Marriage over don't know where to start

Keeping_Motivated

gerturdeanna wrote: »

I am feeling a little guilty that it seems to be going ok with me at the mo and everyone else is still going thorugh !!!!!!!!
It took him 2 hours tonight before he kissed me!! But the kids were all over him, understandly!!!and he did say he had been wanting to do it ever since he walked through the door!! We are trying not to be 'kissy, kissy' in front of the kids cos it will only confuse them more, bloody hell I'm confused enough!!
I'm finding it a bit hard to 'go slow' when all we want to do is pounce on each other again like we did when we first got together. I know that was lacking in our relationship before all this, but so was the talking and general intimacy stuff. And yes I want to take it slow cos I don't want him living back here yet but I don't really understand his reasoning to take it slow. That is something we have to discuss tonight along with why did it happen - hence the reasoning for me to buy a bottle of wine and a bottle of coke(to go with the Bacardi!!), think I may need it whilst I'm hearing and giving a few home truths. Hence the reasoning why I wanted to do this tonight and not in the future, cos this way I suppose if we don't like what we hear/say, its still not too late to walkaway again - does that make sense?!?!

Oh and don't forget girlies, seen as we are karaoking again: the old classic from Gloria Gaynor : http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=Xv6lHwWwO3w

Gert sounds like a sensible plan to me to get everything out in the open and not just bury it coz its painful to talk about it. Hope it goes well, have a good evening.

KM x

gerturdeanna

See this is why I said I had to do it tonight - maybe I didn't explain well enough to my mum before. I need to know why the sudden turnaround etc etc. And like I said, I'd rather find out now then we can either work on it or not. I'm not stupid, but I do still love him, for my sins!!

kizzykizzywizzy

Gonna get along without you :whistle: :whistle: :dance: :dance: :whistle: :whistle: _party_ _party_ :laugh: :T :beer: :j :rotfl: now
Great song I know this one, but didn't know who sung it

gerturdeanna

Oh and this thread http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=994457 the husband cheated - what next thread has now been moved to the Moneysaving Arms - wonder how long until this one is - hope we all continue to post if it does!!

kizzykizzywizzy

gerturdeanna wrote: »

See this is why I said I had to do it tonight - maybe I didn't explain well enough to my mum before. I need to know why the sudden turnaround etc etc. And like I said, I'd rather find out now then we can either work on it or not. I'm not stupid, but I do still love him, for my sins!!

Yes, you really do need to know, why he suddenly realised what a berk he was.
I would be so shocked if DFS changed his mind, I'd think, has he been dumped? etc
Also I don't honestly know what I'd say or do, as much as I did want to get back before, I don't really want the life I had back, not all of it anyway, yes I was happy then, but now I'm living a bit more & not just sitting in watching TV & pleasing him all the time, I quite like those aspects of my "new" life.

kizzykizzywizzy

gerturdeanna wrote: »

Oh and this thread http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=994457 the husband cheated - what next thread has now been moved to the Moneysaving Arms - wonder how long until this one is - hope we all continue to post if it does!!

Relationships board seem to move things pretty swiftly, well we will know where to go - IF THIS DOES GET MOVED PLEASE GIVE US LOTS OF NOTICE, US & MANY OTHERS TO COME NEED THIS THREAD & THE AMOUNT OF RESPONSES IT GETS, ESPECIALLY WHEN WE ARE LONELY:o
sorry to shout!

scottishfreebiehunter

Fightining with hair straightners grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr


have a good night back soonxxxxxxxxxx

kizzykizzywizzy

What time is Hubby around Gert ??

kizzykizzywizzy

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

Fightining with hair straightners grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr


have a good night back soonxxxxxxxxxx

Makes a change from fighting with hubby though:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

gerturdeanna

He's been here since 3 - I've kept out of his and the kids way by tidying my room, having a bath, reading a bit of my book and comping of course!! Got called down for my tea about 5ish which is when he kissed me and I've been on the computer since after my tea cos its his time with the kids so whenever they have asked me something I've directed them to him!! They are of to bed soon - which he is doing - so then its talk time - I'll keep you all updated don't worry!! But not any rude bits - wouldn't want to rub it in!! haha