Marriage over don't know where to start

Keeping_Motivated

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Hi Gert
Taking kids to kids club cinema later, only £1.50 per child free adult.
Still haven't spoken to DFS, nor will I be.
I was just telling SFH, I'm not bothering with him anymore, I made the decision last night really after seeing all the other posts about so many other cheats, also all the ones about Sex & intimacy which just made me feel sick, I just thought I'll never ever feel the same about him again. The man I loved has gone for good.
I don't want to be his friend, I've got friends & they would never treat me like he did - though I won't be his enemy, as I think I'm past that now & need to be ok for the kids.
Funny thing is, now I'm feeling this way, I had a dream about us getting back together!!! Perhaps dreams are the opposite to how you feel.
Hoping I don't break this resolve, because if I do I will be cheating too, but only myself!
Different for you Gert, it was a brief fling - DFS was with moose for months - he's so going to regret this, but not my problem

Kizzy :A :A :A

I want you to read this (your) post every time you feel weak. It brought a tear to my eyes but in a good way.You have had to go through a lot of emotions to get here and you have many more to go through but believe me you are going in the right direction and I believe when you get through this whatever the outcome you will have nothing to reproach yourself for. X

Skint_Lynne

I am being really thick here Kizzy,

How come he is lying about going to his mum's when the phone call came from there? Did you call them back to discover that he hadn't been there at all?

SL x

Keeping_Motivated

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Sorry about your family SL
DFS is dirty filthy scumbag! because someone on here said EX was too respectful a name for him!
I'm so sure he said " he was going to his Mum's " ! that's really annoyed me - still lying, I'd have thought he'd done enough of that!

What difference does it make if he is lying really? Maybe he is playing games for one reason or another but that also shows he is definately not happy or why play games? Although could his mum have rang when you went out and it wasn't his call after all?

Skint_Lynne

Skint_Lynne wrote: »

I am being really thick here Kizzy,

How come he is lying about going to his mum's when the phone call came from there? Did you call them back to discover that he hadn't been there at all?

SL x

Scrub that last one,

The penny has dropped, he said he was going there, meaning that he hadn't set out yet!!!

If I had a brain I would be dangerous!!!:D

basketcase

Skint_Lynne wrote: »

I am being really thick here Kizzy,

How come he is lying about going to his mum's when the phone call came from there? Did you call them back to discover that he hadn't been there at all?

SL x

Think it was because he said he "was going" (ie pretending he was somewhere else) rather than that he was already there. So he still wasn't telling things how they were.

Could be a mistake, could be that he's a pathological liar and doesn't even know he's doing it any more. That's the problem with people who've told a strign of untruths - you never really know...

basketcase

Oops! We crossed in the ether!

cupid_s

Kizzy I'm glad you're feeling like this. He is definately going to be the one who loses out in the end. Not only cos he'll not get to see his children much but you sound lovely and gorgeous to boot (though I do feel like I want to hit you just a little bit when you talk about not fitting into your size 8s!).

I agree totally with what you say about not being friends. Friends would not do what he did to you. He really is a DFS.

Stay strong!

Skint_Lynne

basketcase wrote: »

Oops! We crossed in the ether!

No probs basketcase,

It serves me right for being so thick!!:p

SL x

kizzykizzywizzy

You got it SL;)

I just thought it was a really strange thing to lie about, but as that's whta he's been doing for months, I suppose he's got used to it.
I hope his Dad gave him what for, he's really upset with him, but is very ill, so DFS has put a real strain on his parents, who are in thier late 70's

Skint_Lynne

It's a big help when the in laws are on your side,

The moose would probably never be welcome in their home, as the old school do not approve of 'goings on'.

It's funny as well cause even though you are grown up, you still feel really bad if you get a telling off from your parents, I think that's true for everyone!! I wonder if his dad told him to sit on the naughty step, he deserves it!!!

SL x