Marriage over don't know where to start

gettingbetter

kizzy
thats what i said
but i am still in the wrong
as i said earlier i cant win
kas x

scottishfreebiehunter

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:mine still has it coming off DD and shall stay that way until he notices as will be saying nothing
as been phoning mobiles in oz:eek:

off to bed as shattered and keep having bad thoughts speak soon guysxx

kizzykizzywizzy

GB sounds as though you could do without all that carp!
Can you not sit him down & say you need to have a serious talk with him & that your marriage depends on it & see what he says to that?
Or can his mother not speak to him?

SFH - sleep well

Well, hearts slowed down at last drank loads of water, my poor body has been under so much stress lately, surprised my heart didn't just give up:p
Will have to take it easy Friday, if this is how I'm going to be ridiculous, it must be because I've lost weight, I never drank much lately anyway - well until DFS came home, but now I just can't

kizzykizzywizzy

Was also going to say GB, mobile phones saga might sound trivial, but I'll bet that is just one of many many things :mad:

kizzykizzywizzy

Night night - going to try again to get some sleep!!!

gettingbetter

tried that
its his way or no way
his mother is in a home and has senile demture that was another thing we fell out about
she is doubly incontinent and i refused to have her for christmas dinner ever again
i spent all my married life cleaning up after her and i just could cope
i need to go for a bit
i am starting to sound a bit sad
sorry for dumping on your thread kizzy wish you all the best and keep fighting i know you can do it
kas xx

skcollobcat10

Hello everybody,

I have been reading this thread for quite some time now. What I feel is that it is all so very, very sad, what a waste of time and effort for the parties involved. There are some very, very strong women on this thread who have worked so hard on making their marriage work, running not only a house but a job and family, and what it comes down to time and time again is the husband cannot hack it and has to go and sh** around, he normally picks a bimbo and definately makes sure that she is educationally subnormal in comparison to him, because that makes him feel manly, ha ha! EG "The Moose". They probably come out with the phrase to these silly sad women, "Oh, my wife doesn't understand me" When the truth be known, when you have children, THEY ALWAYS COME FIRST. We are broken hearted because the trust has gone, and its the one thing that is so, so hard to get back.

(Be honest now, if we as women all felt truly, truely loved and wanted, and appreciated, we would still be with those men if they had let us grow and evolve and be ourselves as women in our own right. What happens is that THEY feel inadequate, THEY feel inferior, THEY feel like their bal*s have been cut off because as a woman grows and matures we like to spread our wings and do other things, especially when the kids get a bit older and we get a little more time to ourselves to do the things we would like to do, they feel that their needs are not being met and this happens). If that is the way of the world nowdays, so be it, maybe I should have stayed single!!

I feel even now that men are so stupid and in their silly inadequate brain think that a woman has to put up with it. I really do think that men feel jealous in some way of women, I am not a man hater, far from it or I wouldn't have gone and got married again. I know that with my second marriage I have given him a run for his money, obviously without thinking I was hurt the first time and there is no damn way I will be hurt again by any man.

It has brought back memories of how is was for me 16 years ago when I left my first husband. I can honestly say that it was the best thing that I have done.

1) It motivated me to not live in a council house or private rented place, (I was not entitled to one anyway because my first husband made me take my name off the rent book (he told me that I would get full custody of the kids) and then the council wouldn't give me a place (reason I had a full time job and could pay for private rent) and I had to sleep in my car.) to save a deposit, and try to achieve getting a mortgage and owning my own home. This led to me owning properties and renting them out. I now, with working hard and plodding on, live in a large country house, I laugh everytime I think of that silly 1st husband and I would never have thought that I could have achieved something like that ever! 2) I can be myself, I can be who I want to be, and I am loved for it by my 2nd husband. 3) I achieved goals that if staying with the 1st husband, I would never have experienced, and I am glad that I followed my own instinct.

I am now on to my second husband.

It is fine but now because in the last few years I have become disabled and not the independant woman I once was, I have had problems, mainly with him coping with my disability. He is so sad, and sorry for me and I cannot cope with that. I have tried for eight years to get help from the NHS and it has been rubbish. I know now deep down that the way I am now is the way I will stay, but you can never quench a positive outlook, so we will see.

He is younger than me by 9 years and at first I thought I was cradle snatching, but he is very mature and you would never think that he is that much younger than me. I think that we complement each other, I know certain things and he knows others, and I think so far that is why we are still together, even with the disability.

I wish all of you all the luck in the world, and please do not be too disheartened, you have such motivation and you have inspired me to scribble my bit here. I am very impressed by how you have all coped so far. Just remember, be yourself, you are what you are, and be true to yourself. The right man will come along when you least expect it. It all sounds so shi** but it is true you know, you will find a man that thinks you are wonderful and he will wonder how he has managed so far without you!

Best Wishes

gettingbetter

thankyou for letting me bare my sole and not jumping on me
kas xx

kizzykizzywizzy

gettingbetter wrote: »

tried that
its his way or no way
his mother is in a home and has senile demture that was another thing we fell out about
she is doubly incontinent and i refused to have her for christmas dinner ever again
i spent all my married life cleaning up after her and i just could cope
i need to go for a bit
i am starting to sound a bit sad
sorry for dumping on your thread kizzy wish you all the best and keep fighting i know you can do it
kas xx

Don't be daft - this isn't MY thread, i just started it as I needed help & support, which I've had by the bucket load, it's now a thread for all of us in terrible situations.
I can't sleep still, as you can see
You don't sound "sad" at all you sound like you've had enough.
You don't think he married you to get help with his mother do you? or is her illness a recent thing?

kizzykizzywizzy

SKcoll
Thanks for posting your story, sounds like you went through a really rough time, but came out of it a much happier & successful woman.
Sorry to hear that you now have health problems, but on the other hand glad you have a hubby that loves & supports you

My sister has found a wonderful man after her ex cheated on her & she is really happy with him, he adores her & treats her so nicely, he said to her I just wish I'd met you years ago!

I'm sure I will meet someone, one day, who will treat me well & love me for who I am & make me feel good about myself rather than take all my confidence away & treat me like a drudge.