Marriage over don't know where to start

scottishfreebiehunter

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Right people am I meant to reply to this women I do nto know whether to laugh or cry laughing just now

Keeping_Motivated

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

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Right people am I meant to reply to this women I do nto know whether to laugh or cry laughing just now

SFH I think I would tell her that her 'timing' has added more stress and hurt to you at a time when you are at your lowest and when you needed a friend now more than ever and you can't understand where she is coming from. If she feels she can't be friends or be a friend to you in your time of need then just tell her you respect her decision. Keep your dignity don't let her have any excuse to blame you for the loss of the friendship.

Strange situation :rolleyes:

gerturdeanna

What you going to tell her - that she must be seriously deluded to want to go after her friends ex when she knows how much pain hes put her through?!?!!?!?! God, what a dork!!

MissMitch

Sorry Gert, hope that didn't sound like I think you're not doing that as I know you are and think you're brilliant! :T I'm just trying to say that a big old test of proof might cause him to screw up...and although then you'd have an answer it might be due to him feeling pressure rather then him not really wanting to try and work things out iyswim. But if you keep letting him make the effort and he can keep stepping up to the plate, then you're kind of keeping a mental tick chart of things that make you feel more confident about him...and you can increase the tasks bit by bit (i.e. facing your family eventually etc.) I might be talking a load of carp though, you really have to do what's best for you, and I really wish you loads of luck with it.

TLF - That's why I asked, because I think when he's had so much horrible stuff to deal with then there's probably more of a chance that he's genuinely realised made a mistake because his head must have been all over the place. Not an excuse though, but I can understand why he must have been in turmoil! Just take care of yourself and the kids above all and take it one step at a time.

scottishfreebiehunter

I am utterly itterly gobsmacked:eek: a part of me wants to go round when she comes in from work and kick her a s s ,another part of me wants to say nothing as our kids are friends and have been for long time ,though how can I not say nothing she has been through the mill big time and for her to say something like this escapes me

trancebabe

Good God SFH!! What a piece of work your ex friend is!!!

Hasn't she learnt anything about this man from observing the way he's treated you?!

You could be honest, tell her you're gobsmacked and ask her to explain what good she thinks will come from sending an email like that ?

or I guess you could wish her luck and hope that if she ever gets to fulfil that dream, he'll treat her like the trash she is, and all her friends dump on her like she has you!

Or maybe just ignore her! She's not worth any of your effort anyway

*tuts at so called friend

Pollycat

TLF
it must have been so upsetting when this tart came round to your house shouting the odds, how dare she!
Did she barge into the house or did your OH let her in?
I don't know if the police would get involved in these circumstances, but if she ever comes back, I would ring them anyway.

Gert said this a short time ago, I think it's apt in your situation too.

I think I've just got to take it day by day

SFH
I'm glad you don't feel like breaking windows any more.
Your so-called friend just beggars belief.
If you feel you can't be calm and polite (not that she deserves that, the stupid little oik), just don't reply to her message.
If you can, I'd say exactly what Keeping Motivated had suggested and then have no further contact with her at all.

Kizzy
I hope the shopping trip is successful.

gerturdeanna

MissMitch - no need to apologie,I think I see where you are coming from. Taking it step by step, bit hard to do I suppose when I want all the answers etc I need now!! I will ask him where he is taking me out for our 'date' though!! Then if he's serious, he'll take me somewhere nice and show me off and if he's not, it'll be the pictures or something!! Thats what I would do anyway - if I was serious, show my partner of to the world and if I wasn't I'd take them where no-one could see!! haha

MissMitch

:rotfl: Better still, tell him where he's taking you, because if he does say the pictures you'll not be happy.

I had my ex text me the other night to tell me that a certain film was on tv...I replied that unless he's going to send me texts that mean something rather then ones to test the water, then he might as well not bother. He's not been in touch since, but I can live with that. :cool:

gerturdeanna

haha - let me think...wheres the most expensive restaurant again?!?!? haha