Marriage over don't know where to start

robster1964

sfh, the amount of challenges to your emotional & physical health, is seriously worrying me, at the moment......

There is nothing I can say that others haven't, except listen to the positive advice, pm me, or check me out on facebook, I will introduce you to genuine people that will help to pick you up from the depths of depair....

Babe u r serioiusly worrying me, I know u feel so alone. I just want u you to know that there is loads of peeps here that can help you out of it......
Please keep posting, & realise that freak you were in love with, is a changed person (for the moment, til he comes to his senses)

There is f***all you can do about it.....

Robster xxx

jay11_2

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

I agree with you bothxxxxxxx

time for me to be tougher now and take his money every month and have a good life for my son and I,she is one dirty dirty wh!!e and one day I will get my revenge ,not sure how etc but my day will come,him well he has lost the most precious thing in the world,his son!!!he will see him but my ds is not going to take his crap for ever
There has been other issues with my health etc and not wanting to put on a forum and hence why kizzy has been a rock for me,and when you go out to try and forget and last night well who needs enemies eh?

K tonight is the end for me ,Yes I love him so much but nah dirty scumbag can be our caretaker on house as still half his but that will be it and going to be strict rules of when he speaks to ds and he either likes it or lumps it.

Your revenge will be building a great life with a son who adores you and can't be !!sed with his dad hun. My dad did similar stuff when I was your lad's age and I can honestly say that whilst I adore my mum, (who built a great life and has been so much happier since they split many years ago,) I simply have no feelings for my dad. He's just a guy I once hated for what he did to her, and now feel a slight responsibility towards and keep in touch with now and then. I'd walk to hell and back for my lovely mam though! I'm sure your son will see what's been going on and what his dad is, kids aren't stupid.

scottishfreebiehunter

Jules sorry but what a complete !!!!!! ,I cannot believe how men act especially when you are pregnant and ready to give birth,I am gobsmacked I really am
You take care of you and the scumbags will wrot in hell

Buffythedebtslayer

julie2710 wrote: »

Feeling a bit odd today. OH has obviously been staying here for the last week - despite last weekends discovery. He came in last night, had his tea - god knows why I cooked for him? Then ran a bath and complained that his son needed to go in the bathroom to clean his teeth before bed - poor kid's only 2yrs 10mths!!!!:mad: Hardly spoke to his son or me at all. He went to bed straight after his bath.

This morning I thought I might get an extra 1/2 hour and that maybe the OH could spend some time with his son as he had ignored him last night. Don't know what was going on but little boy just kept coming into me crying and miserable. When I got up OH was doind his ironing as he said I had obviously left all his - think himself lucky I washed it!!!

Anyway he's said he's moving out next Saturday! I'm glad he'll be out the way as the atmosphere is really bad and son must pick up on it. Don't know whether I should be in the house or not when he's getting out - don't want him taking anything he shouldn't as wouldn't get it back!!??

I was sick all morning and still feeling a bit sick now. Seeing the cons in the morning to book in for c-section. Should be a couple of weeks.

Feeling awful!
Jules

Jules I hope to God you have some friends around you. What an awful awful awful scum bag.

I would stay there when he moves out, and make sure he doesn't take anything.

And make sure you have a good solicitor and take the !!!! hole for all you can.

xxx

julie2710

I can't believe he's turned into such a !!!!!!? 8 days ago I was oblivious to any problems happily expecting our next son in a couple of weeks - now look at me!!!!!

I sooooo want to be strong all the time and I know I should be eating and getting enouh sleep for the sake of the baby but that's easier said than done when you just throw up anything you put in your gob anyway.

On the up side - I looked up his tart last night on facebook and she's listed herself as single - so she obviously considers destroying my marriage as a serious relationship (not!!!!) she also put that she's desperately looking for a new job - shame:rotfl:

I've started telling friends and family - I'd already told mum, dad & bro - everyones been lost for words.

Glad I can let off some steam on here - we all need to stick together

julie2710

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

Jules I hope to God you have some friends around you. What an awful awful awful scum bag.

I would stay there when he moves out, and make sure he doesn't take anything.

And make sure you have a good solicitor and take the !!!! hole for all you can.

xxx

Thanks you're probably right - I can get my parents to look after my little boy - he'll like that, just don't know how I'll explain that Dad's gone when he gets back?

Then I'll have about a week to get myself and the house sorted before the birth!!

He's going to have to start talking sooner or later as I'll be in hospital for 3 days after a section - otherwise my parents will look after my son and don't think he'll have the balls to go round to theirs to see him.

scottishfreebiehunter

Jay what a lovely thing to say and glad you have stuck by youre mumxxxxxxx

Robster I am not sure where or what on earth I am meant to be doing every day but know thanks to all you guys I am getting there.

verysillyguy06

My heart goes out to you....x

what an awful banker....but sadly...in my profession this happens rather often..the man cant cope around those times....but he sounds like he does not deserve a family...sorry...u need to stay strong and keep in clos touch with friends and family...DONT COOK for him....or do anything else...u are pregnant...unbelievable...what a toss er....

robster1964

:T

jay11 wrote: »

Your revenge will be building a great life with a son who adores you and can't be !!sed with his dad hun. My dad did similar stuff when I was your lad's age and I can honestly say that whilst I adore my mum, (who built a great life and has been so much happier since they split many years ago,) I simply have no feelings for my dad. He's just a guy I once hated for what he did to her, and now feel a slight responsibility towards and keep in touch with now and then. I'd walk to hell and back for my lovely mam though! I'm sure your son will see what's been going on and what his dad is, kids aren't stupid.

:T Ain't that the truth...................
isd
The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world........

Don't know who said that, but to me, it's right....

Women make mistakes, acknowledge them, either try to put it right or move on.

This issue with ' what about the children' always comes up.........

Apart from chip, ............... I really don't know how this affects the men..........

What
i do know is that the women on here are spending a lot of time worrying about the affect on the kids

To me this is the last thing on the mens mind.

This is why it is doubly hard for women.......

I am rambling a bit again, but my loyalties and thoughts are always with the women..........

I guess I can imagine the turmoil u r going through...

I love that chip & a couple 0f other guys r posting....

Cos without them.... to tell u the truth........ I don't have too much respect for men ....

I am outta here, gotta work...

SFH if you want to check some of my crazy family, just let me know...

Robster xxx

julie2710

I know I shouldn't be cooking for him - just seemed a bit petty cooking for me then letting him do his own - plus I'll be picking up the electricity bill - I keep running round turning off lights he leaves on as it is. Also had a moan this afternoon as he kept leaving the back door wide open and it was bloody freezing and I didn't want to have to put the heating on.:mad:

Mum's coming to the hospital with me tomorrow. Hoping I'll feel better when I know what's happening.

Thanks for all your support why are there so many git's out there?