Marriage over don't know where to start

kizzykizzywizzy

Ok 3rd & final attempt at sleeping - I've got to be up in 3 hours!!

kizzykizzywizzy

Morning - managed to get to sleep eventually - so tired today now!
Really raining, this weather is really getting me down have to walk to school 15/20 mins there 15/20 mins back in this!
Oh good I've woken up happy...............not

gerturdeanna

I didn't sleep well either. Don't know how I'm feeling this morning, numb i think. Just not sure what I'm going to do for the best. I know I can be on my own, but I think I want to be with him, but like GB(?) I think said, you are who you are and maybe I and him can't change enough to fit into what eah other wants. Oh well, got to get the kiddies ready and brave the rain!!

Fidget21

Hi folks, haven't posted for a while , went away for a couple of days and then had trouble catching up!!

Kizzy, you sound so much stronger now than before I went away. It's really good to hear how your attitude towards him has changed.

Gert, when I initially read you guys were giving it another shot I was really pleased for you but I can understand your feelings since that decision was made. I know when you had your own thread before you found out he was cheating the two of you were going to relate. Is there any chance of going back there? I think it would be a good way for him to show that he is serious about this.

MissMitch

Morning Ladies (& Gents)

Gert, just regards your last post...I read in a book I have something that really made stuck with me. It's a book on emotionally abusive relationships, I was reading for obvious reasons. :mad: Anyhow the woman basically says that when it comes to trust, the major issue is not living in fear that you can't trust your partner, but trusting yourself that you will be ok in any situation no matter what, and trusting yourself to have the confidence to speak up about things you don't feel comfortable with, set boundaries and be firm when and if they are ever broken. I just thought it was a really good point because if you know you will be ok, and can look after yourself no matter what then you feel much more in control of the situation and can take your foot off the gas a little...hope that all makes sense.

scottishfreebiehunter

Same here not much sleep and ds giving me one h e l l of a time,he is shouting calling me idiot etc:rolleyes::eek: and I aint putting up with it.

I am going to go and look out my mountaib bike :eek:and see what sort of state it is in and go out for 30 mins as need to get all this anger out somehow and not sure if it will work though shall see
Back soon
xxxxxx

Chip_Hazard

Morning all....:D

SFH, can I ask you three questions please?

1. Do you want a reasonable relationship from now on with your ex-OH? I'm not talking about lovey-dovey, just a bearable arrangement.

2. Do you want your ex-OH to make firm arrangements that he sticks to regarding access to your DS?

3. Do you want to move on from all this, rebuild your life and find happiness again?

gerturdeanna

I'm sure we all want those things to some degree Chip, and I think I know where you are going with this. Will keep my thoughts to myself for the moment.

TLF1970

My DH has left his womans house and moved in with his sister. He came round last night to say that he has made the biggest mistake of his life. He told me everything that happended (or so I think) but still could not really explain why it happened although he did start drinking heavily last year (not that that is an excuse).

The !!!!! rang whilst he was here and I herd him tell her that it mas a mistake and should never have happened and he wanted to try to rebuild his family. He also told her that even if I did not want him back he still did not want to be with her. 5 mins later she turned up and has a slanging match with DH in front of kids.

He has told me that he is willing to take how ever long it takes to prove his love for us and earn my trust back. I have told him that I do not know at this stage whether I can ever have him back as my head is so messed about.

For the next few weeks he will pop around to put kids to bed or meet for tea and so how things go I Suppose.

I don't know if he is genuine or if I am being stupid. Of course now I have kids saying why can't daddy come back why is he living with auntie Dawn. So again I am the big bad wolf.

Got more sleep last night but feel awful this morning. think the lack of food and sleep is catching up on me.

trancebabe

Morning All,

Just checking in with you all and I'm sorry to see that it was a restless night (and that Federer won the tennis)

Keep your eyes on the prize ladies, a better life with people who don't, wont and can't hurt you the way you have been hurt recently.

You will be ok,
You Will be ok,
You Will be OK !!!

Every day is a school day ladies, we're learning more about ourselves, the people we love (and once loved) and everyday is one more closer to that better life.

Stay strong - put yourselves (and your kiddies) first always!
Tx