Marriage over don't know where to start

gerturdeanna

SFH - It may seem that way now, but it won't be for ever and you're probably thinking what right has she got saying that - shes trying again etc etc.
None of what we are all going through will be forever. IT WILL GET BETTER WHICHEVER WAY IT GOES!! Hows ds? Is he in bed now?

Dewberry

Hi all,

I have been reading your posts and firstly wanted to say how strong you are all being and how great a support network you have built up.

I also just wanted to add some info:

Gert - If your gut instinct is telling you that he is no good for you then go with it. I was with someone for 7 years (although not married) who cheated on me with several people (although i didn't find out most of this until we had finished) and he never changed! He even lied to my face when he had been found out! At the time I felt like my world had ended and I stupidly tried to end it all....but after each time I "gave it another go" a part of my respect and feelings for him died until eventually I left him!

I am now married to a fantastic man who loves me deeply and I trust him completely. I don't think that you can ever go back when someone betrays your trust and although it is much harder for you all as you were married and have children I know what it feels like to feel that awful ache in your tummy, to always think of that person but you can get through this!
Look at the strength you have shown so far, you are fantastic role models for your children.
These "men" don't deserve you - give it time and allow yourselves to heal and you WILL see that. I know its easy to say as an outsider but I am truly rooting for you!

big (((hug)))

scottishfreebiehunter

gerturdeanna wrote: »

SFH - It may seem that way now, but it won't be for ever and you're probably thinking what right has she got saying that - shes trying again etc etc.
None of what we are all going through will be forever. IT WILL GET BETTER WHICHEVER WAY IT GOES!! Hows ds? Is he in bed now?

no he is got bad cold now watching football,he will be in bed soon after that

Keeping_Motivated

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:I am sick of it also lying feeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrssssssssssss

I want to run away that stupid women called me and told me she had always wanted him and I was a way to him I am so so so so so :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad: I am crying also.

I called the t wa t at work and he said no way how can I believe him after what he has done though tbh I can remember her latching on to another guy few months ago and his wife calling her up to tell her to stay away

sorry guys but I am seriously ready to throw self out window

OMG what is wrong with this woman? She seems to WANT to kick you when you are down. Its bad enough and one thing that she actually told you she wants your ex and has for a long time but why tell you?! :mad: You said she told you 'I was a way to him' is that a mistype or am I being thick? Sorry

SFH what did you say to her? Do you have to see her from time to time with your children being friends or can you avoid her altogether?

Chip_Hazard

SFH,

Sorry but you seriously have to calm down. All this talk about doing yourself in isn't funny even if you don't mean it, you have a child to look after and he should be the object of your time and devotion, not your man.

The reason I asked you those three questions the other day was to see whether you were serious about making the rest of your life nice for you and your DS. You answered "Yes" to all three questions which was good and what I wanted you to say.

This is the hard bit. Leave your OH alone. Don't ring him, don't text him, don't email him, just leave the bloke alone. He is playing up to all this, he probably loves the fact you're all worked up over this. He's playing you like a fool and you're biting every time. I can't believe some of the stuff you have posted recently. Leave him be, he isn't worth it. You and DS are worth ten of him but you can't keep contacting him, swearing down the phone, sending him emails etc etc. I'm not even sure you should be running up his phone bills otherwise he'll just as likely screw you financially later on through not paying the CSA or your mortgage. Hard as it is, you have to calm down SFH or he'll go for you...:rolleyes:

Gert,

He's kissed another woman? Check.

He's shagged another woman? Check.

He's been surfing !!!!!! when the kids are about? Check.

He lies about the amount of !!!!!! he watches? Check.

He can't make a firm commitment to you? Check.

Sorry, Gert, but you deserve better. Much better. You and I got off on the wrong foot back along when I said you shouldn't get back with him so quickly. I didn't mean any nastiness with it, just couldn't see it working properly. However, I'm not here to say "I told you so", only here to say "You deserve better, mate!".

Best wishes to you both

Martin
xx

PS. SFH - if you want to calm down, read an Oor Wullie book or something, don't watch Scotland play, that's even worse...

gerturdeanna

I also say avoid her like the plague - you don't need friends like that!! esp not now!!
Oh god, just joined in an arguement on the compers inn thread - really mistn't drink and post!!

scottishfreebiehunter

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

OMG what is wrong with this woman? She seems to WANT to kick you when you are down. Its bad enough and one thing that she actually told you she wants your ex and has for a long time but why tell you?! :mad: You said she told you 'I was a way to him' is that a mistype or am I being thick? Sorry

SFH what did you say to her? Do you have to see her from time to time with your children being friends or can you avoid her altogether?

no just when kids go over to each others houses picking up etc though not been happening since ds went to high school as making new friends thankfully.

She spoke to me to get near him.

Chip I do see where you are coming from but the scumbag is going to pay bigtime !!!!
And at this moment yes I wish I was not here.
Financially he cannot screw me as all down in solicitors office in black and white,he can try but the courts will take him for all he is worth including house ,with clauses in solicitors he tries to fleece me I will have all house profit of to which he has agreed:D

I have been kicked in the teeth so many times and this is the final straw

scottishfreebiehunter

oh and Scotland winning 2-0 :eek::eek::rotfl:

actually change that now we just got a man sent of idiot hand ball iceland scored penalty

and tbh he cannot hurt me anymore than he is ,money yes it is okay to have lol,though would rather have my life back than all the money in the world

gerturdeanna

You do whats right for you SFH!!
Kizzy, you're awfully quiet tonight?!? Everything ok?
Chip - I do totally see where you are coming from and the sensible, unemotional side of me says the same, but then my heart etc says otherwise...and its only a decision I can make!! Not anyone on here (although I DO appreciate all your comments), not my family, my friends, his family..you see where I'm going with this.. yes!!

scottishfreebiehunter

K hope you are alrightxxx