Marriage over don't know where to start

scottishfreebiehunter

WAIT FOR THIS ONE:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

My oh taking a day and a half off work to go drinking with the w h o r e and this is more important than seeing youre son,he replied he is at youre dads(fair enough) my reply but you will not see him all next week it could have been better used.
He is not a drinker and would never waste hols for booze :rotfl:


WHAT A T O S S E R AND YES I would have taken him back but after this today,final he can go and waste his life what a looser,and then my ds told him that he is acting like a love sick puppy and his life will not be ruined for him
Onwards and upwards from today still have sad days but the final nail in the coffin so to speak

Gert surely you are better with him and kids if you are starting to get back togetherxxxxxxxxxxx


Kizzy (((((((((()xxxxxxx

Just read what you have put indeed there lose and them that will not see there kids very much so they can go and burn in hell,sorry but how i feel today lol

verysillyguy06

I have to agree with your girls...the men are very stupid indeed and only thought with their lower member...i am sorry for you all...but there are some good guys out there....

Gert just tell your mum to back off and do what you planed...its your life...

jay11_2

verysillyguy06 wrote: »

I have to agree with your girls...the men are very stupid indeed and only thought with their lower member...i am sorry for you all...but there are some good guys out there....

Gert just tell your mum to back off and do what you planed...its your life...

Couldn't agree more, some C R A P P Y men and women around, but most are good. But then who starts a thread saying 'my OH is fab'? It's like the news, we only hear about what goes wrong.

Gert, take no notice--your mum's giving you advice, whether you take it or leave it is your choice hun. NO ONE understands your life and what's right for you better than you do. I've always thought that I have the right to do what I think is right--since it's me, not the people giving advice, who has to live with the consequences!

I'm so happy for you that it seems to be working out--fingers crossed, eh!

kizzykizzywizzy

Hi Gert, why wouldn't you want to be around that's a really funny thing for your Mum to say imho.
I know you have probably been asking your Mum & other family & friends for support, but now they need to back off & let you your husband & kiddies get on with it, without interfering (sp)
Thank your Mum for her advise & just say I've got to do what I think is right.

Just spoken to SFH - she is getting stronger by the day :T & will not be standing for any carp!!

As for me, I feel OK have watched a bit of TV, haven't really watched any for a while as although it's on I can never concentrate, so that was positive. I was OK at the Cinema, where as last time I felt ill, ( stomach flipping over ) the whole time I was there, I think I knew I was right about the cheating & in fact that was the day I found out for sure!
Going to have a relaxing evening, will watch X factor & have a glass of wine & feel happy.
After all, my positives are
My lovely children
My wonderful friends & family
I've got a really nice house - with loads of wardrobe space now!!:D
I'm slim ( perhaps a bit too slim, but I'm sure I'll enjoy "doing lunch" enough to put some on! )
Also I've started listening to music again, I listen in the car, but it's been really nice listening whilst chatting away with my best buddies ( you, if you didn't know;) )
Also I have my pride & dignity
So quite a lot when it comes down to it
Thinking of starting dancing lessons too!! but will need to get DFS to look after the kids - it will be Latin & Ballroom, want to just do Latin really, I went with a friend years ago, but I never felt like I wanted to be apart from DFS, so never enjoyed it. SIL - not the one he's living with does belly dancing - she teaches it too, doesn't live near though, I tried a few moves with her & she said I was quite good, so that's another option, I'm sure they do courses for that too. I really don't want to do anything that strains my brain too much as I'm not really very clever ( common sense ok, except where dfs is concerned ) & I don't want extra stress, just want to have fun!

gerturdeanna

Great list of postitives Kizzy - go girl
SFH- Its your decision, don't forget that!!
I texted my mum and told her I was staying here tonight but that I would like to spend the day with them tomorrow if thats okay, that now mine and OH's shields are down and now for me is the best time for us to talk when we aren't lying anymore to each other, that I did think about what she said but that this feels right for me and so thats what I have got to do.
Hope she understands where I am coming from - do think that maybe I have got too close to them etc and now I've got to start getting closer to me, OH and my kids. I'm living my life, not re-living theirs.

kizzykizzywizzy

Hi Gert
Good for you, only you can decide what's best.
Obviously, you can't say thanks for your help Mum now bog off!!:p but they do need to let you live your life.
Will keep thinking of positives, as am having to, it's still hard, but will get there.....

scottishfreebiehunter

Listened to kizzy and I then went to have bath as going out for a meal tonight with friend tonight ,did not want to but kizzy said I had to so going:D:rolleyes:
Had a bath in lush bath bomb and did not want to come out,anyway then texted person I was married to to advise him to text or call his ds before he decided to get to drunk as I did not want him upset,nothing else thats all it said lol then he did it and texted me back I replied thank you,and that will be all texts until Monday or when I have to discuss ds with him.

Keeping_Motivated

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

Listened to kizzy and I then went to have bath as going out for a meal tonight with friend tonight ,did not want to but kizzy said I had to so going:D:rolleyes:
Had a bath in lush bath bomb and did not want to come out,anyway then texted person I was married to to advise him to text or call his ds before he decided to get to drunk as I did not want him upset,nothing else thats all it said lol then he did it and texted me back I replied thank you,and that will be all texts until Monday or when I have to discuss ds with him.

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scottishfreebiehunter

Still not sure about going out though will go have meal few drinks then come home.


I sound so boring:rotfl:

Keeping_Motivated

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

Still not sure about going out though will go have meal few drinks then come home.


I sound so boring:rotfl:

Sounds like a nice evening to me