Marriage over don't know where to start

Skint_Lynne

SFH,

If I were you, I would not even bother to reply to this woman as that will annoy her more, she is a lowlife scumbag and I would not waste any of my time on her. If she has had a hard time, that's her problem and it isn't any wonder when she behaves like this. She is a nutter so don't even bother to contact her:mad: :mad: :mad: to her, who needs an enemy when you have a 'friend' like that!!!

SL x

Pollycat

SFH
I've just read back and you say that your son and her kid(s) are friends.

Do you think she means it when she says she doesn't want to be friends?
Regardless of what you think of her (and to be honest, I think she's lower than a snake's belly to lay this on you at this time :mad: ) could you at least be civil to her in front of your son?
Do you HAVE to see her in the process of taking your son out?

What a damn awful situation she's put you in, the selfish, thoughtless !!!!!.

GeorgeUK

SFH - sounds like your friend has some serious problems.
It may be that she is tired of being alone and now that there is a "single" whom she knows, she's just reacting to it.

When was your friendship "officially" over?

I would do a few backhanded compliments to her. Tell her how much her comments on the night out and from the message hurt you. Point out that even if she got together with this cheat there she would not be able to trust him judging from his past record. He isn't even there for his children, so if she did get involved with him she should be very careful. Tell her you thought she was better than that and deserved better from a man.

TLF
Your husband sounds really confused. One minute he says he wants to be with you, then when she appears, he wants to be with her. He takes the kids to her house and goes for a picnic, then says he doesn't want to be with her but wants you.

I think he needs to deal with his drinking before you can commit to him again - if you were thinking of it. I hadn't made comment on him before because i didn't trust myself to not upset you even more. He sounded weak and indecisive, although that may be partly through the drink. But with him confonting her he seems to have a bit of fight left in him. The drink may have contributed to what he has done and she definately doesn't seem like the shy type - have you talked yet? Do you know how things started with her - do they work together?

It now appears that although i would consider him to still be gutter level, he may have potential and looks to be trying to climb out. He is taking responsibility for what he has done and is looking to do whatever it takes to make amends. I am not saying to give him another chance. Only you will be able to decide if you want this and even then you may not feel you will be able to trust him again.

scottishfreebiehunter

Dont really know what to think but not phoning and going to ignore her and yes will have to be pleasant for kids sake as not fair for them.

Stupid women and very hurtful xxx

gerturdeanna

Well that DS off to school!! Just make cakes with DD as me and DS made cookies yesterday. OH called just before we set off aswell to make sure DS was okay, so that was nice. Let DS's teacher know that he may be a bit off due to current home circs, had told her in July, when we had school meeting some of it, just let her know that its still going on but that he would be with me tonight to pick him up so that she would know who he is!

scottishfreebiehunter

Yip not nice advising the school etc but has to be done as at least if there is tears tantrums etc they will know why
Hope youre wee one gets on okayxxxxxxxxx

I will be having words with mine when he comes in from school as not going down this road with him anymore as shattered enough,I understand he is angry to though he has been down right nasty to me last few days.


above reminding me of rikki and chip lol pmslxx if i didnt get on with things

made soup today also to get that little begger of mine to eat

bunty109

SFH, I need a gobsmacked emote here!! What a friend!! It's worse you sussed she faniced your OH from her none too subtle comments, but to basically ditch your friendship cos she fancies her chances!!!!

I'd be tempted e-mail back and ask her how she'd have felt if you'd e-mailed her after her split from OH and said the same.....or just say to her you'd already come to the conclusion she wasn't someone you wanted to spend time with after her comments the other night.

To be honest, there's got to be something seriously wrong with her to say something that hurtful to you. Is she a nymphomaniac, by any chance?

Did you say you had mentioned this to your OH? If you have, I'd maybe not mention it again. If he wants his ego crooning any more than he's getting it that will be a red rag to a bull!!

I'm seriously :mad: for you over this, but sadly I've been there with friends who'll dump all over you for a man :mad: :mad: Mind you, I've never had one actually warn me they were gunning for my bloke.....it's a first....

kizzykizzywizzy

SFH - what a strange woman! better off shot of her!
Didn't find anything again, getting to the stage I don't want to go out.
Sister very poorly again, going to hospital as we speak
Only thing that lightened my mood was a DFS van parked up the road delivering a sofa!

Chip_Hazard

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

SFH - what a strange woman! better off shot of her!

That's a bit harsh. I don't always agree with her but she's still welcome on your thread.....:p

scottishfreebiehunter

I am a bit upset over it now Bunty and unsure what to do as she has poured her heart out to me over her ex hubbie etc and even told me the person he was seeing was in bar at weekend.
Me to absolutely gobsmacked ,took me back a little today,though did a few things so getting there very slowly.


And K you will be out Friday night so there:p,what do you like wearing what about jeans ,boots,high heels and top ,you can never go wrong.
Please go out if only to annoy that person you are married to;)it will do you good and remember what you said to me last weekxxx

Hope youre sis is okayxxxxxx

Well you have sent me rain now to:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

not sure what to do about this email wrote one out deleted etc etc steam coming out my ears now and if i get worked up will end up in same state as last night
Oh and asked oh to put money in my bank for guitar lesson tomorrow and he did it oh the guilt:rolleyes: