Marriage over don't know where to start

kizzykizzywizzy

Yes I do feel like phoning, but I WON'T this is getting really hard though!
I'd have thought he would've rung to speak to the kids today - but nothing

Buffythedebtslayer

I came to the conclusion the other day that distraction is the best way out of yucky feelings when you want them

What about going to the freebies board and signing up for free stuff? have you done your clicks?

xx

kizzykizzywizzy

Will get the kids something to eat, they had a late lunch & then I suppose I could clean the hamsters out.
Yippee life is so much fun!
I had a look on freebies, call gard thing looks good as SFH was getting a few silent calls & so have I!

Skint_Lynne

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Yes I do feel like phoning, but I WON'T this is getting really hard though!
I'd have thought he would've rung to speak to the kids today - but nothing

Keep the resolve going, you are doing really well, it all will get easier as time goes on, treat them mean to keep them keen!!!

SL x

lotties_mum

Kizzy, don't call him as it is probably what he is expecting, keep busy put your music on loud, play with the kids, let a few hours pass and you should feel better. It is easy to think everyone is playing happy families, but I bet not many people actually are. You'll feel so much stronger when you wake up tomorrow morning if you haven't called him and that much more in control. take care

lotties_mum

he probably hasn't rung to speak to the kids because he is sulking at strong Kizzy!!

kizzykizzywizzy

Thanks folks I'm really finding this hard.
The other day when Rikki had a go at me for ringing ( quite justified:o ) - I knew I shouldn't have & still did, SIL was eating, so didn't even get to speak to her!
The only good thing I can say about that time was i said no when she asked if I wanted to talk to DFS!
I don't want that feeling again, which is why I wont be ringing, doesn't make it any easier though

lotties_mum

When you feel really low and like phoning, write it down on a piece of paper and write what you did about the situation, then next time when you know you've been strong in a weak moment and you are feeling low refer to it and thinge will get easier.

lotties_mum

Also when you have had four or five strong times treat yourself to something even if it is only a bar of chocolate. It's like a star chart.

Buffythedebtslayer

lotties_mum wrote: »

Also when you have had four or five strong times treat yourself to something even if it is only a bar of chocolate. It's like a star chart.

that is a really good idea! hmmmm. going to nick that!!! xxxx