Marriage over don't know where to start

taxi73

Hi Kizzy..have been reading all along but haven't had much to say.You are getting a lot stronger along with Gert.Think you will both make the right desciscions and are both thinking logically.
SFH sorry but I'm getting more worried about you as the days go by.I know it's hard and it's heartbreaking but you seem ever closer to the edge.Please can you possibly see you Dr both for you and your sons sake.
it is distressing reading about all of you and the situations you find yourselves in and what awful things these men have done to yourselves.
Remember Ladies you are worth a thousand of those men and haven't deserved any of these things happening BUT you will go on to lead happy lives as you are very strong and have those lovely children to think about.
The best revenge on these idiots is to lead a happy life where you don't need them.I know that each and everyone of you will manage that you may not think it yet but you will xxx

bunty109

SFH - your "friend" sounds like a complete nut job. If she calls again tell her. I'd also tell her you've told your OH and he said he wouldn't touch her with someone else's d**k She's got to be seriously screwed up to be trying to get you to fix her up (I assume that's what she's up to now) with your recent-ex.....:mad:

((Gert)). I'm all for you trying to sort this and right behind you, but surely your OH can stop thinking about sex for long enough to spend time with the kids properly. I also don't think he's in any position to say he won't move back because of bad memories etc. He should be moving heaven and earth grovelling to you......as Gok would say "you're worth that!" (with optional girlfriend a the end!)

kizzykizzywizzy

Hi there
I've been on the phone to DFS for ages, a mobile too - MY BILL:eek:

Well lots of arguing, & going around in circles, feel drained now.
I just wish I didn't have to have him in my life, he said the best thing he ever did was leave me

bunty109

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Hi there
I've been on the phone to DFS for ages, a mobile too - MY BILL:eek:

Well lots of arguing, & going around in circles, feel drained now.
I just wish I didn't have to have him in my life, he said the best thing he ever did was leave me

Kizzy, are you ok? I thought you weren't phoning him?

Ellidee

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Hi there
I've been on the phone to DFS for ages, a mobile too - MY BILL:eek:

Well lots of arguing, & going around in circles, feel drained now.
I just wish I didn't have to have him in my life, he said the best thing he ever did was leave me

Aww kizzy, the rotten !!!!!!. You and the kids were the best things in his life. HOW BLUDDY DARE HE say that to you !!!!!!!!:mad:

julie2710

Hi All

Haven't posted for a couple of days - just been lurking! Although I'm officially on mat leave Company I work for had their sales conference and it was only about an hours drive so went for the last 2 days! Took my mind off what's been going on and this week is now flying. Just 2 days and HE moves out - hurrahh!! I can't remember who it was that said about dreams working in reverse but I too dreamt last night that we were getting back together and it seemed so real that when I woke up I was thinking "oh S**t, that means he won't be moving out now andI won't be able to spread my clothes out in the wardrobes and get organised for the new baby!!!"

SFH - you're friend is no friend! Forget chucking yourself out the window - chuck her out!!!:mad: :mad: (only kidding!) but she is a complete !!!!! - mind you they probably deserve each other!

Gert - Whatever you do it's your choice, all anyone can do is respect your desicion and we're always here for you - good or bad!

Kizzy - You've been really strong - don't let the git wear you down again - you should have agreed with him when he said the best thing he ever did was leave you!!! You've been soing great recently and he's probably only saying this as he's down and he can't bear you to be doing better than him!!:rolleyes:

bunty109

Ellidee wrote: »

Aww kizzy, the rotten !!!!!!. You and the kids were the best things in his life. HOW BLUDDY DARE HE say that to you !!!!!!!!:mad:

I think he's just trying to justify to himself that he's done the right thing....he's the one living with his sister with no-one to care for him and living off of sausage rolls!!! :mad:

Kizzy, I hope you're ok. I've got to go to bed as I've an early start. Take the insults with a pinch of salt and remember you've people who care about you and 2 wonderful kids.

scottishfreebiehunter

she is okayish bunty just been on the phone to her xxxxxx
If it hadnt been for her lately and been able to speak to someone at night and you people I would have been out window

kizzykizzywizzy

My Sis said to ring him, just to straighten out what had been said to SIL.
So I rang & said I have spoken to your sis & she is under the impression that you aren't allowed to ring the children, you know you can, don't you? He said yes, I said why haven't you rung them then? I don't know!
Then I said you are also telling everyone you have no money, I've told you, you can have money, but you have refused, & you have had £64 for the shoes, so you have got money!
Also I said you've told her that I won't let you see the children, when we've both agreed that we want to get them into a routine for school.
His reply to all of this, is I don't know where she's got all that from, so I said well she wouldn't have known all that info from me, because I haven't spoken to her for well over a week, except to say hello when she was eating her tea, so didn't speak. He said I'll speak to her, I said if you do that she'll be funny with me, so please don't. They are already siding with you although they have said they are neutral, both you Sis & Mum have lied to me, so now I can't trust anyone.
This is when it started getting heated, I told him not to bring overnight things, unless he wanted to count Saturday as his second day, so he isn't, I also said I'd meet him at the school to pick them up, have to go as teachers don't know what he looks like & don't let them out unless they know the parent.
I assured DFS I DO NOT WANT HIM BACK ANYMORE AS HE SAID I'D ONLY RUNG HIM TO ASK HIM TO COME BACK!!
I said I've done nothing of the sort I rang because I was upset at the crap I'd heard that I was supposed to have done.
Anyway, he says the moose would really love to meet our children - WHAT:mad:

taxi73

Kizzy.....ahhh why did you phone him?...he's torturing you again.Turn it on it's head and tell him " he did you the biggest favour ever leaving as he's a !!!!!! not worthy of you or the kids love"....what a arrogant !!!!!!! he is!!!!
You are worth so much more.You are a kind hearted wonderful person and a great mum to two wonderful kids and you can do this kizzy.You spent a lot of time on your own with the kiddies while he was away..so you can do it!!!
Do not let him grind you down!!!