Marriage over don't know where to start

verysillyguy06

there are...but u may not believe it...but i have met women who did the same to their men...left them to look after the kids...poor guys were terrified to tell anyone ...women threatened to take kids away...i know its much rarer...but just to say...gender does not matter...the person is horrible...plain scum.....

i know i can understand that u are between a rock and hard place at moment julie....do what you must ...til after the birth...then...vent your anger at him...but dont forget...u must do what feels right for you...we can only advice and and ....hug !!! xx

julie2710

I know it's not gender specific and to be honest she's as bad as he is - she knew I was heavily pregnant and even went out for a meal with us (well 6 of us all together) 3 weeks before her dirty weekend with my OH!!!! and she has a 2 yr old daughter so not much of a lady:mad: :mad: I don't want to turn into some bitter and twisted man hater - just this one and his tart!

I think I'll probably feel better once he's moved out - hoping so anyway? At least I can start making my own plans and feel relaxed in my own home of an evening.

verysillyguy06

good on you....x

robster1964

Julie, I hardly know what to say........

Babes I hope you can take the strength that you need from your family and friends.......... You need to...

No matter what you think, this will be having an effect on him............... Unless (and I know this from personal exsperience) he is a young 21 ish kid?

They seem to have a total different view on this world.....!!!! IMO!

All I can say chick is keep posting, venting your feelings, you will get loads of advice....take it or leave it. but you will be supported every step of the way.....

Thinking about you,

Robster xxx

robster1964

Guys, I have been in touch with SFH, tonight.

That girl is at the bottom of the pit at the moment, and to be honest, in her situation I would be too....

Kizzy and all you guys that have been posting links to feel good, music etc...... Quality!

What I have done is posted my facebook link........... I log on every day, and I truly believe, that either myself or my family, can send a positive message to any one that needs a bit of tlc........

Robster xxx

julie2710

Thanks Robster -no he's not a kid - 46 in Dec so should know better. If it is having an effect on him at all he's damn good at hiding it. He hasn't even apologised once - I asked him today if he had any regrets about what he's doing and he just said "no none" maybe he wouldn't say if he did?

Where do I find your facebook link post? sorry bit useless with this sort of thing!

Thanks again:o

robster1964

Julie, some people can't see the effect they are having on others....

I find that really sad........ although I really don't believe it.......

Somewhere deep inside, this will be affecting him,..... If he doesn't see it , his friends will start to mention it........

'46 in Dec' makes me think it is mid life crisis.......

It's hard babe. You don't know what allegedly you have done wrong....... My guess tho, is it's something to do with sex.....

Robster xxxx

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robster1964

Listen guys, I am going to hit the sack.... If anyone wants to friend request me on facebook, that's fine... We don't have to talk..... But I promise if we do, I will do my best to make you feel better..... Or I will make sure 1 of my wonderful friends or family do............

I am worrying so much, but I know if you widen your friendship circle, 1 day, you will find you are feeling a little bit better xxx

robster xxx

gettingbetter

sfh come on girlie you know you can do it

julie you have all my support and if i can help i will

gert glad your taking things slowly

am so glad we are all here to help each other
kas xx

TLF1970

Things no better today - found out my husband had been at her house since 9 last night and I stupidly spent all night worrying about where he was and whether he was all right.

Took a lot of courage to go around to her house. He stood in her front room whilst she was in the kitchen and told me that he did not want to be there and still wanted to be a family. When she came in the room he changed his tune and said he wanted her and no longer loved me. He then stood there and said nothing whilst I ranted about how I was going to keep a roof over our heads and all our debts whilst she told me I should have been earning more and not have spent so much. Who does she think she is. We have hardly been living the life of riley.

I told him to get our kids from my parents and explain to them what was happening in their lives and why daddy did not want to live at home anymore.

I found out later that he picked them up and less than 2 hours after ruining my life, introduced them to his girlfriend and showed them around his new house! They all then went off to the park for a picnic.

I am so angry with him. That hurts more than the affair. Talk about sticking the knifr in. Insensitive B.

Sorry for long saga but needed to get of my chest.

Going to solicitor tomorrow.

He has debt card to our joint account that all our bills are paid from. How do I stop him using it? Although we are in credit (just) there is a large OD facility I do not want him running up.