Marriage over don't know where to start

kizzykizzywizzy

Ellidee wrote: »

Kizzy I think the Heritage open days are NEXT weekend.

DOH!!
Dad & Nan wouldn't be able to walk around - Will see Sister in the week, she's all loved up, so don't think she'd want to be away from boyfriend - don't blame her
Don't want to visit Nana, last time I was there, I had to actually tell her off, which I felt bad about, she told the children "Your Daddy is a very naughty man & has been wicked to Mummy, You don't love him anymore do you?!! "
I was so shocked, I said you mustn't say things like that, of course they love him!
I'ts put me off going around there, I can't see my Dad either, he's just as useless & will put his foot in it & also I can't handle going around there just in case he's drunk.
Will be ok

Pollycat

SFH
I agree with Keeping Motivated, if your friend said she was always attracted to your ex, that as a really insensitive thing to say in the present circumstances.

Is she a really good friend?
Had she had a wee bit too much to drink when she got upset about the Kiwi rugby guy talking to you?

Skint_Lynne

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

Yes she has pollycat but all the stuff saying how she always was attracted to my oh has really got me down:rolleyes::eek: you just do not say that to people,well I wouldnt

anyway as you say time for me to start sorting my life out and getting to oz no more nights out for me for now as to much xxxxxxxx

Kizzy we will turn that corner one day for surexxxx

A bit of a dodgy friend methinks SFH, I would give her a wide berth from now on!!!

SL x

scottishfreebiehunter

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

OMG :eek: :eek: :eek: I didn't realise she said she was attracted to him!!! I thought you meant she was just telling you your Ex was handsome which is a different thing altogether. Obviously whatever she is going through she is so self absorbed she has not even registered the extent of your grief

KM i am crying and angry and called him to ask him about this,he helped out at local school where she worked ,though had no time to do anything etc and now does it really matter etc etc etc as always at home and what have you when he had affair he was away from home.
It is pathetic someone has said these things sad,broken up or not.

scottishfreebiehunter

Pollycat wrote: »

SFH
I agree with Keeping Motivated, if your friend said she was always attracted to your ex, that as a really insensitive thing to say in the present circumstances.

Is she a really good friend?
Had she had a wee bit too much to drink when she got upset about the Kiwi rugby guy talking to you?

Oh yes way to much to drink,our sons are friends and have been all through primary school,she has had a hard time with divorce recently met a new man and didnt work out,craves love etc

Pollycat

SFH
I'm sure nobody meant to suggest that your friend had anything going with your ex.

To be honest, she sounds messed up in her head because of what she's been through.
But, what about what YOU are going through right now?
To me, friends are for both the good and bad times.
If she can't put her own troubles to one side for a while without giving you grief about one guy chatting to you, maybe she's not the right person for you to be going for a night out with at this time in your life.
Or maybe her sadness and the drink just made a bad mix.

Did you let her know just how much what she'd said had upset you?

kizzykizzywizzy

Well i know what DFS will be doing today Belgian Grand Prix on!!
We have always been F1 fans, something else we won't be sharing together

verysillyguy06

I just wish I had been strong enough to follow the original advice I was given at the start & I would've been a lot further along by now, I just couldn't at the time as my love for him was so much.
Take Care
Glad you had a good chat Gert, & also VERY glad you don't know details, as I've said before, I think this killed any chance of my Sister getting back with her husband as things just kept popping up in her mind that he'd said they'd done - yuk


I believe that is a very good point..strangely enough however...if you read books about this the advice is often to ensure that the'wronged' person asks as many questions as they would want to feel that they have covered all...so there must be some merit to it...i know as a bloke it is the last i wanted to talk about...my difficulties with my dw did not involve any physical wrong doing but some things on the internet I should never have done...I will spend the rest of my life to get this out hers and my memory...as a bloke i felt we.. i have stopped so lets not talk about it too much...but it needed some addressing...some details...but i believe now that this very individual but possibly more on the side of not too many details...however...it is important to know that both can work/or not and it depends on the people involved...however the 'wrong doer' has to be prepared to go along with what the 'wronged' person needs...after all...he/she has not given the other person any choice in the first place to be in this mess.....so

gert...see how this feels for you in a few days time....

kiss...dreams can mean anything you want them to...hope they dont upset you too much...

To the new poster...I would agree...it is very 'common' for us blokes to talk about suicides in thoses situations...has he used this before? I dont belittle anyone feeling like this and dont say that it is always a tactic...but it often avoids any further discussion...it stops talking in its tracks...which is often subconsciously the goal for blokes...talking is painful we often cant find the right words...however..your description sound that it is not....very serious...but i am just a voice on the internet...you know him better...but he has a new 'flame' and he loves his kids...unlikely to lead to too silly things...but...listen to your gut instinct not me...


good luck to all of you...and i am sorry your men are such ....(scum)

scottishfreebiehunter

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Well i know what DFS will be doing today Belgian Grand Prix on!!
We have always been F1 fans, something else we won't be sharing together

same here so alike K or lives they really are.
Got the a s s h !!! on the phone and he laughed when I told him what that women said,he is still drunk:rolleyes::eek:

kizzykizzywizzy

SFH I wouldn't have told him, he probably got a buzz to his ego from that!

I would have said she always thought you had a small d!ck & of course now we are not together, I told her she was absolutely right:rotfl: :rotfl: