, your a stronger person than you were earlier in this thread, which is turning into a biggie !!!!

julie2710

That explains why he's being such a plank - it's the I don't want her but I don't want anyone else to either!!!