Marriage over don't know where to start

taxi73

Kizzy you will get over this I promise you.You are doing really well especially with everything he throws at you.
Julie also astounds me with her calmness especially when shes having a baby in a couple of weeks

gerturdeanna

Chip, mate, you've been there and come out the other side, so you can think and say these things. We are still in the thick of it and so are stil feeling emotional and speaking from the heart etc. Hopefully in 3 years time, we'd be saying the same things you are to others. Thanks for all your input folks!

scottishfreebiehunter

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Thanks for that, I don't want my kids meeting the Moose, at all, but obviously, if she is to become part of DFS's life it's gonna happen:mad: but I'd say 60 years is about the right time limit:mad:

:rotfl::T

As I said before double check it with solicitor as mine is not going anywhere unless I say so first xxx

Chip I know what you are saying is true as it is not them soothing son to sleep etc it is me and I love my son dearly but hate him for what he has done to us and feel he has gotten away with it(sounds daft I know)

taxi73

You will also make the right deciscion for you Gert as you are thinking through both sides of the coin!!! and not just jumping straight in.

kizzykizzywizzy

Yes I will get over it
This is me earlier seeking my revenge:rotfl: :rotfl: my new favourite song
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=Chmnh3D4r6g

I just wanted my little family as it was, it's not going to happen I don't like the person he has become.
We really need to sit & talk about all of this & sort financial stuff out, but we need help as you don't think of every probability, he keeps saying about going to a solicitor, but I thought you needed to sort all this 1st if you can.
I just find it stupid he goes to his solicitor says I want A B & C I go to mine & say he can have B & C but I don't agree with A - stalemate
Any suggestions who to see?

gerturdeanna

Its a lot of thinking Taxi and unfortuanty tonight a lot of drinking!!! Have ben speaking on the phone to OH tonight and this is it - no more lying about silly or serious things - abosolutly truthful and if he lies again, about anything - you heard it here first - if my OH lies again about anything - I want nothing to do with him, romantically, physically, mentally!!
Hold me to that please!!

Night folks - I love you all!!

Chip_Hazard

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

:rotfl::T

As I said before double check it with solicitor as mine is not going anywhere unless I say so first xxx

Chip I know what you are saying is true as it is not them soothing son to sleep etc it is me and I love my son dearly but hate him for what he has done to us and feel he has gotten away with it(sounds daft I know)

Believe me, SFH, he will one day be the loser in all this.

Look at me. I'm 40 and I'll never have any of my children living with me. Okay, I have mine for quite a while for an absent dad but the vast majority of my time is spent alone with no-one else here. I even took the boys cuddly sheep to bed last night as it smells of them and it reminds me of them.:(

One day, left alone as he will be, he will realise that he hasn't got away with it.

Take care

Martin
x

julie2710

:cool: Calm? Me? I guess it's just my way of coping at the moment and I know me being upset, angry or hysterical all the time is not only bad for me, but bad for my baby and don't want my son to see it!! Not guaranteeing that this is how I always feel or will feel!
Anyway I'm hitting the sack now - hopefully get a decent nights sleep with no more stupid dreams of reconciliation!!!!!:eek:
Night all - try and keep smiling!
Jules;)

gerturdeanna

Kizzy, try mediation rather than solicitors, apparetnly its cheaper!! and my spelling is now horrendous so up those stairs I go!!

Chip_Hazard

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Yes I will get over it
This is me earlier seeking my revenge:rotfl: :rotfl: my new favourite song
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=Chmnh3D4r6g

I just wanted my little family as it was, it's not going to happen I don't like the person he has become.
We really need to sit & talk about all of this & sort financial stuff out, but we need help as you don't think of every probability, he keeps saying about going to a solicitor, but I thought you needed to sort all this 1st if you can.
I just find it stupid he goes to his solicitor says I want A B & C I go to mine & say he can have B & C but I don't agree with A - stalemate
Any suggestions who to see?

Mediation!